What should I do? (Husband caught masturbating to porn)

[jess8eris5]

Hi there!

Some of you may be surprised at the title.
Briefly what it's about: Unfortunately, my husband now comes too early and no longer satisfies me. That's why I'm looking for ways to help him. He still doesn't want to go to the doctor. I've had lots of interesting and helpful conversations here. As a result, I've now reached the point where a third person is the best way to satisfy me. I had already spoken to him about my wish. But he didn't agree. Cheating is no option for me. I still want my husband to agree to this.

I usually go to bed before him. He then watches some TV. Last night I woke up and had to go to the toilet. When I went out of the bedroom I heard noises that didn't match the TV. I walked towards the living room and saw that my husband was watching porn on the tablet and jerking off. I don't know what exactly he was watching. He didn't notice me and I quietly walked back towards the bathroom.
I haven't spoken to him yet. I wanted to know your opinion first. I know he masturbates. But catching him doing it was a surprise.
Can I somehow use this as an opportunity to persuade him or am I reading too much into it?

Thanks for any advices!

 

[Wannabecuck895]

Hi there!

Some of you may be surprised at the title.
Briefly what it's about: Unfortunately, my husband now comes too early and no longer satisfies me. That's why I'm looking for ways to help him. He still doesn't want to go to the doctor. I've had lots of interesting and helpful conversations here. As a result, I've now reached the point where a third person is the best way to satisfy me. I had already spoken to him about my wish. But he didn't agree. Cheating is no option for me. I still want my husband to agree to this.

I usually go to bed before him. He then watches some TV. Last night I woke up and had to go to the toilet. When I went out of the bedroom I heard noises that didn't match the TV. I walked towards the living room and saw that my husband was watching porn on the tablet and jerking off. I don't know what exactly he was watching. He didn't notice me and I quietly walked back towards the bathroom.
I haven't spoken to him yet. I wanted to know your opinion first. I know he masturbates. But catching him doing it was a surprise.
Can I somehow use this as an opportunity to persuade him or am I reading too much into it?

Thanks for any advices!

Tell him you saw him masturbating and you do not mind that he does. Say you want to satisfy him also and want to know more about what excites him and that you would like to be involved in any way you can.

 

[majorem]

Can I somehow use this as an opportunity to persuade him or am I reading too much into it?

I think without knowing what he's watching, you're reading into it too much - its pretty normal for men to masturbate to porn and, by itself, doesn't really mean anything.

If you have access to the tablet, you could try looking into the browser history to see what porn he viewed and if any of it is threesome or cuckold related. Of course, its possible he cleared the history but might be worth checking.

If you want to coax him in the direction you want, you could mention that you saw him masturbating to porn and could say you want to watch porn with him sometime and maybe masturbate together. Then you could steer the video selections in the direction you like.

I think whether you're a woman trying to convince her husband or a husband trying to convince a wife, one element of it that is the same, is that you need to introduce the fantasy to your partner gradually, in a way that gets them sexually interested and thinking about it on their own, first as a fantasy, so that it can become a shared fantasy before you try moving to reality.

If you just get him watching the right porn, make suggestive comments, maybe go for a girls night out and jokingly tease him about what you might be up to, it will all help plant the idea in his head and he will naturally think about it and nature will take its course. If you do it right, he will become increasingly turned on by the idea - the danger though, is if your husband is insecure, he may just get jealous and paranoid. You will have to feel this out as you go and course-correct if necessary.

 

[wife1985]

Hey there,

Still here, will you send me a PN please?

 

[surry]

Join him and you to do what the couple is doing. Look at cuckold porn and what YOU like. Get a toy and have him use it on you as you look at porn. Tell your sex thoughts from when you were a teen to now. Learn to enjoy sex in all forms. Train each other.

 

[toolman2c]

Hi there!

Some of you may be surprised at the title.
Briefly what it's about: Unfortunately, my husband now comes too early and no longer satisfies me. That's why I'm looking for ways to help him. He still doesn't want to go to the doctor. I've had lots of interesting and helpful conversations here. As a result, I've now reached the point where a third person is the best way to satisfy me. I had already spoken to him about my wish. But he didn't agree. Cheating is no option for me. I still want my husband to agree to this.

