My wife, our situation, your thoughts

A brief update, we went to a surprise birthday last night for a frriend and they were there, we really did not think they would be but at least we got to have a couple drinks and chat. Because we were at a party we couldn't discuss the situation itself but I am hoping it helps to lower any reservations. I was thinking to myself twice in the last week my wife swallowed his cum and I know he has to be just burning to get inside her yet it hasn't happened. This had me seated most of the night as I was rock hard. I casually placed my wife's hand on my lap so she would know. She gave me the look to acknowledge my raging boner. We are both at a bit of a loss as to what is going on with them and hopefully we get to the next stage soon enough as this has been awkward and a bit of a mystery. Has anyone else experienced this type of thing where you begin a relationship with other that indicate they are in but when it comes time they show up, get naked and yet stay at the not quite there zone for multiple encounters?
 
So I asked my wife via text if she felt they thought his GF was comfortable in joining them. (I switched names to me and her for discretion)

We are at a loss for what is going on with her FMF.


me: So do you think may they are just holding back thinking you are not comfortable with one of both of them in this stuation? Possibly the way it was presented they thought maybe you were just going along and were not really into it?

her:There is no way. I was there, I stripped down first and helped her unbutton her top. He was half hard pretty much as soon as he got undressed and she kissed me so I think we were all good to go.

me: So did things seem to go OK like they weren't resisting something were they? I know she doesn't do oral. do you think you intimidated her?

her: I waited on her to start and she just sat there so I put his dick in my mouth, he sure seemed to like that. He had no problem coming in my mouth (no offense). She seemed mildy interested but only willing to rub his dick with her had a few times afterward. I really thought that would get them going and he would fuck her but nothing.

me: Maybe after coming he needed sometime to get ready again?

her: He had time, she rubbed him a bit so I took him in my mouth again just to get him ready, really thought we would have sex at that point, one of both of us would fuck him.

me: Do you think he knew you were willing to do that.

her: He knew!

me: Are you sure he wasn't just hard but actually wanted to proceed?

her: I know he has been attracted to me since we forst stared hanging out with him in 2020. He was ready.

me: But did you motion it was OK, maybe he was not sure you were OK with him advancing to next level.

her: he was rock hard, I turned around on all fours and he put his hand on my waist like he was going to fuck me, I reached back and felt his cock thinking maybe I should guide him in first time. He deliberately dropped his hips too low to avoid getting in me.

me: I don't know then. What about her?

her: She was just sitting there. Maybe she was wondering if he was gonna go for it. I think she is a little jealous.

me: so why didn't he just fuck her?

her: Exactly.

me: I am confused, you know what I would have done.

her: I do . I gave him a second chance later after she was rubbing him again I had just kinda layed there watching. Its like that is all she does is rub his cock and he doesn't touch her much. I thought maybe try again so after she had him hard I licked his dick without sucking it, like a lolipop, just to moisten it. He was on his knees and I was laying to my side so I just went backwards and laid in missionary.

me: Did he understand he should make a move?

her: He didn't have to. I was ready, very ready at this point and frustrated. I slid my hips toward him and hooked my heels behind his hamstrings and pulled in, he put his hands down beside me like he was about to mount me, I could feel the heat coming off him and his cock, I reached down again to guide him . I very ready for him by that point. He laid it on me, I could feel his dick lay on my vagina but he didn't put it in. Thats why I bailed.

me: You hadn't told me that part.

her: I was very horny at this point and I feel like they are playing headgames. Have me suck your cock multiple times and try to have sex with you and go so far as to try to put you in me and you do nothing? I don't know if this is part of the buildup and I am supposed to get off on it but it is making me uncomfortable and sexually frustrated. She has been weird too.

me: Oh that I know. Give it another go you think or move on?

her: let me think it over on my drive today.
 
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After much mystery I texted him and we met up for a beer.

I know feel sorry for this guy knowing what he told me. He and his girl have been together 3.5 years and she still insists they use condoms (bear in mind she does not do oral).. He did say he was absolutely dying after my wife sucked his cock dry, got him hard again and tried to get him in here to just rest his cock on top of her pussy while his girl stared on disapproving. I could not imagine this life

So the entire reason He has not put it in either woman is his will not allow him to do so without a condom and does not want him to be able to do my wife without one. Not sure how she is gonna feel about that as she has no baby making equipment left in her and is squeaky clean.

