Things you have learned since being in the lifestyle.

[Kandjfun]

What surprising things have you learned since being in this lifestyle?
1) guys who call themselves bulls, usually don’t have a clue about a couple’s dynamic, they just want to get laid.
2) finding actual quality guys who will do what they say, understand the couple dynamic, and actually stick around for long term play, is harder to do then actually taking the step to get into this lifestyle.

What things have surprised you the most?

 

[Takemoment]

First off, I have learned that I like being a cuckold. Nothing I ever would have dreamed for myself or had any desire to be.
Secondly how hard I get watching or knowing my wife is getting fucked by another man and the fact that I encourage it.

 

[sandstone]

i love having a slut wife who is open to fulfilling her desires and understanding that we go through cycles where she only wants my cock
i love watching her makeout and giving me eye contact when i get to watch. I also love watching her flirt.
my wife likes a variety of guys and not just big cocks
there are a lot of no shows when she tries to coordinate
i also get rock hard when i know she is with another guy and i get to hear all the details

 

[SmallHubbyTexas]

1. The fact that I like being caged. When it is off, I don’t feel right.

2. The difference in my wife while she is having sex. When we did it, she just laid there with her eyes closed. With her boyfriends, she is squirming, grunting, moaning and screaming. She keeps her eyes open and is looking at them, or at me. After watching her orgasim with her boyfriends, I know she didn’t with me.

3. The confidence my wife has gained. She is more outgoing and daring now.

4. The way my cock cries in its cage while my wife is enjoying real cock.

 

[nariah1957]

What surprising things have you learned since being in this lifestyle?
1) guys who call themselves bulls, usually don’t have a clue about a couple’s dynamic, they just want to get laid.
2) finding actual quality guys who will do what they say, understand the couple dynamic, and actually stick around for long term play, is harder to do then actually taking the step to get into this lifestyle.

What things have surprised you the most?

The terms "Bull" and "Cuckold" cover a very wide variety of dynamics, sissy, sub/dom, stag to name a few. The trick is to match the dynamic of the cuckold with the dynamics of the bull, ie sub cuck with dom bull. Yes, easier said than done but if you persevere it can be worth it.
1st be clear in what your dynamic is and what you are looking for. If you just say "I want someone to fuck my wife" you're going to get a lot of answers from blokes who just want sex or have a different dynamic that is incompatible with your dynamic.
2nd, be patient. Take your time and eventually the right man will turn up and a truly orgasmic relationship can be built.

 

[Kandjfun]

The terms "Bull" and "Cuckold" cover a very wide variety of dynamics, sissy, sub/dom, stag to name a few. The trick is to match the dynamic of the cuckold with the dynamics of the bull, ie sub cuck with dom bull. Yes, easier said than done but if you persevere it can be worth it.
1st be clear in what your dynamic is and what you are looking for. If you just say "I want someone to fuck my wife" you're going to get a lot of answers from blokes who just want sex or have a different dynamic that is incompatible with your dynamic.
2nd, be patient. Take your time and eventually the right man will turn up and a truly orgasmic relationship can be built.

It’s a lot of fun when it all comes together, but finding the right guy is exhausting! So many fakes and flakes and guys who have watched to much porn and forget they are talking to a real actual woman who doesn’t need bigger and better, just be decent, fun, respectful, and actually carry on a good conversation that gets me excited:

 

[Helovestobcaged]

Something I've learned about myself being in the lifestyle is how turned on I get when my sissy cuck husband is caged and letting me play with his pussy. Also how incredibly hard it is to find people with the same mindset in a descret way. Also learned how amazing a marriage can be when you're open with each other and talk openly about our desires and fantasies. I am so grateful that my husband was open enough to let me buy him a cage before our wedding and things only went up from there, believe it or not he wouldn't even let me touch his ass when we first got together it was totally off limits. I know how hard it can be, to be in a marriage where you have to keep your fantasies a secret and hide your masterbation to your kinks. So happy I got into the lifestyle and even more happy my hubby is here along the journey.

 

[Jeanswatcher]

I have learn may things from practising this lifestyle about myself, my wife and our relationship,

She likes having long term lovers but once she told and showed me, she then wanted me to find her suitable men saying, i have never chased a man except you and will not.

I have a very wild and sexually adventurous wife, yet most of time one that is 100% vanilla and sexually boring, Any man trying to chat her up gets basically told to fuck off, yet if i introduced the same man she will "reluctantly" meet him but only with me present, how bizarre. Then after 10 minutes if she likes him she will be extremely horny and want him then and there.

She will not meet another man even in a public place without me,

She likes a man sexually that will take control of her once she has decided she will submit to him,

Her view is if she wants a man, he will not simply fuck her, her view is she fucks him, for her pleasures,

Her default setting is no, i am not bothered, then is like an animal after a brief meet if she likes him, her mind swings from one extreme to the other in seconds, this is not just sexually either, which makes life difficult.

