My wife, our situation, your thoughts

[Newbiewife]

Mine does want to lose the weight so I told her I'd help her with weight lifting and aerobics. Since I do the cooking I can customize our meals to be low carb as well as portion control. I hope it works.

 

[billbuster41]

Mine does want to lose the weight so I told her I'd help her with weight lifting and aerobics. Since I do the cooking I can customize our meals to be low carb as well as portion control. I hope it works.

All women worry in some sort about appearance. The events leading up to play just need to show her she’s imagining issues or that they are not a real worry.

 

[Newbiewife]

All women worry in some sort about appearance. The events leading up to play just need to show her she’s imagining issues or that they are not a real worry.

Easier said than done

 

[coastalkid]

All women worry in some sort about appearance. The events leading up to play just need to show her she’s imagining issues or that they are not a real worry.

I don't disagree with you.

I've read threads here where the wives are self-conscious and miraculously overcome those fears with one successful experience. It's so ironic that something a husband spends so much time trying to convince a wife that she's attractive can be accomplished by relative stranger in one night. All that effort feels pointless. The wives move on with next step whatever that is. It's the getting them to believe enough to take the risk.

 

[billbuster41]

Easier said than done

Exactly. The trust for the beginning and a patient stranger/bull/make can be a world of difference

 

[majorem]

My situation is a bit different my wife gets off on the idea of sucking another guys cock black or white. The problem is she is so body conscious that she won't let me see her naked let alone someone else. She is a very attractive Blonde 5,1 great 32B tits nice ass and amazing bald pussy..it's the middle she hates. No amount of building her up or showing her other woman who hide the not so good areas. So unless she loses weight it's a no go.

Reality is, she will likely never lose enough weight to feel confident / happy (not that she won't lose weight, she'll just always think she needs to lose more) or it will become something else. I think it is more an issue of being out of the dating-market for so long and being afraid to try again and fail. And of course, there is nothing you can say as her husband to reassure her because, as my wife has remarked "you're my husband, you have to say that."

I know my wife has gained some confidence just from going to the gym, even though it hasn't had very significant results yet.

More so though, I think what will help is to come up with some plan to dress her sexy and put her in a situation where other men can come onto her. Maybe take her to a bar or club and tell her to go have fun and see what happens, leave her for an extended time to "go to the bathroom" or whatever. I think nothing helps spark confidence in women like actual men hitting on them.

Even then, it takes repeated encounters. On our way to dinner my wife had to run into a drugstore to buy lipstick and she was all sexed up in a hot dress. A guy literally came up to her and said "someday I wish I could find a wife as hot as you". Even when these things happen, she will downplay it and say he was putting her on and I have to try to convince her the guy really meant it... its a battle

 

[thebeginner]

My wife was very conservative when we first got together. I didn't think she would ever agree to anything beyond us for years. When I started to have these fantasies I kept them to myself at first because I was afraid it would make her feel a certain way about me. After being married for a few years I started to share my fantasy with her and, although she wouldn't participate, she let me know she was ok with me having the fantasies. But I always got "don't expect it to ever happen" response from her. I didn't realize it but I was planting the seeds as mentioned above. For several years it didn't seem to be going anywhere so I began to settle on it never happening. Then one night in a bar we were joking around and started to play, who would you do. We would take turns picking out people at the bar and ask each other which would we pick to fuck if we had to. We had to pick one and then we would explain why we picked that person. The answers we gave was sometimes funny, but always interesting and we learned some things about each other we didn't know. This started to give me some hope again as she seemed edger to play this game when ever the two of us went out. To my surprise, one night, she asked how far would I really be willing to go. When it was her turn to answer she started with, "this may surprise you, but in the right situation, maybe." BINGO!!! For the next several nights at home we talked about what we would be willing to try and what would be unacceptable. All of a sudden we were on swinger sites building our profile and were soon immersed in the lifestyle. My point is, I was in that situation and planted those seeds. I never got pushy or upset at her responses or lack of a response, but gently kept at it. I was lucky that she finally agreed to try and she enjoyed it, more so than she ever thought she would. But at the same time, you have to be prepared to accept that she may never come around. In fact, I would say chances are she won't, and you need to be ok with that. After all, she should be much more important than any of this. I look forward to hearing how it turns out for you guys.

