30’s too late? Ha, hopefully lots of life left in front of him!
From experience I’ll say it’s a tough subject to broach and work through. Therapy is a good start but it’s a big step for a guy relative to this or any other situation. I learned through our therapy I was “situationally sexually fluid” or experience “sexual fluidity”. That is my willingness or desire changes based on situation. According to our therapist it’s very common amongst men in alternative lifestyle marriages.
I would say it’s important for you to understand his desire or willingness may also be situational. We were also warned not to put a label on or perceive what myself or my wife’s activities are. Gay, bi, etc and so on makes it more difficult and judgmental. We discovered that inhibits us and is ostracizing due to internal shame or misconceptions (therapy babble but true). Perhaps your husband is the same?
I’ll finish with this. You and your husbands preferences may be very different for those situations. I would say take it slow, support him, and discover what works for both of you. My wife really gets off to me servicing a couple of the bisexual bulls shes had through our time. I enjoy it in the moment but it’s not something I would do outside of when they are fucking her. On the other hand, my preferred and anytime hook ups are with a couple fellow cuckolds with which we share a bond of our wives being fucked together or separately by their bulls. Like with other men I have no outward meaningful desire based on appearance or sexual drive. But the bond of being cuckolds and experiencing our wives and bulls playing together makes them very appealing. We exchange photos of our wives, watch videos of our wives with their bulls, etc. It’s great, meaningful, and at times passionate sex but it ends after that.
Hope that helps as it’s a lot.
