We started it with condoms, but later decided that wifey would go out with a small number of friends she was comfortable bareback, focus being clean, tested and no ...... of any kind. She was not comfortable with condoms, especially not oral as she would gag, and her bfs were generally not keen on it, now she uses pills and the backup plan is the morning after pill. If there is any chance that it will not be safe then it is a no go. She will insist on a HIV and STD negative report at the start, any hesitation and it is off.