So true! The key to success in this endeavor... do not push her too hard or get upset. Just keep planting seeds, one by one. Lots of hotwife porn - but only the stuff that turns 'her' on. Make the fantasy experience of being a hotwife sexy, fun and light-hearted.

 

[thebeginner]

I appreciate your honesty, thank you.

Don't give up hope! I was in the same situation. My wife was not willing to take the plunge in the beginning. Just wanted to roleplay only. There was a point when I had given up all hope, and then one day she said she would be interested in trying. It still took another year before we met the right guy. But here we are and she loves it. The funny thing is, if I asked her to stop now I know she would, be she would be very disappointed. All I can say is just keep up the roleplay in the bedroom. Worst case you guys have a lot of fun sex fantasizing about 'what if'.

 

[Newbiewife]

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Don't give up hope! I was in the same situation. My wife was not willing to take the plunge in the beginning. Just wanted to roleplay only. There was a point when I had given up all hope, and then one day she said she would be interested in trying. It still took another year before we met the right guy. But here we are and she loves it. The funny thing is, if I asked her to stop now I know she would, be she would be very disappointed. All I can say is just keep up the roleplay in the bedroom. Worst case you guys have a lot of fun sex fantasizing about 'what if'.

I had a talk with my wife with regard to some of the posts here. I told her no matter how much weight she loses or doesn't unless her head is in a bad place nothing will change. I also quoted one poster that unless this happens get used to a sexless life. I hope it sinks in

 

[billbuster41]

Reality is, she will likely never lose enough weight to feel confident / happy (not that she won't lose weight, she'll just always think she needs to lose more) or it will become something else. I think it is more an issue of being out of the dating-market for so long and being afraid to try again and fail.

I know my wife has gained some confidence just from going to the gym, even though it hasn't had very significant results yet.

More so though, I think what will help is to come up with some plan to dress her sexy and put her in a situation where other men can come onto her. Maybe take her to a bar or club and tell her to go have fun and see what happens, leave her for an extended time to "go to the bathroom" or whatever. I think nothing helps spark confidence in women like actual men hitting on them.

Agree. And make sure those men pour it on.

 

[thebeginner]

My wife was very conservative when we first got together. I didn't think she would ever agree to anything beyond us for years. When I started to have these fantasies I kept them to myself at first because I was afraid it would make her feel a certain way about me. After being married for a few years I started to share my fantasy with her and, although she wouldn't participate, she let me know she was ok with me having the fantasies. But I always got "don't expect it to ever happen" response from her. I didn't realize it but I was planting the seeds as mentioned above. For several years it didn't seem to be going anywhere so I began to settle on it never happening. Then one night in a bar we were joking around and started to play, who would you do. We would take turns picking out people at the bar and ask each other which would we pick to fuck if we had to. We had to pick one and then we would explain why we picked that person. The answers we gave was sometimes funny, but always interesting and we learned some things about each other we didn't know. This started to give me some hope again as she seemed edger to play this game when ever the two of us went out. To my surprise, one night, she asked how far would I really be willing to go. When it was her turn to answer she started with, "this may surprise you, but in the right situation, maybe." BINGO!!! For the next several nights at home we talked about what we would be willing to try and what would be unacceptable. All of a sudden we were on swinger sites building our profile and were soon immersed in the lifestyle. My point is, I was in that situation and planted those seeds. I never got pushy or upset at her responses or lack of a response, but gently kept at it. I was lucky that she finally agreed to try and she enjoyed it, more so than she ever thought she would. But at the same time, you have to be prepared to accept that she may never come around. In fact, I would say chances are she won't, and you need to be ok with that. After all, she should be much more important than any of this. I look forward to hearing how it turns out for you guys.

I had a similar experience as LD. In the beginning, my wife was more than willing to indulge my fantasies about her having sex with another man, but doing it for real was out of the question for her. Gradually and over time I continued with the role play and also introduced very sensual MFM porn - nothing hard core. I think my break-through came when i asked her about her fantasies and would incorporate them into our roleplay, with the 'second' guy performing her fantasies on her. Eventually, she became more and more curious and interested in what it could be like. Like LD, I had planted a seed that eventually sprouted and grew. Once it took root things moved very quickly and she finally did it for real. We both have been very happy since.

