We want to try hotwifing

[JoshDetroit]

If that's what she wanted she could have that already. I must have many other qualities that override a big cock.
I am not a cuckold. I'm not into humiliation. Id rather be single than be a pussy cleaner. I would fuck her off if that is what she wanted.

Do not let the comments like this get to you man. They are intimidating and totally unfounded. I have a couple of good female friends who were in a relationship with some hung guys and they told me they would never go back (to dating a hung guy again). At first, they said, it was interesting, but after a while, sex turned into nothing else but pain. They settled with avg size guys, and said they couldn't be happier.

You are lucky in a way. That you are comfortable seeing your partner with someone else. You are comfortable with this fetish.
For me, even though it's a turn on for me, it is also a mental wrestle. Doesn't seem to sit right with me. I really wish this wasn't a turn on for me.

Truth be told, it was on my wish list, but I can't say how would it feel to see her with another man and I will never know since we are divorced now. However, I can't say that I did not find the thought of it exciting. I've heard that so many men have this "fetish" but are afraid to admit. It does not matter whether the guy is hung or not, just the adrenalin running from seeing your partner being penetrated by another man. Not really sure what it is. There must be some scientific/psychological explanation behind it. I would go that far to say that I wouldn't not have been "terrified" of my partner enjoting a big cock, but the avg one. Again, most women want to have that experience in their life time, but whether that is something that makes the sex great every time, I doubt. There are so many other components to it. Our brains are our biggest arousal organs, and that is scientifically proven, however, as it is often the case, our brains can play games with us, including the enigma, or your desire to see your partner penetrated by a guy with a bigger dick. There is a lot of psychology behind it, rather than just a physical component of seeing, or rather thinking, your partner may enjoy a guy with a bigger dick. We all know, that is not the truth. But let me ask you this, if you were to go through that experience, have a hung guy have sex with your partner, and with you there, watching, you realize in the middle of it, that she is not loving it. Not enjoying. How would that make you feel? We are all operating here under the assumption that bigger is better, but we all know that is not necessarily the truth. Woild you feel like, omg, I just let a bull fuck my partner thinking it would be a great experience for both, but it turned out completely different.

 

[Kristin]

Hi

My girlfriend and I would like to try hotwifing/girlfriending.

I have been turned on by the thought of hotwifing before my current partner but have never approached ex's with this.

I have discussed this with my new partner and she is ok with it.

I have 1 problem. I am sometimes a jealous person.

Sometimes the whole idea on watching her with someone else turns me on. Then other times it makes me sad and anxious. I can't help that it turns me on.

I am of average size. This is one of my issues. I feel if I had a big cock I would be 100% ok with the whole hotwife lifestyle. I suppose it's a fear of her meeting someone she likes mentally and physically (Big cock) then leaving me.

She is very attractive. Any guy would love to be with her. She used to date a few young guys (15 years younger) with large cocks before me. This can make me a little down and depressed sometimes then other times it turns me on. I can't work it out. I wish I really didn't have this fetish.

I'm not a cuckold. I'm not into humiliation. I don't want to caged etc.



Now. Does anyone on this forum have/had similar feelings? Have they overcome them and are now happy in the lifestyle? How did you deal with jealousy? Any kind encouraging thoughts, ideas would be much appreciated.

Cheers Ollie.

U have a problem

 

[Hwcouple702]

Hi

My girlfriend and I would like to try hotwifing/girlfriending.

I have been turned on by the thought of hotwifing before my current partner but have never approached ex's with this.

I have discussed this with my new partner and she is ok with it.

I have 1 problem. I am sometimes a jealous person.

Sometimes the whole idea on watching her with someone else turns me on. Then other times it makes me sad and anxious. I can't help that it turns me on.

I am of average size. This is one of my issues. I feel if I had a big cock I would be 100% ok with the whole hotwife lifestyle. I suppose it's a fear of her meeting someone she likes mentally and physically (Big cock) then leaving me.

She is very attractive. Any guy would love to be with her. She used to date a few young guys (15 years younger) with large cocks before me. This can make me a little down and depressed sometimes then other times it turns me on. I can't work it out. I wish I really didn't have this fetish.

I'm not a cuckold. I'm not into humiliation. I don't want to caged etc.



Now. Does anyone on this forum have/had similar feelings? Have they overcome them and are now happy in the lifestyle? How did you deal with jealousy? Any kind encouraging thoughts, ideas would be much appreciated.

Cheers Ollie.

