A massage always works if she is on the fence or hesitant, but secretly horny lol.
As a professional and cert. Massage therapist for 20 yrs at the time, I stumbled into doing sensual and erotic massages for couples/wives in 93... after the first few I made it an offering and advertised it on CL, separate from my regular practice as a way for couples curious about Swinging to wade into the waters. It always worked.
It REALLY helps if you (hubby) gets a massage too... it helps make her more comfortable that you are there...
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