So I have to sit down with my wife tonight and talk it over as to whether or not it is worth doing in her opinion.
 
This cruddy cell phone pic that his girl shot , (despite them saying no filming) is the only pic I have gotten out of this so far. My girl doing what she does so damn well and getting in deep on that cock and swallowing every drop, and his girl will not do oral. He has to be questioning things after two of the best blowjobs ever done on any man. My girl goes all out.

We may try to do one more try at this some night this week.
 

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This cruddy cell phone pic that his girl shot , (despite them saying no filming) is the only pic I have gotten out of this so far. My girl doing what she does so damn well and getting in deep on that cock and swallowing every drop, and his girl will not do oral. He has to be questioning things after two of the best blowjobs ever done on any man. My girl goes all out.

We may try to do one more try at this some night this week.
Sounds like you guys made him a lucky guy for a short time. Clearly he needs to do better on who he dates. There’s nothing worse then bad sex in a marriage or relationship. My wife and I have great sex but i can’t get her to take that next step. We’ve regressed as she’s feeling guilty of the thought even though she’s had some great orgasms at times while role playing. I’m going to sit back and back off and see how she responds. Sounds like you and your wife who just from that angle looks hot probably need to move on from that square couple to something more your speed.
 
Sounds like you guys made him a lucky guy for a short time. Clearly he needs to do better on who he dates. There’s nothing worse then bad sex in a marriage or relationship. My wife and I have great sex but i can’t get her to take that next step. We’ve regressed as she’s feeling guilty of the thought even though she’s had some great orgasms at times while role playing. I’m going to sit back and back off and see how she responds. Sounds like you and your wife who just from that angle looks hot probably need to move on from that square couple to something more your speed.
Oh she is hot and fully oral. We are talking about some other options if above does nt work out. I didn't realize wife was talking to a gf of hers about how weird this has been since she also knows the couple. They may have some ideas.
 

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The big red flag here is that the gf wouldn't do oral. How does anyone expect to be in a three-way with two other people, regardless of their sex, if they don't do oral? The other red flag is the jealousy. If she made her partner feel bad about putting his cock in your wife, then nobodies getting anywhere.
Move on to another couple, or another couple of guys.
 
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The big red flag here is that the gf wouldn't do oral. How does anyone expect to be in a three-way with two other people, regardless of their sex, if they don't do oral? The other red flag is the jealousy. If she made her partner feel bad about putting his cock in your wife, then nobodies getting anywhere.
Move on to another couple, or another couple of guys.

We have moved on, well she has anyway. We are at the other end of the spectrum right now. Trying to find our way.
 
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This cruddy cell phone pic that his girl shot , (despite them saying no filming) is the only pic I have gotten out of this so far. My girl doing what she does so damn well and getting in deep on that cock and swallowing every drop, and his girl will not do oral. He has to be questioning things after two of the best blowjobs ever done on any man. My girl goes all out.

We may try to do one more try at this some night this week.
Sweet baby Jesus is she hot. No wonder the other chic is jealous
 
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Yes she is and that ship has sailed. We decided not worth the effort/too many strings attached for a no strings attached fun threesome meant to be a get the feet wet sampler. We do have a new path set and I think we are pretty happy with what we have.
You too sound anazimg we have been in.tve lifestyle fir 5 years it has been very rewarding
.My hotwife says she coukd never go back to a one cock woman..Feel free to ask me anything Bob
 
You too sound anazimg we have been in.tve lifestyle fir 5 years it has been very rewarding
.My hotwife says she coukd never go back to a one cock woman..Feel free to ask me anything Bob
Wow, thanks. Well I do have a question as it is on our table right now. She and I are home. Her friend was not as sinster as I thought, was really just trying to prep us both that our relationship could change and we need to be ready/sure we want that. The other thing she was trying to get me to understand is my wife may not want to be my personal porn actress ready to perform at will, she needs to want to do whatever we do and that could mean a couple of things. Obviously this lifestyle has many flavors. Our would be where I remain her lover and possibly share her. How we share is the next question.
We gave a couple options. First, her friend just got divoced and is seeing a guy who is very adrasive/not too friendly but that go at it like wild animals. Her friend has told all of us about his very large tool. Her friend brought my wife in with themthe other night. Not all details have come out yet. He is not into MFM, I would not be able to watch. No connection just sport sex.

