My wife & I make love often, she nor I have any desire for other men to make love to her. When we play with others it's just for sexual fun, love has nothing to do with it. We only meet with men that are polite & respectful to both of us.
That being said, when the sex starts I like to see her respectfully used like a slut because that's what she enjoys. There's nothing she loves more than getting gang banged & used like a slut by a group of BBC's. When it's just me & 1 other guy for MFM fun she wants us both to use her like a slut. When we are playing with others me and the other men position her, play with her, and use her however we wish within the limits that her & I set prior to meeting. There is never any ...... or humiliation of anyone involved.