You've been a member here long enough to know my feelings on this. You "hotwife" with a "wife". A girlfriend, especially a very attractive, sexy one, has no need to stick around with a boyfriend if something better comes along. When "boyfriends" suggest and encourage this then they had better keep in mind what it is they are asking their girlfriend to do. A girlfriend my easily believe that this is some sort of "test" and that you either don't care enough about her or she might believe the opposite in case she goes along. Plenty of stories on here about wives who tell their husbands that they "aren't good enough" for them, etc.

I had the opportunity as a girlfriend to do all sorts of things, but my desire to BE MARRIED TO MY future husband was too strong to engage in overt sex with other guys. I had the same issues in that I wanted to be married more than I wanted to explore "the lifestyle". I knew I wasn't going to be "faithful" in the traditional sense as a wife and I told my husband that on our wedding day. In fact, I proved it to him, quite by accident. That's a story for another time. In fairness, I did "cheat" on my boyfriend with a couple of ex boyfriends during our engagement. I didn't tell him about it at the time but he wouldn't have minded (most likely) as he encouraged me to explore. Another story with those two and my wedding day has been posted, I believe.

The point here is that if either partner is not TOTALLY COMMITTED then this can end a relationship. It can possibly end a relationship even if the two of you are committed. It's best to be careful. It sounds like you've had this desire with other significant others too, so it's in your mind. Make sure you are on the same page with your girlfriend and DO NOT pass up a great marriage with a great partner so you can satisfy these sexual desires.

 

[keylife022]

Hi

My girlfriend and I would like to try hotwifing/girlfriending.

I have been turned on by the thought of hotwifing before my current partner but have never approached ex's with this.

I have discussed this with my new partner and she is ok with it.

I have 1 problem. I am sometimes a jealous person.

Sometimes the whole idea on watching her with someone else turns me on. Then other times it makes me sad and anxious. I can't help that it turns me on.

I am of average size. This is one of my issues. I feel if I had a big cock I would be 100% ok with the whole hotwife lifestyle. I suppose it's a fear of her meeting someone she likes mentally and physically (Big cock) then leaving me.

She is very attractive. Any guy would love to be with her. She used to date a few young guys (15 years younger) with large cocks before me. This can make me a little down and depressed sometimes then other times it turns me on. I can't work it out. I wish I really didn't have this fetish.

I'm not a cuckold. I'm not into humiliation. I don't want to caged etc.



Now. Does anyone on this forum have/had similar feelings? Have they overcome them and are now happy in the lifestyle? How did you deal with jealousy? Any kind encouraging thoughts, ideas would be much appreciated.

Cheers Ollie.

PM me and let’s chat

 

[Rajesh Krishna]

First, you two totally need to have a completely open and honest discussion about your feelings. You said you've discussed it, and she is ok with it, but what have you discussed? Does she know about your worries and concerns? Because she should. I can tell you from personal experience, as into as she seems to be, it is just as scary and nerve-wracking for the woman as it is for the guy when you first get into this lifestyle. I think you guys really need to talk a lot more first.

The other thing I wanted to say, which is why I quoted you, is that you need to make sure that sex with you is different than it is when she is with a bull. I can't tell you how to do that, that is something the two of you need to figure out. When my husband and I are together it is totally different than when I'm with a bull. I'm not going to elaborate how, because it's very personal to me, but I think every couple in this lifestyle needs to find and establish that difference. The bulls I ...... with satisfy me in ways my husband can't, but he satisfies me in other ways that they can't. That's my opinion anyway.

Nailed

 

[KristieKream]

I read your intro, and a couple of things came to mind.
1. You've mentioned a couple of times that you don't want to be a cuck. Trust me, I guarantee you
that she doesn't want a cuck boyfriend, either. So just focus on being a more dominant stag.

2. I've heard tons of men logically assume that since the bull has a bigger cock, the wife or girlfriend will leave their partner for the guy with the big cock. But think about it; she already has you AND the guy with the big cock. What would she have to gain by getting rid of the guy that loves her and cares for her? She can have great sex with both of you.

3. If you decide to share your girlfriend, just don't pick guys with bigger dicks. You can even pick a guy smaller than you. She will still be getting that excitement she had in her single days.

 

[Rajesh Krishna]

I read your intro, and a couple of things came to mind.
1. You've mentioned a couple of times that you don't want to be a cuck. Trust me, I guarantee you
that she doesn't want a cuck boyfriend, either. So just focus on being a more dominant stag.

