Hi. Not newbie here as I have been lurking around here for a loooong time. I am 26. Having hotwife/cuckold fantasies and urges since my very first relationship in my 18. I always tried confessing early into a relationship as I knew the urges just won't go and if she was completely uncomfortable with the way I am wired, we could sort it out sooner rather than later. Maybe I have been just lucky, but none of my partners I confessed with my kink did look down on me nor was completely shocked etc. Despite that I never actually experienced anything in real life apart from an ex stroking a guy while I was there.
My soon to be wife R is petite 115lbs 5'2" 38yo ....... We agree that we found a soulmate in each other. We have perfect communication, perfect relationship, amazing sex life and basically everything feels like perfect match. I told R like year ago about my HW/cuckold urges while we discussed sex topics in general. She was a bit weirded initially because she is one of those people that would never considered existence of a sane man that would willingly let his wife to fuck other guys. She's not too exhibitionist herself, but not purist too so she wasn't horrified or shocked, but still not sure what to think about it. Of course the idea of me using it as an excuse to fuck other women crossed her mind but I explained I find strong pleasure in imagining her being pleased to the maximum by other man, and I am definitely not using it as an excuse to fuck other women. Told her if I have a choice to have a free pass myself or give it to her, I wouldn't hesitate for a second. I can say she has got a pretty good grasp of my motivations by now and believes it's honest she's just still digesting the whole idea. She's just a type of person that would NEVER cheated on partner and would never forgive being cheated on. To her, relationship has always been simply matter of two people and third person was out of question, yet she understands why I see thing the way I see them and is not rejecting the idea.
Problem, obstacle or whatever however is, she is quite different to many women. R is very confident personality with high social ranking and attention of other men is rather annoyance to her rather than compliment. She definitely doesn't suffer self esteem issues, or being worried men wouldn't like her. We laughed when R said that when we started dating, it discouraged the most of men so she finally found her peace and now I ask her to do the opposite (lol). She says she will never experience anything more intense or even close to what is she experiencing with me when we have sex. R can't be so intimate with someone she is not in love with to experience things as intense as she does with me. If I expect her to moan loudly and doing him a scratch marks on skin as she does to me when we have sex, she said I would be disappointed. When she described her sex encounters when single, she used her sex partners as a mere tool to get off, satisfy urges and that's it. They kissed a little, had a good fuck, she got her orgasm, made sure he gets off quickly after and done. No affection, no teasing, no sexting, pure sex toy plain and simple. She got very annoyed when their sex partners pushed further and tried crossing sex buddies line. Almost all of them were like that hence she finds difficult to get a good match for us in case we wanted go for it.
I would love to hear from people with similar experience or in similar situation. To all of you - if you found our story interesting, please don't hesitate to come in and talk or ask anything.
My soon to be wife R is petite 115lbs 5'2" 38yo ....... We agree that we found a soulmate in each other. We have perfect communication, perfect relationship, amazing sex life and basically everything feels like perfect match. I told R like year ago about my HW/cuckold urges while we discussed sex topics in general. She was a bit weirded initially because she is one of those people that would never considered existence of a sane man that would willingly let his wife to fuck other guys. She's not too exhibitionist herself, but not purist too so she wasn't horrified or shocked, but still not sure what to think about it. Of course the idea of me using it as an excuse to fuck other women crossed her mind but I explained I find strong pleasure in imagining her being pleased to the maximum by other man, and I am definitely not using it as an excuse to fuck other women. Told her if I have a choice to have a free pass myself or give it to her, I wouldn't hesitate for a second. I can say she has got a pretty good grasp of my motivations by now and believes it's honest she's just still digesting the whole idea. She's just a type of person that would NEVER cheated on partner and would never forgive being cheated on. To her, relationship has always been simply matter of two people and third person was out of question, yet she understands why I see thing the way I see them and is not rejecting the idea.
Problem, obstacle or whatever however is, she is quite different to many women. R is very confident personality with high social ranking and attention of other men is rather annoyance to her rather than compliment. She definitely doesn't suffer self esteem issues, or being worried men wouldn't like her. We laughed when R said that when we started dating, it discouraged the most of men so she finally found her peace and now I ask her to do the opposite (lol). She says she will never experience anything more intense or even close to what is she experiencing with me when we have sex. R can't be so intimate with someone she is not in love with to experience things as intense as she does with me. If I expect her to moan loudly and doing him a scratch marks on skin as she does to me when we have sex, she said I would be disappointed. When she described her sex encounters when single, she used her sex partners as a mere tool to get off, satisfy urges and that's it. They kissed a little, had a good fuck, she got her orgasm, made sure he gets off quickly after and done. No affection, no teasing, no sexting, pure sex toy plain and simple. She got very annoyed when their sex partners pushed further and tried crossing sex buddies line. Almost all of them were like that hence she finds difficult to get a good match for us in case we wanted go for it.
I would love to hear from people with similar experience or in similar situation. To all of you - if you found our story interesting, please don't hesitate to come in and talk or ask anything.
