It's not really a question of making him do anything - it's the things we enjoy doing together. Hubby loves me fucking other guys - if he's not present, he'll lick me clean while I tell him the details.
When he is present, he loves sucking a guys cock, before or after it's been inside me and he enjoys encouraging the guy to fuck me by guiding his cock into me.
As for him getting fucked, it doesn't happen that often (not often enough for him anyway ) but not infrequently either.
I love watching him sucking or getting fucked as I find it very erotic and it really turns me on xx