2. I've heard tons of men logically assume that since the bull has a bigger cock, the wife or girlfriend will leave their partner for the guy with the big cock. But think about it; she already has you AND the guy with the big cock. What would she have to gain by getting rid of the guy that loves her and cares for her? She can have great sex with both of you.

3. If you decide to share your girlfriend, just don't pick guys with bigger dicks. You can even pick a guy smaller than you. She will still be getting that excitement she had in her single days.

👌

 

[Cathy]

👌

once she starts hotwifing she will be in total control, if she wants you to become a cuck hubby you will be eating other guys cum from her freshly fucked pussy, its not only what she wants once she finds the right well hung guy she will only allow you to do whatever he says to her, that's how it works most times

 

[Rajesh Krishna]

once she starts hotwifing she will be in total control, if she wants you to become a cuck hubby you will be eating other guys cum from her freshly fucked pussy, its not only what she wants once she finds the right well hung guy she will only allow you to do whatever he says to her, that's how it works most times

Yes Cathy, that's what real cuck husband do for his wife 😉 and I am really good cuck hubby too..

 

[wormwood]

For the OP, it doesn't sound like you're ready for this at all until you can wrap your head around your issues. Once she's gone through with the deed then it's too late to stuff the genie back into the bottle.
That said; If she's already had big cocked, younger lovers, is attractive and has her choice in men and has chosen you to be her partner, then I wuld think that you are bringing more to the table than you give yourself credit for. Until you get a handle on your insecurities you won't enjoy this lifestyle unless you get off on the "angst" aspect of it.
The two of you are already openly discussing this, so having another conversation about expectations and concerns shouldn't be all that difficult. Let her know how you feel and maybe she can relieve your anxiety. Once you feel secure in your relationship the next steps shoulld be easier.
Good luck.

 

[Nobook]

I read your intro, and a couple of things came to mind.
1. You've mentioned a couple of times that you don't want to be a cuck. Trust me, I guarantee you
that she doesn't want a cuck boyfriend, either. So just focus on being a more dominant stag.

2. I've heard tons of men logically assume that since the bull has a bigger cock, the wife or girlfriend will leave their partner for the guy with the big cock. But think about it; she already has you AND the guy with the big cock. What would she have to gain by getting rid of the guy that loves her and cares for her? She can have great sex with both of you.

3. If you decide to share your girlfriend, just don't pick guys with bigger dicks. You can even pick a guy smaller than you. She will still be getting that excitement she had in her single days.

Well said…….wish you where mine. Cheers

 

[Alex84]

Hi

My girlfriend and I would like to try hotwifing/girlfriending.

I have been turned on by the thought of hotwifing before my current partner but have never approached ex's with this.

I have discussed this with my new partner and she is ok with it.

I have 1 problem. I am sometimes a jealous person.

Sometimes the whole idea on watching her with someone else turns me on. Then other times it makes me sad and anxious. I can't help that it turns me on.

I am of average size. This is one of my issues. I feel if I had a big cock I would be 100% ok with the whole hotwife lifestyle. I suppose it's a fear of her meeting someone she likes mentally and physically (Big cock) then leaving me.

She is very attractive. Any guy would love to be with her. She used to date a few young guys (15 years younger) with large cocks before me. This can make me a little down and depressed sometimes then other times it turns me on. I can't work it out. I wish I really didn't have this fetish.

I'm not a cuckold. I'm not into humiliation. I don't want to caged etc.



Now. Does anyone on this forum have/had similar feelings? Have they overcome them and are now happy in the lifestyle? How did you deal with jealousy? Any kind encouraging thoughts, ideas would be much appreciated.

Cheers Ollie.

Hi Ollie,
The most important thing (and you are doing it) is - Good communication.
My experience with couples allows me to tell you that your mixed feelings are more the norm, especially with those new to or early with the lifestyle.
As the other guy, let me assure you that the last thing I want is an attachment with the wife or girlfriend.
You just have to separate - love, sex, intimacy.
A night of sex with another man is not going to sway her unless you have a very poor relationship and I can say with certainty that she won't be leaving you because of his wit or cock size.
I don't do the cuckold thing, I began with being the other m in the mfm then discovered hotwifing or wife sharing.
The husbands or boyfriends seem to get off by witnessing her pleasure, some have said it's like watching the best porn ever!
That is also one of the reasons a well hung guy is valued, the visual factor.
I could share a lot more but I found your post brave and honest and the right thing to tell you is this - Where you are at now, how you are feeling about the reality of it, I would strongly advise that you don't do it.
It could honestly ruin and end your relationship. Even if you could get past the night, those things you expressed in your post would eat away at you!
Finally, if you are going to entertain moving forward, I repeat that the most IMPORTANT thing you both do is communicate really well, before during and after.
Hopefully this helps you,
Alex.

