As I think about my life with my late treasure and the postings here and elsewhere I had a mental moment. As a starter to be on the same page this is the definitions I live by:
cuckold ----- (this one of many definitions) ----- Miriam-Webster ----- A man whose wife is unfaithful
unfaithful ----- Not faithful to marriage vows
stag ----- (only definition) ----- urban dictionary ----- The male half of a relationship who allows and finds sexual gratification in allowing and even encouraging his female partner to have sex with other men.
wittol ----- (this one of many definitions) ----- Miriam webster -----A man who knows of his wife's infidelity and puts up with it
hotwife ----- (only definition) ----- urban dictionary -----A married woman who is allowed and/or encouraged by her husband to pursue sexual relationships with other individuals.
vixen ----- (only definition) ----- urban dictonary ----- A wife or girlfriend in a committed relationship who seeks a male for nsa sex with the permission of and usually in front of her stag husband or boyfriend, without any bi-sexual play or humiliation of her stag.
hotwife husband ----- (my definition) ----- A husband of a hotwife
3 some ----- (urban dictionary) ----- A sexual encounter INCLUDING yourself and two others
Some say this is mainly a cuckold site....white wives enjoying sex with black guys while hubby watches. In reality that's not the case, it's really a lifestyle website. What lifestyle do you ask, I'd say a 'hotwife' lifestyle. That includes numerous subsets: cuckold, vixen, humiliation, denial, black only, big cock only, cheating, stag, etc. Almost too many to enumerate. So if it's hotwife website it certainly does include cuckolds as well as stag and all the other subsets.
So there are those couples that stretch the boundary's, can a boyfriend be a cuckold? Though I gave the definition of a cuckold by several dictionaries the common thread is that they state 'wife' not girlfriend, however through many many centuries I guess girlfriend can almost be interchanged with wife for the purpose of this discussion.
OK, let's address the elephant in the room. Based upon the age old definition if a wife is unfaithful the husband is a cuckold, whether he likes or not, whether he knows it or not.. The wife is in charge. Even when a husband says he's sharing his wife, in essence it's not his decision it's her decision. She who has the pussy is in charge. When you see videos or photos of bachelorette parties and the dancer waves his cock in a spectators face up to that moment her husband is NOT a cuckold, the moment she takes his cock in her mouth the husband is forever a cuckold as she has now become forever unfaithful. How many of us husbands are/were cuckolds before we knew it?
As an aside when I decided that I wanted to see my treasure with other men I hadn't heard the term hotwife and probably not cuckold either. I believe it to be both a selfish & selfless act on my part. For whatever reason I wanted to see her with other men, I guess it can be chalked up to a fetish or perversion on my part, that was the selfish component, the selfless component is/was that I felt it was my obligation to make sure she was sexually satisfied, that meant that if I couldn't do it myself it was my responsibility to facilitate it with others. Even though we had a pretty good sex life for quite a while I knew she was missing the many different men and sexual gratification she experienced in her youth. If you're interested in the details read it here:
Thursday, 8/30, I asked my wife if Gayle is going to join us for dinner Friday 8/31. (we're going out for pizza and Gayle's husband Jack is away). She's engrossed in reading a book and without any thought blurts out, "no, Gayle has a date." Then she realizes what she just said, stops reading...
www.wifewantstoplay.com
In an effort to be accurate I use the term 'hotwife-husband', to those that are critical, it is MY terminology, there is no published term or definition. Therefore a hotwife-husband is in fact a cuckold and most likely a stag as well.
So if you're a hotwife-husband, as was I, you either were present during the deed of not. But isn't there a fine line between a 3-some and a hotwife-husband voyeur? Picture that while your beloved wife is fucking another guy she has one hand around his back, her legs wrapped around his and she reaches out to hold your hand, now picture the same scenario but instead of your hand she reaches out and grabs your dick, is that not now a 3-some? From sexual activity by 2 people to sexual activity by 3 people. Refer to these 2 images to get a visual of the difference.
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When her friends know you're a cuckold but you don't.
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Trying to depict the difference can sometimes be a cunt hair thick. Since this thread is about hotwife-husband and not 3-somes what I post will attempt to be in that light, that is: passive hotwife-husbands (cuckolds).
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