His Secret Fantasy

[LaurenTries]

For a few years now I know that my husband has had a secret fantasy about the “cheating wife”. I have found porn on his computer and sites where he reads stories about it. Last year, we were at a wedding and he was very ...... and when we were having sex he dirty talked directly about how hot it would be if I was cheating on him. He doesn’t remember that night much but the fact that he said it out loud made me believe it is a real fantasy and it’s what he wants.

So I would like to know opinions of whether or not I am doing something good or bad right now. For the last 6 months I have been cheating on him. He doesn’t know that I am. He is secretly living his fantasy and the stories he reads and porn he watches is happening in real life. I sometimes feel guilty like I am doing something wrong but other times I get very excited about it all.

I think I am giving him what he wants and I will eventually tell him about it. I am nervous about finally telling him, but so excited to to reveal that I have been giving him his biggest fantasy.

 

[mirella.hango]

if you trust that communication between both of you is good then tell him, I don't think he'll be upset if he likes to cheat on him, for example you can ask him if he wants to tell him before or after you fuck

 

[LaurenTries]

if you trust that communication between both of you is good then tell him, I don't think he'll be upset if he likes to cheat on him, for example you can ask him if he wants to tell him before or after you fuck

I want to tell him but am planning to do it as a surprise for our anniversary. As crazy as this sounds, I feel like I am kind of being romantic. I am secretly fulfilling his fantasy then I am going to tell him about it as a surprise. I am hoping he just loves what I am doing for him.

 

[mirella.hango]

I want to tell him but am planning to do it as a surprise for our anniversary. As crazy as this sounds, I feel like I am kind of being romantic. I am secretly fulfilling his fantasy then I am going to tell him about it as a surprise. I am hoping he just loves what I am doing for him.

it means that you have chosen a very good moment, but in the end I would like to believe that you are doing it primarily for yourself, not for him

 

[LaurenTries]

it means that you have chosen a very good moment, but in the end I would like to believe that you are doing it primarily for yourself, not for him

I think I took the initial step because it was his fantasy. But in doing it I have found a lot of excitement for myself

 

[mirella.hango]

I think I took the initial step because it was his fantasy. But in doing it I have found a lot of excitement for myself

that's what it's all about, to feel as good as possible and to live life to the fullest, and he needs to understand that and support you through his unconditional acceptance.

 

[LaurenTries]

that's what it's all about, to feel as good as possible and to live life to the fullest, and he needs to understand that and support you through his unconditional acceptance.

That is what I am hoping for. I want him to be happy that I took this step and support me continuing in the lifestyle.

 

[keylife022]

For a few years now I know that my husband has had a secret fantasy about the “cheating wife”. I have found porn on his computer and sites where he reads stories about it. Last year, we were at a wedding and he was very ...... and when we were having sex he dirty talked directly about how hot it would be if I was cheating on him. He doesn’t remember that night much but the fact that he said it out loud made me believe it is a real fantasy and it’s what he wants.

So I would like to know opinions of whether or not I am doing something good or bad right now. For the last 6 months I have been cheating on him. He doesn’t know that I am. He is secretly living his fantasy and the stories he reads and porn he watches is happening in real life. I sometimes feel guilty like I am doing something wrong but other times I get very excited about it all.

I think I am giving him what he wants and I will eventually tell him about it. I am nervous about finally telling him, but so excited to to reveal that I have been giving him his biggest fantasy.

You’ve got to tell him. Then you have to leave on a date with your lover telling your husband you’ll be back in a while. Make sure he knows you are seeing your lover. And when you return, make sure knows you are cum filled. (Though wait until he is eating out that pussy)

 

[Iahotwifeshusband]

I would suggest having a conversation with him and say you are aware of his fantasy of you ...... with another man. Tell him that you have been thinking about it since he shared it with you at the wedding. Let him know you are open to the idea but want to understand his expectations better and make sure he knows that your relationship with him comes first. Depending on how he responds you may have an open window to proceed.