 

[WiseOld]

Hi

My girlfriend and I would like to try hotwifing/girlfriending.

I have been turned on by the thought of hotwifing before my current partner but have never approached ex's with this.

I have discussed this with my new partner and she is ok with it.

I have 1 problem. I am sometimes a jealous person.

The crazy workaround to jealousy I came up with was to make her promise not to hold anything back—paradoxically enough. I told my first wife and later girlfriends that she had to know that I expected to her fuck in earnest, holding nothing back, giving her new lover everything she could offer, including her orgasms. Above all she wasn’t to play the submissive that just lies on her back and lets things happen to her vagina. The other man would be our guest and, as such, he deserved royal treatment, such as dressing as seductively as she could, trimming her pussy hairs around her opening, asking how she could make it better for him, thanking him for giving her such a hard cock, making sure to lick his cock clean after he has cums. This way, if she seemed overly pleased or too captured by his charms, she was only following my orders.

 

[Goin22deep09]

Hi

My girlfriend and I would like to try hotwifing/girlfriending.

I have been turned on by the thought of hotwifing before my current partner but have never approached ex's with this.

I have discussed this with my new partner and she is ok with it.

I have 1 problem. I am sometimes a jealous person.

Sometimes the whole idea on watching her with someone else turns me on. Then other times it makes me sad and anxious. I can't help that it turns me on.

I am of average size. This is one of my issues. I feel if I had a big cock I would be 100% ok with the whole hotwife lifestyle. I suppose it's a fear of her meeting someone she likes mentally and physically (Big cock) then leaving me.

She is very attractive. Any guy would love to be with her. She used to date a few young guys (15 years younger) with large cocks before me. This can make me a little down and depressed sometimes then other times it turns me on. I can't work it out. I wish I really didn't have this fetish.

I'm not a cuckold. I'm not into humiliation. I don't want to caged etc.



Now. Does anyone on this forum have/had similar feelings? Have they overcome them and are now happy in the lifestyle? How did you deal with jealousy? Any kind encouraging thoughts, ideas would be much appreciated.

Cheers Ollie.

 

[shymalea]

honesty&respect&trust with loving each other i what you need,because there are a lot of men,with totally no respect for women,they just want to have sex for their own pleasure and you also must talk very honest to each other after every experience,what did you feel,was it pleasant,would you wanted to go further ,a bit more perverted,but affraid to tell to wife or hubby,if you do this it,s gonna help a lot,personally my wife asked me on our first citytrip going to barcelona ,we sat outside a pub,it was a bit chilly,windy,so she was dressed in black thigh highs,short skirt coming to midthigh and high heel sandals with anclestraps,most of the people in the pub were locals,older,and not used to see a sexy woman in in their local,so she had a lot of vieers,looking to her legs and cleavage,back at the hotel she asked if i was not mad at her,teasing me and the other men with her slutty behaviour,i answered i really loved it,became horny and hard in my pants,but i didn,t said something because i was affraid for reaction from her if i told i want her to tease&flirt with other men,we were just 6 months together,after this we told everything to each other and was the start of something really naughty

 

[shymalea]

You've been a member here long enough to know my feelings on this. You "hotwife" with a "wife". A girlfriend, especially a very attractive, sexy one, has no need to stick around with a boyfriend if something better comes along. When "boyfriends" suggest and encourage this then they had better keep in mind what it is they are asking their girlfriend to do. A girlfriend my easily believe that this is some sort of "test" and that you either don't care enough about her or she might believe the opposite in case she goes along. Plenty of stories on here about wives who tell their husbands that they "aren't good enough" for them, etc.

I had the opportunity as a girlfriend to do all sorts of things, but my desire to BE MARRIED TO MY future husband was too strong to engage in overt sex with other guys. I had the same issues in that I wanted to be married more than I wanted to explore "the lifestyle". I knew I wasn't going to be "faithful" in the traditional sense as a wife and I told my husband that on our wedding day. In fact, I proved it to him, quite by accident. That's a story for another time. In fairness, I did "cheat" on my boyfriend with a couple of ex boyfriends during our engagement. I didn't tell him about it at the time but he wouldn't have minded (most likely) as he encouraged me to explore. Another story with those two and my wedding day has been posted, I believe.

