My current wife, no.
Howeve, my ex and I used to swing. She would tell me to find someone at the club and have a good time. BUT if I did find a woman to play with, my ex would find something to bitch at me about all the way home.
It got to the point where I could not perform. One night the other woman gave up on me and I literally crawled to my ex after she was done and begged her to get me off.
After that, I told her to just fuck round and I would watch. And that was what she did.
In retrospect, I now realize that she was psychologically dominating me and got the control she wanted On one hand I wish this had been more clear but OTOH it was probably best the way it evolved with the emotional and psychological ...... I needed and deserved.