She likes fucking men in my presence and looking at me whilst doing it, thats a plus.

Excellent lovers are hard to find, thankfully she likes men that she will then fuck long term, so numbers wise hasnt had that many lovers

Most men are put off by the involvement of a 6ft 3 stocky masculine husband, they find it wierd, most men who fuck married women do not want the husband to know, they consider this wierd too.

My sexual desires now revolve around seeing her with another man, not with me sexually,

The problem is we are both sexually submissive hardly ideal in a relationship,

She decided she would explore my feminine side, i didnt know i had one, however in a simular way to how she showed me she had a lover she chose sex as a form of manipulation wanting to see me stood in front of her and her lover locked in a cage and later wearing female underwear. Yes i liked this, maybe she knows more about my sexuality than i do. Then she decided this wouldnt just be when she was playing but would become my normal daily wear.

So from this i actually found i didnt mind being locked in a cage and wearing female underwear 24/7 365. A sign of complicate sexual sub and domination to a wife that wants to have sex with other men and not me but i know it serves to ensure i cannot stray.

Finally she wants me to be as i am, a dominant alpha male, yet she likes and wants me to wear female clothing and dresses me like she does, i find this quite a contradiction in her mind. Can you be both, yes you can.

 

[dickhurtz]

during our talks & adventures, she told me she likes sex a little rough, handcuffs & blindfoldes, she is a closet exhibitionist & wouldn't mind ...... with another women.

 

[Discretefun66]

There are several things that come to mind with this question. Not sure I would try to rank them but at the top is the way in which living the lifestyle has effected us individually and as a couple. We see having sex with another person as just another aspect of our overall sex life. However, we do not put any value on it beyond that. We have always said that sex with other people should be to add or enhance our sex life and it has.

When we have sex with other people, it is just us having fun. We feel the “adventures” we have had we others has been all about having “sexual fun”. We want to both please each other and see each other being pleased by others. If we have a whim involving sex with someone else, then we are all for it. We know what our love is, how strong it is, and how solid our marriage is, and this gives us the freedom we need to do this. We have complete faith and in trust in each other and never feel threatened by others. When we are with other people it is a “sport fuck”, the sex satisfies desires, fulfill a fantasy’s, and used to explore erotic ideas.

Aside from what it has done for our marriage, for the wife it has given her an extra level of sexual empowerment. The freedom boost her confidence knowing that other men desire her and, confirms her sexual attractiveness to them. I learned about myself that when I became confident in our marriage, trusting in my wife, and controlled my ego and jealousy it open up doors to my sexuality that I otherwise would have stayed closed minded to.

 

[nicebiguy]

1. The fact that I like being caged. When it is off, I don’t feel right.

2. The difference in my wife while she is having sex. When we did it, she just laid there with her eyes closed. With her boyfriends, she is squirming, grunting, moaning and screaming. She keeps her eyes open and is looking at them, or at me. After watching her orgasim with her boyfriends, I know she didn’t with me.

3. The confidence my wife has gained. She is more outgoing and daring now.

4. The way my cock cries in its cage while my wife is enjoying real cock.

Very hot, I love that you're caged and dripping while a real man takes care of your wife. I'd love to hear the thoughts and emotions you're having then.

 

[nicebiguy]

Something I've learned about myself being in the lifestyle is how turned on I get when my sissy cuck husband is caged and letting me play with his pussy. Also how incredibly hard it is to find people with the same mindset in a descret way. Also learned how amazing a marriage can be when you're open with each other and talk openly about our desires and fantasies. I am so grateful that my husband was open enough to let me buy him a cage before our wedding and things only went up from there, believe it or not he wouldn't even let me touch his ass when we first got together it was totally off limits. I know how hard it can be, to be in a marriage where you have to keep your fantasies a secret and hide your masterbation to your kinks. So happy I got into the lifestyle and even more happy my hubby is here along the journey.

Good for you. Sounds like you guys have a good thing going.

 

[nicebiguy]

There are several things that come to mind with this question. Not sure I would try to rank them but at the top is the way in which living the lifestyle has effected us individually and as a couple. We see having sex with another person as just another aspect of our overall sex life. However, we do not put any value on it beyond that. We have always said that sex with other people should be to add or enhance our sex life and it has.

When we have sex with other people, it is just us having fun. We feel the “adventures” we have had we others has been all about having “sexual fun”. We want to both please each other and see each other being pleased by others. If we have a whim involving sex with someone else, then we are all for it. We know what our love is, how strong it is, and how solid our marriage is, and this gives us the freedom we need to do this. We have complete faith and in trust in each other and never feel threatened by others. When we are with other people it is a “sport fuck”, the sex satisfies desires, fulfill a fantasy’s, and used to explore erotic ideas.

