I'm always amazed at women that are hot that don't seem to have quite as much self confidence as you would expect. Although if she's as you say and men are intimidated I can see that, except you'd still think she'd pick up on it.
If she isn't noticing then maybe you can help her with that. It could be she just doesn't believe things could be that good. For some reason I think that every chick that's even marginally good looking would have such an ego trip going but it seems more thqan a few seem to miss guys lusting after them.