I have to agree with this statement somewhat. If you've read about Mrs Hotwife and me and our relationship then you know that we had VERY explicit and detailed sexual fantasies we discussed and had great sex from those things from well before we were married. I had encouraged her to spread her wings and engage in sex with some other guys as well. She knew I MEANT it but she was NOT about to go through with that. She had a very interesting sexual past but wanted to try to be a "normal", faithful wife after we were engaged. As you've read, that didn't happen and there was no way that she would have been in any kind of a marriage very long if she had to remain sexually faithful.
But, she DID NOT want me to know about her past and she was NOT going to tell me about the cheating she did when we were engaged nor was she going to tell me about her infidelities after our marriage. She wanted to have sex with other guys but she didn't want me to know about it, probably due to uncertainties of the reality and what that reaction might be from me. Thing is, I caught her (without her knowing) on many occasions and NEVER said a word to her that I knew. For some reason I was totally turned on by the lies and the attempts she made to cover up her infidelity. I can't explain that. I actually looked forward to her stories. At some point, early in our marriage, her "fantasy stories" that she would tell me as a lead up to sex, were actually TRUE stories that I was led to believe were just realistic fantasies. Some of them were true because I had caught her during the actual event and she didn't know about it. She later told me that it was easier to keep to 90 percent of the truth and embellish the stories only slightly.
I loved that she was lying to me but telling me the truth at the same time. We never really had any sort of discussion about her cheating or infidelities and eventually it was just assumed between us that she was having sex with other guys and we both had accepted it. If you've read our LSM article about the lake, it touches upon this reality. It was a really odd chain of events and took many years to develop, but she was cheating, literally, from our wedding day on in one form or another.
I don't read everything on this forum so I don't know if she's actually told the story about "....Then Nothing Happened" yet. She was always surprised at all of the "cheating" she had done and sex we had together immediately afterward, when I should have known immediately that she had just been fucked. (I did know, quite often). She got bolder as she kept realizing that the drama and worry was in her mind, that the next day or the next few minutes after even, NOTHING HAPPENED. She could be calm and quit worrying about me finding out. She just found a groove, as did I, and we went with it, both of us in marital bliss. Of course, I had more than my fair share of sex with other women during that time period as well....and I have to admit this I DID NOT TELL HER about it and I actually LIED at times if I felt I needed to do so to keep her from finding out. Turn about it fair play I suppose.
In the end and years later, we just decided to go into the lifestyle. We play as a couple, her as hotwife and me as single (rarely). To be quite honest, nothing was as sexually exhilarating and fun as those "cheating years". We also discussed that in our LSM articles.
HW
EDIT This is a VERY important point. Her cheating was NEVER the kind you read about where one partner goes out to bars at night and stays out getting fucked all the time. Her cheating was pretty much "targets of opportunity" at the lake and on ski trips or when she was on business travel or back visiting her parents in her old neighborhood. Those places were her hunting ground and the lake and ski trips had a kind of "don't ask, don't tell" vibe about them for us. The rest of the time she was mostly faithful. That would change as time went on, but she still never was just leaving me at home while she was out fucking strange guys all the time.