Aside from what it has done for our marriage, for the wife it has given her an extra level of sexual empowerment. The freedom boost her confidence knowing that other men desire her and, confirms her sexual attractiveness to them. I learned about myself that when I became confident in our marriage, trusting in my wife, and controlled my ego and jealousy it open up doors to my sexuality that I otherwise would have stayed closed minded to.

Sounds perfect, good for you.

 

[nicebiguy]

I have learn may things from practising this lifestyle about myself, my wife and our relationship,

She likes having long term lovers but once she told and showed me, she then wanted me to find her suitable men saying, i have never chased a man except you and will not.

I have a very wild and sexually adventurous wife, yet most of time one that is 100% vanilla and sexually boring, Any man trying to chat her up gets basically told to fuck off, yet if i introduced the same man she will "reluctantly" meet him but only with me present, how bizarre. Then after 10 minutes if she likes him she will be extremely horny and want him then and there.

She will not meet another man even in a public place without me,

She likes a man sexually that will take control of her once she has decided she will submit to him,

Her view is if she wants a man, he will not simply fuck her, her view is she fucks him, for her pleasures,

Her default setting is no, i am not bothered, then is like an animal after a brief meet if she likes him, her mind swings from one extreme to the other in seconds, this is not just sexually either, which makes life difficult.

She likes fucking men in my presence and looking at me whilst doing it, thats a plus.

Excellent lovers are hard to find, thankfully she likes men that she will then fuck long term, so numbers wise hasnt had that many lovers

Most men are put off by the involvement of a 6ft 3 stocky masculine husband, they find it wierd, most men who fuck married women do not want the husband to know, they consider this wierd too.

My sexual desires now revolve around seeing her with another man, not with me sexually,

The problem is we are both sexually submissive hardly ideal in a relationship,

She decided she would explore my feminine side, i didnt know i had one, however in a simular way to how she showed me she had a lover she chose sex as a form of manipulation wanting to see me stood in front of her and her lover locked in a cage and later wearing female underwear. Yes i liked this, maybe she knows more about my sexuality than i do. Then she decided this wouldnt just be when she was playing but would become my normal daily wear.

So from this i actually found i didnt mind being locked in a cage and wearing female underwear 24/7 365. A sign of complicate sexual sub and domination to a wife that wants to have sex with other men and not me but i know it serves to ensure i cannot stray.

Finally she wants me to be as i am, a dominant alpha male, yet she likes and wants me to wear female clothing and dresses me like she does, i find this quite a contradiction in her mind. Can you be both, yes you can.

Lucky you. I find my feelings and thoughts change often. When I get the urge to suck cock and be a sissy for him it's a real emotional and mental release. After a nice long fuck session with me being his cock sucking, pantie wearing sissy faggot I feel very liberated. Then I'm good for about 8 weeks while I go back to eating and fucking my wifes smelly pussy. When my sub femmy sissy side comes up later I call my friend and side lover Andy and we set up a date, then rinse and repeat. Works well for the 3 of us

 

[SmallHubbyTexas]

Very hot, I love that you're caged and dripping while a real man takes care of your wife. I'd love to hear the thoughts and emotions you're having then.

My thoughts and emotions tend to be all over the place. I am happy my wife is enjoying herself. I am happy she is having orgasiums. I love watching the two (or more) of them enjoying each other. My cock is straining in its cage and is crying the whole time. I am sad that I could not make her react the way she does. When they are done, I love cuddling with her, knowing part of him is still with her.

 

[LilSissyCuck]

First off, I have learned that I like being a cuckold. Nothing I ever would have dreamed for myself or had any desire to be.
Secondly how hard I get watching or knowing my wife is getting fucked by another man and the fact that I encourage it.

Agree with “Secondly “

 

[compassionatedom]

First off, I have learned that I like being a cuckold. Nothing I ever would have dreamed for myself or had any desire to be.
Secondly how hard I get watching or knowing my wife is getting fucked by another man and the fact that I encourage it.

You may take pride in whatever part you play, that she gets to be used by Men like me, impaled on our Cocks

 

[bonaqo]

haven't got to really start in the lifestyle but my wife has been enjoying sex using a quite large extender

 

[Takemoment]

You may take pride in whatever part you play, that she gets to be used by Men like me, impaled on our Cocks

I have to admit I love seeing her fucked by big cocks. they spread her pussy open wide, and it tends to stay open for a bit after a long fucking. Nothing like seeing your wife's pussy hole spread open, evidence that a big thick cock fucked it

 

[compassionatedom]

I have to admit I love seeing her fucked by big cocks. they spread her pussy open wide, and it tends to stay open for a bit after a long fucking. Nothing like seeing your wife's pussy hole spread open, evidence that a big thick cock fucked it

but does she even feel you when you go for sloppy seconds?