The point here is that if either partner is not TOTALLY COMMITTED then this can end a relationship. It can possibly end a relationship even if the two of you are committed. It's best to be careful. It sounds like you've had this desire with other significant others too, so it's in your mind. Make sure you are on the same page with your girlfriend and DO NOT pass up a great marriage with a great partner so you can satisfy these sexual desires.

so true,many relationships ended because of jealousy,no respect for each other worries about the experiences or wishes/fantasies you wanted to do,but i don,t want to be to negative,just know that not every date or something else is gonna be OMG it was fantastic,never felt this before OMG WAAAW,lol-sometimes it goes like that,but sometimes also OMG never again.If you,re so in love and connected to each other then you gonna be together for another50yrs or more,otherwise....

 

[Wrxwrxqout]

Do not let the comments like this get to you man. They are intimidating and totally unfounded. I have a couple of good female friends who were in a relationship with some hung guys and they told me they would never go back (to dating a hung guy again). At first, they said, it was interesting, but after a while, sex turned into nothing else but pain. They settled with avg size guys, and said they couldn't be happier.

Truth be told, it was on my wish list, but I can't say how would it feel to see her with another man and I will never know since we are divorced now. However, I can't say that I did not find the thought of it exciting. I've heard that so many men have this "fetish" but are afraid to admit. It does not matter whether the guy is hung or not, just the adrenalin running from seeing your partner being penetrated by another man. Not really sure what it is. There must be some scientific/psychological explanation behind it. I would go that far to say that I wouldn't not have been "terrified" of my partner enjoting a big cock, but the avg one. Again, most women want to have that experience in their life time, but whether that is something that makes the sex great every time, I doubt. There are so many other components to it. Our brains are our biggest arousal organs, and that is scientifically proven, however, as it is often the case, our brains can play games with us, including the enigma, or your desire to see your partner penetrated by a guy with a bigger dick. There is a lot of psychology behind it, rather than just a physical component of seeing, or rather thinking, your partner may enjoy a guy with a bigger dick. We all know, that is not the truth. But let me ask you this, if you were to go through that experience, have a hung guy have sex with your partner, and with you there, watching, you realize in the middle of it, that she is not loving it. Not enjoying. How would that make you feel? We are all operating here under the assumption that bigger is better, but we all know that is not necessarily the truth. Woild you feel like, omg, I just let a bull fuck my partner thinking it would be a great experience for both, but it turned out completely different.

Hi Josh. Thank you for taking the time to respond to my questions. Sorry I didn't respond to this last year. I can't remember reading back then. Good question. I really didn't think she would have a problem enjoying a large guy. In more recent times I have seen how accommodating she can be and enjoy it. I mean with toys.
As an update on our journey. We still have not taken the step of an MFM yet. We have been in a dating app searching. We have met a guy twice now. My GF has decided that she is not attracted to him now so he won't be a potential play partner.
I have been coming around the reality that she will playing with someone of a large size one day and I'm starting to be ok with it.
So we are getting closer to going through with it. We have some met up drinks penciled in for the new year. So we will see what happens. Happy new year mate.

 

[Wrxwrxqout]

You've been a member here long enough to know my feelings on this. You "hotwife" with a "wife". A girlfriend, especially a very attractive, sexy one, has no need to stick around with a boyfriend if something better comes along. When "boyfriends" suggest and encourage this then they had better keep in mind what it is they are asking their girlfriend to do. A girlfriend my easily believe that this is some sort of "test" and that you either don't care enough about her or she might believe the opposite in case she goes along. Plenty of stories on here about wives who tell their husbands that they "aren't good enough" for them, etc.

I had the opportunity as a girlfriend to do all sorts of things, but my desire to BE MARRIED TO MY future husband was too strong to engage in overt sex with other guys. I had the same issues in that I wanted to be married more than I wanted to explore "the lifestyle". I knew I wasn't going to be "faithful" in the traditional sense as a wife and I told my husband that on our wedding day. In fact, I proved it to him, quite by accident. That's a story for another time. In fairness, I did "cheat" on my boyfriend with a couple of ex boyfriends during our engagement. I didn't tell him about it at the time but he wouldn't have minded (most likely) as he encouraged me to explore. Another story with those two and my wedding day has been posted, I believe.

