Potential bull asking: why let us do this ?

[lonlonepona]

Hi ! I am not coming with an attitude of hatred so please don’t read any of my questions this way.

As some background I’ve been fortunate with what I have. Tall, good hair, fit, and well endowed. In various situations this has led to being asked to join a threesome, sometimes as a bull.

For married men that want a hung man to please their wife, why do you want this ? I personally believe women deserve the best, and we can offer it in different ways. Does it come from that ?

Why not spend the time working on yourself and your relationship instead of convincing her to enjoy a hung man ? Like it is fairly easy to gain muscle, get fit, you just need to stick to it. You can learn and do more skills together.

I appreciate any time and responses. Thanks.

 

[arltxstagnvixen]

The forces of intolerance still have a grip on morality. Bud Light and Target are just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to "push back" from the present ruling moral majority.

This is that divide.
Some elements are less prudish and more tolerant. What you are describing is resistance and push-back to that trend. And do not be fooled, they are not the majority... They are the minority, which is why they are willing to go to such extremes and corruption to get their way.

 

[coastalkid]

This is that divide.
Some elements are less prudish and more tolerant. What you are describing is resistance and push-back to that trend. And do not be fooled, they are not the majority... They are the minority, which is why they are willing to go to such extremes and corruption to get their way.

I want to believe they are in the minority. They do an excellent job of presenting themselves as the majority. I think a good example is marijuana. Despite all kinds of exhaustive efforts marijuana is still in every state, county and city, everywhere, even the states where it is still illegal. We are finally beginning to acknowledge that enforcing the prohibition of marijuana isn't a mandate by a majority. Much like an alternative lifestyle, marijuana is demonized and it is implied that it is linked to crime and other associated deviant behaviors. It has taken forever to look at the marijuana issue objectively and finally voices are gathering enough in significant numbers to advance change. I see similarities in attitudes toward any form of alternative lifestyles, but I feel like it is way behind getting the acceptance that marijuana has. Those minority forces on moral behavior wield great influence in popular thinking.

 

[lonlonepona]

I agree, it doesn't seem like a conspiracy to me either.

I'm not so sure about our society becoming slightly less prudish. If it is, it's more like, slightly less, sort of, in a way, kind of somewhat, less prudish. I really don't think we're significantly more tolerant. The forces of intolerance still have a grip on morality. Bud Light and Target are just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to "push back" from the present ruling moral majority. Unfortunately sex is intrinsically linked to politics, religious beliefs and the rejection of any lifestyle not based on monogamy. Those things have a much greater voice and have wider public acceptance than any alternative lifestyle.

How much of this is because of social structures causing people to live one way vs people wanting to live this way and social structures reflecting that.

From what I know and can see, every culture in history has adopted monogamy. There are exceptions but they’re either small, counter culture, or die out. To me this makes sense because we’re not just horny animals, or at least should not let ourselves be.

What are alternative lifestyles to monogamy and how do they make the individuals in it happier and better, and the overall collective happier and better ? Anything but monogamy seems very Darwinian to me. It vibes more with this bro view of alphas, betas, gammas no ? Alphas get and deserve women, betas take care of women, and so forth. I know this languages gets eye rolls, but dating and relationships for younger men are non-monogamous already, it’s hypergamy, and so it’s no surprise this language and mindset is being adapted. I also hear it directly or indirectly here.

 

[arltxstagnvixen]

From what I know and can see, every culture in history has adopted monogamy. There are exceptions but they’re either small, counter culture, or die out. To me this makes sense because we’re not just horny animals, or at least should not let ourselves be.