 

[GuiltyMethod2]

It’s a tough call, I get it and I get the same push back but it’s confusing. My wife kinda tells me the same thing except my wife gives me a little more about the fantasy. She’ll get wet over her with a BBC but she has to work to get her head there. If I can get her to relax and let go of the consequences then she’s able, Some nights are better than others. I actually think she’s more keen on being with another woman sometimes because she finds that more erotically intriguing. I think one day we’ll get there just based on our trust with each other and how we’re fairly open when it comes to sex but if we don’t then I’m also good with it. Nothing really is off the table, porn, toys, we go out to the bar and she doesn’t wear panties to spice up the evening. The only thing that is not an option is me with another man in any capacity. I try to let her know that it’s a chance spur of the moment situation while on a vacation just her and me. A taboo no names no phone numbers just a moment of lust with someone that she looks over at and actually turns her on and she mentions it to me. At that point we’ll see where it goes if that ever presents itself. Give it time, plant the seeds and let it just happen if it’s going to happen. The safer I think she feels and secure that this is just added activity for your marriage pleasures the easier I think it’ll happen. In our fantasy talks during sex I tell her that they are there for our playing pleasures not the other way around. Give her the feel that she owns and controls the Guilty pleasure and we can stop and remove ourselves at any moment. A taboo guilty pleasure that no one ever has to know about that we enjoy when we feel like it.

Update* so how crazy is this. I re read my post and today she’s at a better place with the idea. I’ve shared with her that I have a BBC surprise for her and that I’ve shared pictures of her with him and she didn’t bat an eye lash. On the contrary it made her hornier and as wet as I’ve felt her before. I’ve mentioned that I have him meeting us at our up coming trip to the Bahamas next week, I asked her if she wanted to see a picture of him or just be surprised and she responded with “just surprise me”. She asked me which pictures I shared and I picked a few out and told her that he was dying to fuck her. So looks like I’m there just need to actually pull the trigger. Let’s see how the trip goes and who’s available to consider this next step with. Maybe if I could find a hung young BBC in his 30’s or 40’s that lives in the Bahamas. Maybe it happens this trip maybe it doesn’t but looks like she’d be able to get there if the opportunity presents itself at Baha Mar.

 

[robbiewillsucku]

2025, Hello wantabe cuckold(s). I am Robbie in Norman, Oklahoma, a bimale with a nice c*ck and nice tits.

If you want her to fuck other cocks then after you fuck her - start licking her pussy clean - do this every time you fuck her then after the 10th time - while you are licking her pussy - I am fantasizing that you fucked a cock earlier in the day and I am licking his cum from your pussy. It is all about pleasing you not my cock. I am OK being a sissy cuckold.

I want you to try this on your wife or GF - do this every time when you suck her tit. Suck her tit like a cock. Bounce or bobb your head on her tit just like you would if you were sucking a cock. Do this at least once a week. Third week, start sucking her tit then tell her that you are fantasizing. Hoping she says what are you fantasizing about. If not, suck her tit like a cock then just say -- I am fantasizing that I am sucking your tit like a cock. Don't wait - you say - tell me to suck your tit like a cock. When she tells you to suck her tit like a cock -- sucked harder and deeper.

Three more weeks -- start sucking her tit then you say - tell me to ask --- May I please suck your tit like a cock cause I am a sub sissy faggot cocksucker. Repeat it often to yourself and to her while you are sucking her tit. Yes I am a sub sissy faggot cocksucker - yes I am sucking your tit like a cock. Dry hump her while you are sucking her tit like a cock and you might just cum on her leg or in your panties.

Email me back (robbiewillsucku at gm ail) and tell me how she responded and what you are doing now to please her.

 

[Phun Times 727]

After a very long time I have an update on this thread.

Our original choice for a guy a year ago, our best friend that was dating a the girl who insisted on condoms even within her own relationship, is now single- ish. This was our first choice as the three of us used to hang out all the time. He and the GF are officially on a break. I met up with him for a beer last weekend and he told me they are no longer living together and it is likely over for good but they are calling it taking a break. Either way they are both free to date etc. although it was only within last couple of days that it happened. A light came on in my head thinking this could be a good thing.