The other option is she met a guy who is pretty cool and substanitally younger, I believe 10 years younger than my wife , malikng him 20 younger than me They hung out most of the week. We had lunch with him today to talk. It felt weird, like the oddest ever but really after a couple of moments we all kind of acknowledged it was awkard but we had fun. I though we were meeting to establish ground rules etc but we really just hung out. I wanted to ask all the questions about what they had done but it just seemed too prying He has a lot of common interests (beside sex with my wife). We do a lot of the same activities, hang out at similar places but he lives 90 minutes away. I think that is a nice buffer where if and when we go that route we can do so but not like we would be seeing all the time. No idea what his package is like but she seemed to have enough interest for him to be considered.

So mean giant bull or fun friendly young guy who would be good to her and is cool to MFM if we chose to do so

Is this something we can look at like a relationship thing? Initially I was approaching like it was a dildo with a heartbeat but I am seeing it might be more comlex. If she just wants to go somewhere to get drilled option 1 is for sure way to go, but I want to be a part of it so I have to think about her and her desires. If she chooses that I need to be comfortable with her leaving for a few hours and returning split open.

On the other hand we have the weirdness of a boyfriend thing.

When the check came for lunch waitress joked with my wife and asked if her husband knew her boyfriend would be at lunch. We all laughed but my wife quickly told her I was her husband and the other guy was her boyfriend I approved of. She gave my girl a high five and asked me if its true. I affirmed it and she was in awe of my wife.

I sort of thought tonight was going to be some action for the 3 of us but I think it is more of talking time. As long as I get the nitty gritty details of the last 4 days I am going to be very busy servicing my girl.
 
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Wow, thanks. Well I do have a question as it is on our table right now. She and I are home. Her friend was not as sinster as I thought, was really just trying to prep us both that our relationship could change and we need to be ready/sure we want that. The other thing she was trying to get me to understand is my wife may not want to be my personal porn actress ready to perform at will, she needs to want to do whatever we do and that could mean a couple of things. Obviously this lifestyle has many flavors. Our would be where I remain her lover and possibly share her. How we share is the next question.
We gave a couple options. First, her friend just got divoced and is seeing a guy who is very adrasive/not too friendly but that go at it like wild animals. Her friend has told all of us about his very large tool. Her friend brought my wife in with themthe other night. Not all details have come out yet. He is not into MFM, I would not be able to watch. No connection just sport sex.

The other option is she met a guy who is pretty cool and substanitally younger, I believe 10 years younger than my wife , malikng him 20 younger than me They hung out most of the week. We had lunch with him today to talk. It felt weird, like the oddest ever but really after a couple of moments we all kind of acknowledged it was awkard but we had fun. I though we were meeting to establish ground rules etc but we really just hung out. I wanted to ask all the questions about what they had done but it just seemed too prying He has a lot of common interests (beside sex with my wife). We do a lot of the same activities, hang out at similar places but he lives 90 minutes away. I think that is a nice buffer where if and when we go that route we can do so but not like we would be seeing all the time. No idea what his package is like but she seemed to have enough interest for him to be considered.

So mean giant bull or fun friendly young guy who would be good to her and is cool to MFM if we chose to do so

Is this something we can look at like a relationship thing? Initially I was approaching like it was a dildo with a heartbeat but I am seeing it might be more comlex. If she just wants to go somewhere to get drilled option 1 is for sure way to go, but I want to be a part of it so I have to think about her and her desires. If she chooses that I need to be comfortable with her leaving for a few hours and returning split open.

On the other hand we have the weirdness of a boyfriend thing.

When the check came for lunch waitress joked with my wife and asked if her husband knew her boyfriend would be at lunch. We all laughed but my wife quickly told her I was her husband and the other guy was her boyfriend I approved of. She gave my girl a high five and asked me if its true. I affirmed it and she was in awe of my wife.