This is true. Humans are not monogamous, but trend toward monogamy. Over-all, in our history and across many cultures, monogamay has given greater chances of success for survival or for cultural acceptance among peers (less drama, conflict or disease.)
In the current age, monogamy is *less* relevant to survival, whether due to predation, hunter- gathering or farming. In the days of old, eyes had to wander even if hands didn't. We can *notice* potential mates in case ours die and we need to resources to continue on after them.
Now, our resources are largely seen as financial rather than material. Humanity is slowly shifting.
So, Yes, Humanity is monogamy majority and that is totally fine. I think that monogamy is a great thing and it works well with the right people.
However, this does not mean it must be enforced on all. Heterosexuality is also the majority and it is a fine thing.
Homosexuality is a minority that still must be respected and treated fairly and equally, including in nuptials - without outside interference.
Polyamory may be more about how a person is biologically wired than it is a Lifestyle choice. Others do not have to understand it or even agree with it - only respect it and mind their own business.

but dating and relationships for younger men are non-monogamous already, it’s hypergamy

This is nothing new. It has been this way for a long time.
Why is the common First Date a trip to the movies? IF the purpose is to get to know each other, it would not involve not paying attention to each other.
Instead, the couple would go to a 1950's thriller flick where they can get away with lots of dramatic groping. Usually doing it in the car after so they wouldn't get caught by the parents. It was all about sex, not moral dating. It has been this way for generations.

Those minority forces on moral behavior wield great influence in popular thinking.

Because they are so obnoxious and position themselves into powerful locations where they show no ethical considerations in making law whatever they want.

 

[looking4bulls]

If it wasn’t humiliating would you do it ? I don’t understand why humiliation would drive someone to do something like this. Like why make such a memorable kiss driven by humiliation ?

Does size add onto the humiliation ? To be honest, I’m 9.5”x6.5”. Once a woman experiences that size with someone that knows how to use it, the fullness feeling, it is hard to beat sexually. In your scenario, if you went in after and weren’t a similar size, she’d immediately have feelings about that. It’s not going to change everything but it does change things a bit. Why let hung men do that ?

As someone with an average cock what is your experience with women when you mention that ‘sexually it’s hard to beat?’ What feedback have you had and what have you seen when you give them your big cock?

 

[Takemoment]

It was not my idea and it was not something I would have ever pursued. My wife made that decision for us, basically from the beginning, so I had a decision to make. Get married and stay married to her, or walk away. I chose to get married and to be with my wife. At first I did not want to know about her extramarital affairs or witness them, but I knew she was fucking other guys. Over time, I found I was masturbating when I knew or suspected she was getting laid. Eventually I told her I wanted to know and be involved, at least watch. As it turned out, I get sexual pleasure watching and knowing my wife is with other guys. It has made our bond even tighter. We do make love. Our sex is nothing like the sex she has with most of the guys, but there is intimacy between us.

In thinking it all through, would I prefer a "normal" monogomous marriage, yes, but I am happy and content with the lifestyle we are living. My wife gets the sexual fulfilment she needs and I get off being part of it.

 

[Steven35]

I didn't ask my wife, she brought it up. She told me that I wasn't sexually satisfying her in bed, and that she'd like to bring in another man who could satisfy her. I have a very small penis, and I cum really fast, and that was the issue.

 

[Jerryteroga]

I didn't ask my wife, she brought it up. She told me that I wasn't sexually satisfying her in bed, and that she'd like to bring in another man who could satisfy her. I have a very small penis, and I cum really fast, and that was the issue.

I also agree while my wife didnt directly ask she did say she always wanted to experience a very large cock, having a smaller cock myself and seeing her struggle to orgasm during sex pleasing her could only be done by licking her. I did not want to be the reason for her lack of pleasure so i wanted her experience the best orgasms better than ever so i let her get fucked by well hung men and i slowly began to enjoy the humiliation of not being able to please her.

 

[petco]

the taboo ,a little bit . the difference age ,size,colour also a little bit . mostly i can be focused on her reactions ,moves,sounds much more than if i am involved .
also we both are in leading positions and enjoy the sub role in bedroom , so someone dom in bedroom would fit our needs perfectly .

 

[Steven35]

I also agree while my wife didnt directly ask she did say she always wanted to experience a very large cock, having a smaller cock myself and seeing her struggle to orgasm during sex pleasing her could only be done by licking her. I did not want to be the reason for her lack of pleasure so i wanted her experience the best orgasms better than ever so i let her get fucked by well hung men and i slowly began to enjoy the humiliation of not being able to please her.

I love it when the bull tells me to leave so that he can fuck my wife in our bed.

 

[AllowingHubby]

Work out all you want, it doesn’t make your dick grow. Lol