How to convince bi hubby to just go for it?

I'm seeking advice on my bisexual husband. This may need to be moved to the bisexual forum, if so please move

For a few years my husband and I have often role-play situations such as him watching me fuck another guy, us sharing a guy or me watching him. We got close to all three scenarios but something would happen (family situation, car accident etc). For me personally the hottest scenario is me watching him with another guy. The thought of another man dominating my husband like he fantasies about gets me so wet

Lately my husband and I went through a rough spot sex wise. Lots of married couples can tell you it happens. Finally we are starting to get back to normal.

The other day I decided to kink it up and told him to pick any porn he wanted. He chose an interracial gay porn. It was hot and we dirty talked him getting it from a BBC while I watched and down the line participated. He came so hard and then I used my toy continuing to think about watching him getting pounded.

Later I told him " we are back on track, let's start looking for a guy for you and us babe" and then he told me something that hurt me.

He said he feels like less of a man and that he feels guilty for even thinking about the fantasy outside of the bedroom. He also thinks now that he's a few years older it's to late(he's not even mid thirties lol) to find someone. He thinks being submissive in the bedroom is bad .

This is an off and on thing with him. He struggles to accept that he's a bisexual submissive guy. I support him and tell him how life's short and we should look into it . He admits he wants to try men but feels to much shame.

Any thoughts? I told him he should look into a sex positive therapist but he says he doesn't know if he has time sigh.
 
I'm seeking advice on my bisexual husband. This may need to be moved to the bisexual forum, if so please move

For a few years my husband and I have often role-play situations such as him watching me fuck another guy, us sharing a guy or me watching him. We got close to all three scenarios but something would happen (family situation, car accident etc). For me personally the hottest scenario is me watching him with another guy. The thought of another man dominating my husband like he fantasies about gets me so wet

Lately my husband and I went through a rough spot sex wise. Lots of married couples can tell you it happens. Finally we are starting to get back to normal.

The other day I decided to kink it up and told him to pick any porn he wanted. He chose an interracial gay porn. It was hot and we dirty talked him getting it from a BBC while I watched and down the line participated. He came so hard and then I used my toy continuing to think about watching him getting pounded.

Later I told him " we are back on track, let's start looking for a guy for you and us babe" and then he told me something that hurt me.

He said he feels like less of a man and that he feels guilty for even thinking about the fantasy outside of the bedroom. He also thinks now that he's a few years older it's to late(he's not even mid thirties lol) to find someone. He thinks being submissive in the bedroom is bad .

This is an off and on thing with him. He struggles to accept that he's a bisexual submissive guy. I support him and tell him how life's short and we should look into it . He admits he wants to try men but feels to much shame.

Any thoughts? I told him he should look into a sex positive therapist but he says he doesn't know if he has time sigh.
Don't push him. It's very normal he feels guilty sometimes. He will turn back to fantasy very soon and you are gonna watch him taking a big cock.
 
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I guess we were a little different, she has always been the dom one and me the submissive one. I told her I had a fantasy of sucking a guys cock. One night I got home off the road a bit later, when I walked in there was a guy there, thought maybe someone she knew. She had a drink waiting for me. I sat down and had a sip of my drink as we started talking. She told me to down the drink as she wanted to watch me suck this guys cock. I quickly drank my drink, she told me to stand up and get naked, told the guy to turn to me so she could watch us make out before I dropped to my knees and sucked his cock.