Big cocks bringing orgasms is a myth.

[majorem]

Before I was married I fucked a lot of women. Most easily got off when I'd do oral, some got off when we fucked.
The cheating married women always had an orgasm, some said they rarely did with hubby at home. Probably the exitment of cheating ?
Married 25+ years now.
We get with a guy we know for mfm fun. My wife could easily cum when I'd go down on her or with a vibrator.
Our friend is 8+, I'm 6+. She cums easily with him when he's doing her. She can cum with me while I'm fucking her but only when he's with us and after she's cum with him. She gets REALLY turned on when he's with us. I think it's the whole thing that she's into, two guys taking turns with her, she seems to absolutely love it. I'm sure the size of his dick helps but I like to think the mental excitement is a big part of it.

Yeah, to your point, I think 50% of the orgasm or more, for many women, is mental. I wonder how often people who report their wife cumming like crazy on a bigger cock is primarily just their wife being extremely aroused by being with a new partner and the naughtiness of what she's doing. Nothing dampens lust like familiarity....

My wife hasn't been with another partner yet but, being over 40, she's recently started to have trouble cumming. I used to make her cum at least 2-3 times, every time we had sex in our 20s and 30s... now if she's tired or has been drinking, even 1 can be a challenge. I've tried bigger dildos, which she doesn't like that much as she gets sore quickly, vibrators, which work sometimes... what never fails though is porn. She never watches porn herself but if she's having trouble, I give her pornhub on the tablet and once she finds something she is into (usually a wife getting DPed lol) she's always able to cum.

So, while I imagine a bigger cock could be better in some ways, providing more feeling of fullness, I think a bigger part of it is mental.

It would still be fun for me to watch her take a huge cock though haha...

 

[JHotbrewer]

Yeah, to your point, I think 50% of the orgasm or more, for many women, is mental. I wonder how often people who report their wife cumming like crazy on a bigger cock is primarily just their wife being extremely aroused by being with a new partner and the naughtiness of what she's doing. Nothing dampens lust like familiarity....

My wife hasn't been with another partner yet but, being over 40, she's recently started to have trouble cumming. I used to make her cum at least 2-3 times, every time we had sex in our 20s and 30s... now if she's tired or has been drinking, even 1 can be a challenge. I've tried bigger dildos, which she doesn't like that much as she gets sore quickly, vibrators, which work sometimes... what never fails though is porn. She never watches porn herself but if she's having trouble, I give her pornhub on the tablet and once she finds something she is into (usually a wife getting DPed lol) she's always able to cum.

So, while I imagine a bigger cock could be better in some ways, providing more feeling of fullness, I think a bigger part of it is mental.

It would still be fun for me to watch her take a huge cock though haha...

I think there can be an element of both. No doubt my wife enjoys the physical variety and particularly a big cock. She often refers to how deep inside she can feel it, 'like snake'. But there are definitely mental aspects as well. For her there is an excitement from the thought of being impaled on a big cock, of submitting to it, all mental. When she was a part time ...... she says it was always an exciting boasting point to share with her girl friends that she'd had a big cock.

 

[adrianaYalbert]

I would somehow disagree by experience. My wife had for about 8 Month a Lover who did have a pretty big dick. When my wife saw him first time in front of her first thought he will never fit. My wife’s first impression was wrong he did fit. When my wife had the first time sex with him I could hear groaning of pleasure and climaxing several times on him.

At some point he came out nude und asking for an ashtray. Even hanging soft and wet he had still an very impressive size, apart from it he was cut which did explain that he was able to fuck my wife that long.
I send him to the kitchen and rushed to the bedroom where i found my wife still with her open legs and a bit exhausted. I commented that I could hear her climaxing she answered with a little smile. Oh dear with his size there is no other choice.
Her new lover came back with cigarettes and ashtray and I left them alone.
About half an hour later i could hear my wife lusty groans mixed with what i identified as yes, yes... and this time she was screaming her climax.

In this time I had my office about 900 miles away and was flying in every weekend to see my family. Her new Lover which we both called meanwhile "donkey dick" as a pilot had no normal weekends. My wife saw him 2 to 3 times in a month for one night while I was still away.

Sometimes when he was in town during my weekend he texted us and I picked him up from the airport hotel to spend the night with us. We than fucked my wife both where I usually fucked her first because he stretched my wife penetrating her and I would have had no chance after him.

She went on a short vacation trip with him where she took her notebook along. Sometimes she put that notebook on the desk of the Hotel room and I could watch them fucking. Oh my wife loved it to be fucked and looking in her sexual excitement at the screen of her notebook to see me rubbing my dick.

My wife ended this relation after that trip because he was hormon controlled and it was just too much for her. She returned what she called "Over killed" and had for some time no desire for Sex

 

[Hwcouple702]