I got home and mentioned it to my wife thinking she would be surprised/excited and maybe we could look at finishing the business we started a year ago. She wasn't surprised. Apparently he text her right after it happened to tell her. The only surprise was on my part when she told me we have a date set up. Fantastic planning and execution on my wife's part. It has been a bit uncomfortable over the last year hanging out with him and his GF given the tension.
I guess he is moving into a new place and busy until beginning of the month. This timeframe works perfectly with a mission we have set a goal of abstaining from any sex during March as we look at next steps in the hotwife life. This date will be a very welcome wetting of our palette for the three of us.

 

[coastalkid]

After a very long time I have an update on this thread.

Our original choice for a guy a year ago, our best friend that was dating a the girl who insisted on condoms even within her own relationship, is now single- ish. This was our first choice as the three of us used to hang out all the time. He and the GF are officially on a break. I met up with him for a beer last weekend and he told me they are no longer living together and it is likely over for good but they are calling it taking a break. Either way they are both free to date etc. although it was only within last couple of days that it happened. A light came on in my head thinking this could be a good thing.

I got home and mentioned it to my wife thinking she would be surprised/excited and maybe we could look at finishing the business we started a year ago. She wasn't surprised. Apparently he text her right after it happened to tell her. The only surprise was on my part when she told me we have a date set up. Fantastic planning and execution on my wife's part. It has been a bit uncomfortable over the last year hanging out with him and his GF given the tension.
I guess he is moving into a new place and busy until beginning of the month. This timeframe works perfectly with a mission we have set a goal of abstaining from any sex during March as we look at next steps in the hotwife life. This date will be a very welcome wetting of our palette for the three of us.

What prompted the "abstaining from sex" during March? Is it just you abstaining or both of you?

 

[Phun Times 727]

What prompted the "abstaining from sex" during March? Is it just you abstaining or both of you?

We're Catholic. Giving it up for Lent lol. Not really

Long story, easier to link you.

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So following a year of an extra marital relationship with another male, my wife and I are discovering we may have an interest in further exploring the hotwife lifestyle. For the last 9 months or so we have been getting very close with a friend of hers that is a long time hotwife. My wife has known her for several years but only in the last year discovered this common ground they share. This friendship has been very valuable to us in dealing with our feelings and gaining knowledge of the lifestyle. We have flirted with it and done some fun "games" like the hotwife challenge where the woman...

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[Weldon&Marie]

Hi, so my wife is 44, and we have been married for 23 years. We are in a happy relationship, but I have known for a very long time I've wanted to share her with another guy.
When things like swinging ever get mentioned on TV I can guarantee she will say "I don't get how they'd do it,it's weird".
The following has taken place over last 3-4 years.....
Anyway, in the car it was being discussed on the radio. She says her usual phrase, and to my surprise I responded/blurted out, "oh I don't know a mfm would be fun, like having a real life dildo". She was quiet for about 30 seconds then said "no,it would be against our wedding vows, its best we stay as we are ".
We use realistic dildos we refer to as he, and I tell her she looks beautiful taking me and him, and she's said in throes of passion she loves two cocks.
I've tried the, "I had a dream you were being pounded from behind, and I was sat in the room, watching and jerking, it was really hot", I then showed her I was hard just thinking about it. She called me a kinky sod, and brought it up a couple of times to laugh the next few days.
She loves sex and we have a great sex life, we'll, pretty good, she has even got me to start tying her to the bed with some light bdsm- which she loves.
So, your thoughts on whether I'm in a dream world, stuck with fantasy forever, or I'd there a chance? And if so, how do I press it home, what's my next move. If your answer is "just tell her" (which is fair), please give me a way to do so.
Thanks for your time, and sorry for the long message.

My wife and I were in the same situation, I thought she would be ready to leave me if I suggested any thing remotely about swinging even though she had an affair several years prior to this. I summoned up all my courage and ask her if she would be willing to join this site (Wife wants to play) and to my astonishment she said sure why not. She even poses for pics and loves the comments. She is still reluctant to chatting she tried once but said the guy was too pushy but she has chatted with several others and enjoyed it she don't like push men. Anyway just come out and ask her, She might surprise the hell out of you. Good luck my friend.