Someday I may write of my experiences. I had a 10 year relationship with a woman that turned into deep love.
She ticked most of my boxes attraction wise. She was beautiful, very large breasts, somewhat shy and demure, and one thing that is un-quantifiable... I enjoyed the sound of her voice. Tha fact that she was black had nothing to do with it ultimately. The contrast was nice but not a deciding factor.
I think fetishism based on skin color is a dangerous slope to tread.
Anytime someone said "You're my first black girl" her desire diminished immediately. She was a sexy woman, not a sexy black woman.
My 2 cents.