I would be a little concerned about sharing the affair as he could react in a variety of positive or negative ways. As a husband of a hotwife, I can honestly say that emotions and feelings can run high when first getting into the lifestyle. The first time my wife had a gentleman in her sights, it caused more jealousy than I was expecting to feel. However, because we communicated throughout, we were able to work through my concerns and the pangs of jealousy became hot and sexy vs. overwhelming for me. We walked step by step together in the beginning and learned to make it work. It was very important that I felt like my wife’s number one priority when we first began. I am not sure how I would have reacted if I found out she had cheated behind my back when she had permission to fuck other guys with my knowledge. Now, I would enjoy hearing that she was fucking other guys long before I knew. (Which I fully believe has happened)

 

[LaurenTries]

I would suggest having a conversation with him and say you are aware of his fantasy of you ...... with another man. Tell him that you have been thinking about it since he shared it with you at the wedding. Let him know you are open to the idea but want to understand his expectations better and make sure he knows that your relationship with him comes first. Depending on how he responds you may have an open window to proceed.

I would be a little concerned about sharing the affair as he could react in a variety of positive or negative ways. As a husband of a hotwife, I can honestly say that emotions and feelings can run high when first getting into the lifestyle. The first time my wife had a gentleman in her sights, it caused more jealousy than I was expecting to feel. However, because we communicated throughout, we were able to work through my concerns and the pangs of jealousy became hot and sexy vs. overwhelming for me. We walked step by step together in the beginning and learned to make it work. It was very important that I felt like my wife’s number one priority when we first began. I am not sure how I apwoukd have reacted if I found out she had cheated behind my back when she had permission to fuck other guys with my knowledge. Now, I would enjoy hearing that she was fucking other guys long before I knew. (Which I fully believe has happened)

Thanks for the advice. I want to tell him and have him be happy that I took the steps to fulfill his biggest fantasy. I hope he loves hearing about the other men I have fucked. I am excited to tell him but have been holding off because I want to really be cheating. I think he will enjoy knowing that I was cheating like this.

 

[Iahotwifeshusband]

Okay. You know your husband best. While there may be similarities between horny wife sharing men, we are all unique. Originally, I would have been upset to know my wife was cheating on me. However, now, I realize she is with me regardless and other men are just walking sex toys with a heartbeat. ;-)

 

[LaurenTries]

Okay. You know your husband best. While there may be similarities between horny wife sharing men, we are all unique. Originally, I would have been upset to know my wife was cheating on me. However, now, I realize she is with me regardless and other men are just walking sex toys with a heartbeat. ;-)

I don’t pretend to know everything about him or even how this is going to end up. But I know how I want it to go and what my intentions are and I hope that translates to him being happy about it.

 

[Iahotwifeshusband]

Please keep us posted as you share the news with your hubby!

 

[Hwcouple702]

I want to tell him but am planning to do it as a surprise for our anniversary. As crazy as this sounds, I feel like I am kind of being romantic. I am secretly fulfilling his fantasy then I am going to tell him about it as a surprise. I am hoping he just loves what I am doing for him.

My husband and I made up fantasy stories for years, which we told each other during sex. This was a GREAT way to learn each other's fantasies and find out what turned us each on. This is from the time we were dating until way after we were married. I ended up "cheating" but the stories I "made up" were mostly true stories from the guys I was having sex with. He really never knew if my stories were just fantasy or had some truth to them and that's just the way I wanted it. I had TONS of stories too! Start out with an "R rated" story about the guy you "just met" and how you desire each other and see how he reacts. You can make up anything you want about how you met, just make sure it falls in line with his fantasy. After that, you can ask him questions about what you "should do" and gauge his fantasy level. Eventually throw in as much truth as possible and make it sound believable to him. Keep him wondering and keep him wanting more. Throw in some BS stories once in a while just to keep him on his toes. Make them stories that he knows are BS so that way he knows you are making things up too. This worked fantastically in my relationship with my husband and he loved the stories. He just never knew if they were true or not ( he actually knew a few WERE true though, but didn't say anything).