I usually go to bed before him. He then watches some TV. Last night I woke up and had to go to the toilet. When I went out of the bedroom I heard noises that didn't match the TV. I walked towards the living room and saw that my husband was watching porn on the tablet and jerking off. I don't know what exactly he was watching. He didn't notice me and I quietly walked back towards the bathroom.
I haven't spoken to him yet. I wanted to know your opinion first. I know he masturbates. But catching him doing it was a surprise.
Can I somehow use this as an opportunity to persuade him or am I reading too much into it?

Thanks for any advices!

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[Sandycheeks4242]

I’d love for him to catch you watching porn and maybe even try and watch it together! I think if you take small steps, I bet you and he will get even more close while trying some wild experiences.

Btw love your profile pic 😉

 

[Bjorn]

Hi there!

Some of you may be surprised at the title.
Briefly what it's about: Unfortunately, my husband now comes too early and no longer satisfies me. That's why I'm looking for ways to help him. He still doesn't want to go to the doctor. I've had lots of interesting and helpful conversations here. As a result, I've now reached the point where a third person is the best way to satisfy me. I had already spoken to him about my wish. But he didn't agree. Cheating is no option for me. I still want my husband to agree to this.

I usually go to bed before him. He then watches some TV. Last night I woke up and had to go to the toilet. When I went out of the bedroom I heard noises that didn't match the TV. I walked towards the living room and saw that my husband was watching porn on the tablet and jerking off. I don't know what exactly he was watching. He didn't notice me and I quietly walked back towards the bathroom.
I haven't spoken to him yet. I wanted to know your opinion first. I know he masturbates. But catching him doing it was a surprise.
Can I somehow use this as an opportunity to persuade him or am I reading too much into it?

Thanks for any advices!

Don't read too much into it. First I would say approach him and let him know you observed his actions. Maybe ask him what "he likes to watch". Mybe suggest joining him and having mutual masturbation. Then you could make suggestions as to what you like to see. There are multiple options here. Saying nothing doesn't do either of you well. Maybe you could both receive some satisfaction with a conversation.

 

[coastalkid]

I agree with several of the other posters, I wouldn't read to much into it. My wife has caught me more than once masturbating to porn. She has openly admitted that she doesn't need sex as much as I do. That kind of hurt but she was honest. My trouble was that her lack of need manifested into a routine that made me feel she was having sex with me out of obligation and not because she wanted it. I got to feeling that she knew she couldn't ignore it and she was only half-hearted about it. It wasn't fun and I got to where I struggled to get hard for her.

The porn for me is because I don't get the frequency I'd like. It also offers glimpses of things outside the routine sex my wife and I have. I like sex. I feel far from satisfying my quota for fucking. The porn is a poor substitute for the real thing in the long run.

We finally had a serious discussion and she made some changes in her attitude and behavior about our sex. My wife isn't a hot wife but now she teases about it in bed. She never did that before. We've been having more frequent sex than ever before here of late. Lately I've made it a point to say after every session with her, "Wow! That was great! SO much better than masturbating to porn!" Instead of being put off at the mention of porn, she took it the other way, as the compliment it was intended to be. As a result our frequency is much better and the fun is too!

 

[nicebiguy]

Hi there!

Some of you may be surprised at the title.
Briefly what it's about: Unfortunately, my husband now comes too early and no longer satisfies me. That's why I'm looking for ways to help him. He still doesn't want to go to the doctor. I've had lots of interesting and helpful conversations here. As a result, I've now reached the point where a third person is the best way to satisfy me. I had already spoken to him about my wish. But he didn't agree. Cheating is no option for me. I still want my husband to agree to this.

I usually go to bed before him. He then watches some TV. Last night I woke up and had to go to the toilet. When I went out of the bedroom I heard noises that didn't match the TV. I walked towards the living room and saw that my husband was watching porn on the tablet and jerking off. I don't know what exactly he was watching. He didn't notice me and I quietly walked back towards the bathroom.
I haven't spoken to him yet. I wanted to know your opinion first. I know he masturbates. But catching him doing it was a surprise.
Can I somehow use this as an opportunity to persuade him or am I reading too much into it?

Thanks for any advices!

My guess is he's watching bi/gay porn. A lot of "straight" guys do it.

 

[rifleman]

Maybe he's just masturbating to get rid of the urgency so he can last longer with you

 

[Toszka]

As you describe it there is just a problem that he doesnt like to fuck you. During a long time together it is normal the desire gets less. I would offer him to have sex with other women. If he is just too lazy help him that he meets somebody and gets a mood to fuck.
After he will be open...possible next step a swinger club together....small steps but always be consequent

 

[Kevin77]

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