Interesting question. In my wife's case, once or twice a week (usually only once) my wife will go out with her boyfriend. They will go out for either drinks, and/or dinner, or even coffee maybe. Then they go to a hotel where she takes along a go-bag with everything she needs for an overnight. They meet up instead of her being picked up. She won't stay at his place and we don't have him over at our place. They meet up in places away from where they both live so as to reduce the number of people we know who she and he may run into. So far, so good. She does not really mix with in with his friends and vice versa. There is always a risk of people finding out, but hasn't happened yet.
As for people finding out, there is one friend she has who she has confided in about what she is doing. She has told me this but won't say which friend. And that friend has kept it a secret. Unfortunately I don't know who it is.
As for people finding out, there is one friend she has who she has confided in about what she is doing. She has told me this but won't say which friend. And that friend has kept it a secret. Unfortunately I don't know who it is.......
I couldn't handle that well at all, not knowing if a male or female is the one that knows would be hard but guessing a female might be easier for me to handle but if it were a male ,NO that would be a Hard NO ,
I don't want to live in fear cause it would make me feel like I'm holding up a target and I don't know who is aiming at me .
If my wife ever did this to me I would want to know who it is and wouldn't let it go till she told me and I confirmed that with said person, come on people, I don't want to always feel like I'm having to look over my head constantly,
That would take it away from a joke to me worrying about my safety and life , cause if we are being discreet like you say you are, and now she.tells me she told someone else but won't say who , Noooooooo I'm Not playing that game and I won't stick around for a bullet or something else bad to happen to me, .
Yes a bullet is far fetched and probably won't be like that, but a mind can come up with any scenario and that's what comes to my mind first ,
No way if she doesn't want to tell me who knows ,,,,,, I'd be like OK ,,,,,fine while I have half my bags packed and her asking me what am I doing packing my bags with my stuff.
I'd leave and not come back till she tells me who it is and I will want to talk with them about it,
No that's going beyond breaking major boundaries in my book,
I have had a few women on the side and one of them kept telling me to leave her and maybe get her fired at her job so she would have to go looking for a new job all in all to cause trouble for my wife and that's NOT cool now can you imagine if that person who she told but wouldn't tell you who it is was like that kind of person and all the ...... he or she could cause YOU personally, and of course since she is a friend of your wife , she wouldn't believe that person would do anything to cause you harm in any way ,
Nooooo , since your being discreet no no no no ,
Maybe I'm going overboard on this , but I'd still want to know who ,
That would seriously cause problems for me and it would be very hard to let go to the point of divorce.
I'm betting her Not telling you who it is ,,Is for suspense and a thrill of who knows and maybe even a game to keep you on your toes , but me I couldn't handle that.
That would be too much for me and I'd be done with that ,, I couldn't handle that at all