Mrs Hotwife

 

[LaurenTries]

My husband and I made up fantasy stories for years, which we told each other during sex. This was a GREAT way to learn each other's fantasies and find out what turned us each on. This is from the time we were dating until way after we were married. I ended up "cheating" but the stories I "made up" were mostly true stories from the guys I was having sex with. He really never knew if my stories were just fantasy or had some truth to them and that's just the way I wanted it. I had TONS of stories too! Start out with an "R rated" story about the guy you "just met" and how you desire each other and see how he reacts. You can make up anything you want about how you met, just make sure it falls in line with his fantasy. After that, you can ask him questions about what you "should do" and gauge his fantasy level. Eventually throw in as much truth as possible and make it sound believable to him. Keep him wondering and keep him wanting more. Throw in some BS stories once in a while just to keep him on his toes. Make them stories that he knows are BS so that way he knows you are making things up too. This worked fantastically in my relationship with my husband and he loved the stories. He just never knew if they were true or not (in most cases, he actually knew a few WERE true though, but didn't say anything).

Mrs Hotwife

Thank you so much for these comments! I love it

 

[Pussyfreeblow]

Let us now how you're divorce is going. Bitch!

It's not nice to talk about others like that, everyone has their own sexual tastes and likes that's why they use this website. She said he fantasized about it so I'm assuming their situation probably meant he was going to eventually push her to have sex with other men, I don't know if I would have gone and done it myself in that position but it is not my place to get involved its not my marriage . I wish you good luck miss, I hope it goes well

 

[tampahotwife73]

For a few years now I know that my husband has had a secret fantasy about the “cheating wife”. I have found porn on his computer and sites where he reads stories about it. Last year, we were at a wedding and he was very ...... and when we were having sex he dirty talked directly about how hot it would be if I was cheating on him. He doesn’t remember that night much but the fact that he said it out loud made me believe it is a real fantasy and it’s what he wants.

So I would like to know opinions of whether or not I am doing something good or bad right now. For the last 6 months I have been cheating on him. He doesn’t know that I am. He is secretly living his fantasy and the stories he reads and porn he watches is happening in real life. I sometimes feel guilty like I am doing something wrong but other times I get very excited about it all.

I think I am giving him what he wants and I will eventually tell him about it. I am nervous about finally telling him, but so excited to to reveal that I have been giving him his biggest fantasy.

Husband here - so I was very much like your husband in that I wanted my wife to have sex with other men. Not so much the cheating fantasy, but the "Hotwife" fantasy. It had been a unspoken fantasy for over 20 years. Before I share our experience, here is a brief synopsis of "us" : we are completely stable couple. No jealousy issues, great communication, confident in ourselves and each other, and no history that would cause one not to completely trust the other.

So our story - A little more than two years ago I shared my desire with her in much the same way as your husband - on a date with lots of alcohol involved. We then spent the next two months talking about it. Talking about the fantasy in detail, setting up some ground rules should it move forward, etc. My wife wanted to make sure its something I REALLY wanted because its something that can not be undone. This is where I worry you may have made a mistake, especially if he does not remember sharing his "unspoken" fantasy. It wasn't until we had really discussed it thoroughly that she had her first new dick in 30 years (we have been married for a little more than 32 years now). The next few months was a roller coaster of good, bad and down right terrible. Sharing her was NOTHING like I had envisioned. We had some pretty big, really ugly fights. This is after all the conversation and in a marriage where to be perfectly honest we had not fought in like 15+ years. We eventually learned that the sharing her solo sucked for us. It just wasn't good - at all. We almost threw in the towel on lifestyle. About three months in we tried her first MFM and that was so much better for both of us and that's what we have been doing sense.

While every relationship is different and what works for us will be different than what works for you and your husband, I strongly encourage you to stop cheating. You need to talk with your husband and discuss his fantasy. I can almost guarantee you that for him the idea of you cheating will be very different for him than the reality of you cheating. Maybe I am wrong. But it certainly can not hurt to get on the same page. You may need to prepare yourself of the possibility that he will choose to leave his fantasy as just that - a fantasy.