The point here is that if either partner is not TOTALLY COMMITTED then this can end a relationship. It can possibly end a relationship even if the two of you are committed. It's best to be careful. It sounds like you've had this desire with other significant others too, so it's in your mind. Make sure you are on the same page with your girlfriend and DO NOT pass up a great marriage with a great partner so you can satisfy these sexual desires.

Hi Hwcouple702. Thank you for taking the time to comment and thank you for your advice. It is much appreciated.

 

[Wrxwrxqout]

You've been a member here long enough to know my feelings on this. You "hotwife" with a "wife". A girlfriend, especially a very attractive, sexy one, has no need to stick around with a boyfriend if something better comes along. When "boyfriends" suggest and encourage this then they had better keep in mind what it is they are asking their girlfriend to do. A girlfriend my easily believe that this is some sort of "test" and that you either don't care enough about her or she might believe the opposite in case she goes along. Plenty of stories on here about wives who tell their husbands that they "aren't good enough" for them, etc.

I had the opportunity as a girlfriend to do all sorts of things, but my desire to BE MARRIED TO MY future husband was too strong to engage in overt sex with other guys. I had the same issues in that I wanted to be married more than I wanted to explore "the lifestyle". I knew I wasn't going to be "faithful" in the traditional sense as a wife and I told my husband that on our wedding day. In fact, I proved it to him, quite by accident. That's a story for another time. In fairness, I did "cheat" on my boyfriend with a couple of ex boyfriends during our engagement. I didn't tell him about it at the time but he wouldn't have minded (most likely) as he encouraged me to explore. Another story with those two and my wedding day has been posted, I believe.

The point here is that if either partner is not TOTALLY COMMITTED then this can end a relationship. It can possibly end a relationship even if the two of you are committed. It's best to be careful. It sounds like you've had this desire with other significant others too, so it's in your mind. Make sure you are on the same page with your girlfriend and DO NOT pass up a great marriage with a great partner so you can satisfy these sexual desires.

Hi Hwcouple702. Thank you for taking the time to comment and thank you for your advice. It is much appreciated

I read your intro, and a couple of things came to mind.
1. You've mentioned a couple of times that you don't want to be a cuck. Trust me, I guarantee you
that she doesn't want a cuck boyfriend, either. So just focus on being a more dominant stag.

2. I've heard tons of men logically assume that since the bull has a bigger cock, the wife or girlfriend will leave their partner for the guy with the big cock. But think about it; she already has you AND the guy with the big cock. What would she have to gain by getting rid of the guy that loves her and cares for her? She can have great sex with both of you.

3. If you decide to share your girlfriend, just don't pick guys with bigger dicks. You can even pick a guy smaller than you. She will still be getting that excitement she had in her single days.

Hi Kristie. Thank you for your advice. It is much appreciated. Yes. You are right. I do fall into that Stag category and yes she doesn't want a cuckold that is humiliated either. I suppose it's trying to break through that idea in society that one aspect of being a man and be masculine, you must satisfy your partner sexually. If I see someone doing it better than myself. With a larger cock or his dominating persona etc. I fear I will feel that I'm a less of a man. Maybe even emasculated to a certain degree. As I said in another of my posts today to another member. We are getting closer to making this happen. I am starting accept the fact that I will see her be pleasured in a way different than I can it do.

 

[Wrxwrxqout]

once she starts hotwifing she will be in total control, if she wants you to become a cuck hubby you will be eating other guys cum from her freshly fucked pussy, its not only what she wants once she finds the right well hung guy she will only allow you to do whatever he says to her, that's how it works most ti

For the OP, it doesn't sound like you're ready for this at all until you can wrap your head around your issues. Once she's gone through with the deed then it's too late to stuff the genie back into the bottle.
That said; If she's already had big cocked, younger lovers, is attractive and has her choice in men and has chosen you to be her partner, then I wuld think that you are bringing more to the table than you give yourself credit for. Until you get a handle on your insecurities you won't enjoy this lifestyle unless you get off on the "angst" aspect of it.
The two of you are already openly discussing this, so having another conversation about expectations and concerns shouldn't be all that difficult. Let her know how you feel and maybe she can relieve your anxiety. Once you feel secure in your relationship the next steps shoulld be easier.
Good luck.

Thank you Wormwood for your comments. I agree with all of what you said. I am feeling much more secure in my relationship these days, but I still feel uneasy in myself. I don't want to feel emasculated. Much appreciated in taking the time to respond.