So, I’ll try and keep this as short as I can. Been thinking about getting my wife into the lifestyle I’ve mentioned it, she bat it away. I’ve seen stories of how men slowly over years got her there. Because they knew how much better a ‘big cock’ would be. I make my wife cum tonnes, dripping wet, mouth open. I’m six inches and a little girthy. Some positions we could do with me taking an inch off ‘doggy’ then there are more complicated position where an extra inch would help. So I was chatting to a guy and he invited me to attend a few of his swingers nights. I said I just wanted to observe, my wife doesn’t know. I did get naked as it would have been weird if I didn’t. I saw guys with huge cocks pounding women. Not one decent orgasm observed. Loud noises and grunts. But no orgasms. UNLESS he was playing with her clit while banging her or she was grinding him! I saw guys with average cocks and big ones fuck the same women and guess what, exactly the same outcome in terms of the women having an orgasm regardless of size! Some women were in pain with the big ones but seemed to like it, some who were a lot more vocal with the big ones seemed way more relaxed and at home with the more average ones. One guy had a really long thin cock and he got loads of attention and showed me a thing or two! All in all. I’ve been 3 times and not seen A SINGLE WOMAN have an orgasm from penetration only. Unless there was clit grinding cowgirl style or toys and fingers used while being fucked. Can’t lie. The women seemed to love the variety of men and were certainly loving it. But big dicks bringing orgasms never happened. I read so many bulls and ducks writing ‘he slid in her and she came 5 times on five thrusts’. I’m calling this nonsense now. Whereas before I was believing it! Certainly has ruined a few sexual fantasies that got me hot though. Any thoughts? Females, especially VERIFIED ones would be AMAZING.

What an odd assumption..trying to relate the sex you see in a lifestyle club to sex elsewhere is a bit like
considering the porn you watch as something real. Even less valid is the idea that men with
big cocks aren't more satisfying for many women, simply because you observed a few guys in a swinger
club having sex with other women and apparently not satisfying those women.

 

[wisper69]

What an odd assumption..trying to relate the sex you see in a lifestyle club to sex elsewhere is a bit like
considering the porn you watch as something real. Even less valid is the idea that men with
big cocks aren't more satisfying for many women, simply because you observed a few guys in a swinger
club having sex with other women and apparently not satisfying those women.

I fully agree with you.

For me is clear that my girlfriend has more pleasure with a well endowed sex partner. SHE SAID THAT LITERALLY.

I'm not going to say that ALL the women in the world enjoy it, but at least in our case it is. That's why I don't see the point in the comment of the other user. You can't say "big cocks bringing orgasm is a mith". Maybe your wife or girlfriend is not particularly aroused by it, or she has a small vagina. Those are specific circumstances.

But in general (and I'd say, more than 90% of the men and women I had contact here and other forums) women enjoy more with a thicker and bigger penis.

My girlfriend can easily have more than 10 orgasms with our current bull. And that's amazing to hear. And, that didn't happen with other bulls before.

 

[My redhed 4 bbc]

As I’ve said before, the only ones who can answer this are women.

It seems most replies here are from men either speculating or paraphrasing what their female partners have told them. I’d rather know what women themselves think about this.

 

[HotOneWife]

This is a very personal thing. Every women is different. For me, I like a large cock. I like to look at one and I like it when one is inside me. I definitely orgasm harder with a large cock. I like the full feeling I get with a large cock. Can I orgasm and enjoy a normal size cock? Yes. It's just not my preference. Obviously the guy it's attached to makes a difference too. He needs to be polite, respectful, gentle, with nice muscles, a nice personality and nice looking. I've also talked to women who like guys with smaller cocks. So, we're all different in what we like, and that's a good thing.

 

[Slowpoking]

This is a very personal thing. Every women is different. For me, I like a large cock. I like to look at one and I like it when one is inside me. I definitely orgasm harder with a large cock. I like the full feeling I get with a large cock. Can I orgasm and enjoy a normal size cock? Yes. It's just not my preference. Obviously the guy it's attached to makes a difference too. He needs to be polite, respectful, gentle, with nice muscles, a nice personality and nice looking. I've also talked to women who like guys with smaller cocks. So, we're all different in what we like, and that's a good thing.

I'd love to be your personal thing.

 

[2wheel]

She did tell me about one guy who'd fuck her on his boat in Sheepshead Bay (Brooklyn, NY) he was small, maybe 4" (she showed me spreading her fingers) but he'd get into the rocking of the boat and in a position that hit all her spots, so at what was maybe 4" she considered him one of her best partners.

 

[Stevens4fun]

All men should learn about the C.A.T. sex position, i.e. the coital-alignment-technique position, as it delver female orgasms.

Coital alignment technique - Wikipedia

en.wikipedia.org

It's a good technique when the penis is large enough to be uncomfortable for the wife when she's under her lover (missionary). The lover has to be careful not to slip down, though - he needs to stay "riding high." We discovered this when we were with a couple. The husband had to use this position when he was in my wife. Big cocks are great to talk about and look at, but some women can't handle all of the length comfortably.

 

[WiseOld]

It's a good technique when the penis is large enough to be uncomfortable for the wife when she's under her lover (missionary). The lover has to be careful not to slip down, though - he needs to stay "riding high." We discovered this when we were with a couple. The husband had to use this position when he was in my wife. Big cocks are great to talk about and look at, but some women can't handle all of the length comfortably.

Yes indeed, excessive length can cause troubles. I had to wear a toy rubber bagel around my shaft with my first wife: www.wifewantstoplay.com/threads/how-deep-are-you.16409/post-207151

 

[Kimgreenlee]

Depends on the woman for sure. Been with women who simply can’t come from penetration only, to size queens who only want (deep) penetration and don’t care about cunnilingus

 

[Stevens4fun]

Yes indeed, excessive length can cause troubles. I had to wear a toy rubber bagel around my shaft with my first wife: www.wifewantstoplay.com/threads/how-deep-are-you.16409/post-207151

Good technique - wish I'd thought of that when my wife's BF was over. She was always pushing him back from her and asking him to ride her higher. Big cocks aren't always the blessing they are supposed to be, but if he didn't go all the way in she loved it. His wife warned us about his large long cock beforehand so we kind of knew what to expect. It was frustrating for him too, as he wanted so badly to be all the way in my wife when he nutted. I can sure understand that!