 

[Hwcouple702]

Husband here - so I was very much like your husband in that I wanted my wife to have sex with other men. Not so much the cheating fantasy, but the "Hotwife" fantasy. It had been a unspoken fantasy for over 20 years. Before I share our experience, here is a brief synopsis of "us" : we are completely stable couple. No jealousy issues, great communication, confident in ourselves and each other, and no history that would cause one not to completely trust the other.

So our story - A little more than two years ago I shared my desire with her in much the same way as your husband - on a date with lots of alcohol involved. We then spent the next two months talking about it. Talking about the fantasy in detail, setting up some ground rules should it move forward, etc. My wife wanted to make sure its something I REALLY wanted because its something that can not be undone. This is where I worry you may have made a mistake, especially if he does not remember sharing his "unspoken" fantasy. It wasn't until we had really discussed it thoroughly that she had her first new dick in 30 years (we have been married for a little more than 32 years now). The next few months was a roller coaster of good, bad and down right terrible. Sharing her was NOTHING like I had envisioned. We had some pretty big, really ugly fights. This is after all the conversation and in a marriage where to be perfectly honest we had not fought in like 15+ years. We eventually learned that the sharing her solo sucked for us. It just wasn't good - at all. We almost threw in the towel on lifestyle. About three months in we tried her first MFM and that was so much better for both of us and that's what we have been doing sense.

While every relationship is different and what works for us will be different than what works for you and your husband, I strongly encourage you to stop cheating. You need to talk with your husband and discuss his fantasy. I can almost guarantee you that for him the idea of you cheating will be very different for him than the reality of you cheating. Maybe I am wrong. But it certainly can not hurt to get on the same page. You may need to prepare yourself of the possibility that he will choose to leave his fantasy as just that - a fantasy.

There is much wisdom in that post. I concur. If he isn't actively trying to get you to cheat and you two don't talk about these fantasies, then you must stop this for the sake of your relationship. I advocate "cheating" only if the other partner has been actively involved in trying to get it to happen and has expressed to you that you should do so without fear or reprisal. You should TELL HIM that you WANT to go through with it and make certain he knows you are SERIOUS. If he balks, then keep this to yourself FOREVER and STOP.

 

[Stagforfun]

I am looking at this from a different angle. I would start by letting him know you’re aware of his fantasy and it does not make you angry. Explain to him how you know. Gauge his reaction… then follow through with you’d be willing to do that for him. Not as many guys are into the cheating side of it as there are guys that wants a Hotwife and would like to know about things BEFORE they happen. Confession of cheating could go very bad… that’s why I’m saying talk to him about it before confessing.

 

[bluemax]

A lot of women have tried it the OP's way to make sure it is exciting for her. No woman wants to yield to her husband's desires only to find out she isn't liking it and is afraid to report back and disappoint him. This is cheating but not really cheating as hubby has the strong interest that she's seen from his website history and even telling her. Plus, the excitement of cheating takes it to another level for her, I found that out from my own wife.

She was seeing a guy around once a week three summers ago but two years later she confessed it was a lot more than once a week. I was away all week on business that summer. She said she was having a lot of fun and didn't think I could handle the amount of times she was actually getting with him. By the time she told me I was way more advanced and happily handled it well. I liked knowing she really did have a naughty side to her and loved what she'd done. I never in a million years thought she'd do what she did! So friggen hot to learn your wife is this way. It might be the same for the OP's hubby too.

Like a previous poster said, the wife here will be well advised to show hubby a lot of love and sex before she eventually "eases" him into knowing what's she's been up to. She has to be careful. Some wives have even lied about seeing other men to test hubby, and if he flips out she can honestly say it was just a ruse, but that's not the case here.

What I'd like to know to add some more eroticism the story is who has she been seeing, one guy or a few, and how often they meet up.