I sort of thought tonight was going to be some action for the 3 of us but I think it is more of talking time. As long as I get the nitty gritty details of the last 4 days I am going to be very busy servicing my girl.
Just always be open to.one another I suggest if you go this route dont let it be a controlling one sided relationship let her ay in tine alone but with openess domt let it be one guy in time ley her play with a dufferent guys occasionally not a 3 way just her and a guy and let your wife and him.be totally ope. .My hotwife hzs three regular guys that she sees one of tbem about every 3/5 weeks. 1 final thong TALK TALK TALK ITS A MUST.ask.me znything thing you cam.PM ME IF YOU WANT BOB
 
This cruddy cell phone pic that his girl shot , (despite them saying no filming) is the only pic I have gotten out of this so far. My girl doing what she does so damn well and getting in deep on that cock and swallowing every drop, and his girl will not do oral. He has to be questioning things after two of the best blowjobs ever done on any man. My girl goes all out.

We may try to do one more try at this some night this week.
looks like she's making eye contact as she's sucking his cock, too
 
Hi, so my wife is 44, and we have been married for 23 years. We are in a happy relationship, but I have known for a very long time I've wanted to share her with another guy.
When things like swinging ever get mentioned on TV I can guarantee she will say "I don't get how they'd do it,it's weird".
The following has taken place over last 3-4 years.....
Anyway, in the car it was being discussed on the radio. She says her usual phrase, and to my surprise I responded/blurted out, "oh I don't know a mfm would be fun, like having a real life dildo". She was quiet for about 30 seconds then said "no,it would be against our wedding vows, its best we stay as we are ".
We use realistic dildos we refer to as he, and I tell her she looks beautiful taking me and him, and she's said in throes of passion she loves two cocks.
I've tried the, "I had a dream you were being pounded from behind, and I was sat in the room, watching and jerking, it was really hot", I then showed her I was hard just thinking about it. She called me a kinky sod, and brought it up a couple of times to laugh the next few days.
She loves sex and we have a great sex life, we'll, pretty good, she has even got me to start tying her to the bed with some light bdsm- which she loves.
So, your thoughts on whether I'm in a dream world, stuck with fantasy forever, or I'd there a chance? And if so, how do I press it home, what's my next move. If your answer is "just tell her" (which is fair), please give me a way to do so.
Thanks for your time, and sorry for the long message.
My situation is a bit different after a few years of doing the fantasy thing bringing in another guy the wife would get off on the idea. She loved watching a look alike porn sucking two cocks either BBC or BWC. The issue is she is so body conscious and refuses to do anything until she thinks she looks better. She is a very attractive blonde 5,1 130.great B tits and a nice bald pussy, nice ass. it's the middle she hates no matter how much I try to build her up it's still a no go
 
My wife and I talked about hot wiring for a while and she was hot on the idea one day and hell no on the next. We started listening to the Strictly Anonymous podcasts on YouTube and that really got her interested and excited about it. She’s technically not a hot wife yet (I have shared her in swinging experiences) but has met a guy twice and has committed to him she’s “taking it to the next level” the next time they meet. We’re hosting at our place, probably next week, we’re both excited!
My situation is a bit different my wife gets off on the idea of sucking another guys cock black or white. The problem is she is so body conscious that she won't let me see her naked let alone someone else. She is a very attractive Blonde 5,1 great 32B tits nice ass and amazing bald pussy..it's the middle she hates. No amount of building her up or showing her other woman who hide the not so good areas. So unless she loses weight it's a no go.
 
My situation is a bit different my wife gets off on the idea of sucking another guys cock black or white. The problem is she is so body conscious that she won't let me see her naked let alone someone else. She is a very attractive Blonde 5,1 great 32B tits nice ass and amazing bald pussy..it's the middle she hates. No amount of building her up or showing her other woman who hide the not so good areas. So unless she loses weight it's a no go.
My wife has the exact same issue regarding her appearance. She has gained weight over the years and is very self-conscious about it. She's far from being grossly over weight, she's more of a "BBW".

Any time we are in public and I see extremely skinny women I always tell her that they are not very appealing to me and that I like my women with curves! NOTHING I say has ANY impact on her attitude. It's all dismissed as "a husband's bias". I'm in the same boat as you. Until she wants to put in the effort to lose weight I'll always be fighting that all important "first" battle before I can start the next battle to get her to open her mind to the possibility.
 
Mine does want to lose the weight so I told her I'd help her with weight lifting and aerobics. Since I do the cooking I can customize our meals to be low carb as well as portion control. I hope it works.
 
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