Anyone prefer that she has a serious affair instead of casual ones?

[calicolombia69]

Strangely, since she turned 50, she has been having about same or even more sex dates than when she was 20-30. Also, I think, thanks to 2nd boob job, ass job, lipo and C-section tattoo. Unfortunately 99% of her affairs are one-one and me not directly involved. But that is another story.

We have spent a small fortune on all the bodycon dresses you can find on chicme.com and shein. And she willingly wears them all to the bars. pantyless and braless. Nipples show thru and you will also get an eyefull of ass if she has to climb stairs.

Point here is that lately, I AM THE ONE who has been losing interest in her pursuits. Maybe my age or maybe they are losing significance. I prefer to take her out myself and see how guys gawk at the bars and then bring her home. I am satisfied to have seen that others desire her.

That was, until very recently. One of her bulls has been quite a drama queen. For over a year, she has all but had to plead him to find time to fuck her. She kept dumping him but found herself going back to him time an again; like a battered spouse! Ffwd: he has finally changed and now has her stay overnight and fucks her up to 3 times each stay. He is finally cuming inside her. We think that he believes she is 40 or so and still fertile!. She does long young for her age. So now, she is really starting to like him more and more. She swallows his cum over and over again. Something she rarely does with anyone to health concerns. (unless drunk or just too horny to stop herself)

Now suddenly, I am back to getting hardons again! I am getting hardons from feeling that I am truly sharing her. It is so different to listen to her say that she longs to be in his bed again vs an inconsequential sex story with a one-night guy.

We are beyond the risk of her leaving me for him. He is definitely not into a serious affair and we are grandparents! Thanks for reading

 

[GrovelingCuck]

Serious affairs are easier for everyone. It's very difficult and time consuming playing the field. When my wife found a Bull she really clicked with we kept Him for 7 glorious cuckold-filled years.

 

[Older hubby61]

As Groveling Cuck pointed out above long term affairs are easier for everyone, my hotwife can relax and feel comfortable with him which increases her enjoyment. I really dont worry that she will fall head over heels in love with him since ,really, it just about sex. Her longest was over 2 years and it was good for everyone

 

[calicolombia69]

Thanks for your replies. Older hubby 61, you are correct in saying that a LT affair increases relaxation and comfort which in turn increases enjoyment. They get to know each others bodies and needs. Therefore each sex session increases in quality. And she actually looks forward to seeing him each time. And trust also builds which also is conducive (sp?) to more initimate sex: sucking, swallowing and anal.

 

[SmallHubbyTexas]

My wife doesn’t play the field, she has boyfriends. She needs a connection for good sex. So she doesn’t do one night stands, she has boyfriends who she (and myself) are comfortable with.

 

[calicolombia69]

how about from the cuck side though? Which type of relationship turns you one more? As mentioned, to me, its more intense to listen to her look forward to a familiar cock than to come home and chat about some unnamed guy. Sex the first time is never the best. It takes many sessions to get to know someone and what turns their knobs; I think.

 

[Lynnandhubby]

This is where my wife and I differ. She’d say the best sex is with her regular bull - that’s why he’s her bull after all. I get most turned on when it’s someone she’s just picked up. I love it when she’s giving it up for some man who was a total stranger beforehand. Both are exciting but the latter just drives me crazy.
J.

 

[calicolombia69]

This is where my wife and I differ. She’d say the best sex is with her regular bull - that’s why he’s her bull after all. I get most turned on when it’s someone she’s just picked up. I love it when she’s giving it up for some man who was a total stranger beforehand. Both are exciting but the latter just drives me crazy.
J.

I never really get to watch any of it so difficult to say if that would be a turn on. I do get a rise form watching guys gawk at the bar. Some do venture over to sniff out if I am the husband or what. I mean, her slutty dresses definitely send the message for them to come over. And so do her looks and flirty smiles from across the bar.
She does say that she gets better results when alone or with her slutty female friend. My presence make most of them hesitate. She is excellent at signalling phone numbers over! Talk about spies!

 

[Jsking31]

how about from the cuck side though? Which type of relationship turns you one more? As mentioned, to me, its more intense to listen to her look forward to a familiar cock than to come home and chat about some unnamed guy. Sex the first time is never the best. It takes many sessions to get to know someone and what turns their knobs; I think.

Completely agree.

 

[cuck4life]

I get freaked by the work “affair” and prefer to call it a LTR or long term relationship. She has had 2 LTR that have worked out well. She is able to spend multiple nights with them when they out close by on business trips. I know these guys but they are not aware that I know. It’s worked great and she loves these “mini” vacations where they can be a couple publicly.

 

[calicolombia69]

I get freaked by the work “affair” and prefer to call it a LTR or long term relationship. She has had 2 LTR that have worked out well. She is able to spend multiple nights with them when they out close by on business trips. I know these guys but they are not aware that I know. It’s worked great and she loves these “mini” vacations where they can be a couple publicly.

Her LTs are not aware that she has sex with me. She always uses the story that we are separated but live under same roof for sake of kids. Wish she would tell them Im a cuck. Ironically her family knows Im a cuck!

 

[Ht805cpl]

I enjoy both, long term affairs and spot fucks, my man usually joins me, either watching participating or servicing in some capacity as have been mentioned long term guys have their benefits , and I have. Few who even have a key to the house and are welcome to drop by anytime, with the understanding if we are entertaining or busy we may not play but if we or I’m home alone it is welcome to my life

 

[HardCuckHubby]

Personally, I had no issues with her casual ones, but the deeper ones were challenging. Too much split time and her feelings were more divided. Hard not to be jealous. Definitely casual was better.

 

[Ht805cpl]

Personally, I had no issues with her casual ones, but the deeper ones were challenging. Too much split time and her feelings were more divided. Hard not to be jealous. Definitely casual was better.

As a cuckold hot wife couple I could see where that could pose a problem, we play together with other men so that is never an issue, and when I play alone, he knows I will always come home to the man I love, a bull is just a sex toy for me!

 

[HardCuckHubby]

As a cuckold hot wife couple I could see where that could pose a problem, we play together with other men so that is never an issue, and when I play alone, he knows I will always come home to the man I love, a bull is just a sex toy for me!

It's great you've worked it out. Sometimes she liked to play solo, which was not hot and not. Happy you've figured it out. I do love knowing she was getting fucked over and over.

 

[kort6776]

my wife has always been concerned about developing an attachment to the guys she goes with so she rarely see them more than a few times. while it makes it harder for her to find partners we both like it when she goes with randos that come and go

 

[Phun Times 727]

We just embarked on this lifestyle this year and she is in a relationship with a man we call her boyfriend. It is what you would expect of an actual relationship, time together, travel, commitment, lots of sex etc. It seemed like the route that made sense, nit that we planned this but it kind of happened and having familiarity and security of a safe and tested person made it easier. Everything we read said avoid the relationship and keep it casual, we didn't. He can be a bit clingy and he really seems to be in for the long haul with us/her. He is a decent guy if that matters but I do not worry when she is off with him. In some regards a casual thing would be easier but dealing with randos and weirdos seems like a headache. I am actually the one that got us in our situation by requesting she participate in a MFM and I watch. We had never done anything outside of our marriage at that point and fast forward I am sharing my wife with anther man with talks of a possible hotwife element now that we are a bit more comfortable and have options.

 

[2_Pineapplez]

My wife is somewhere between what a lot of you have mentioned - she has a few regular FWB, but none are a "boyfriend". She's also met people on dating sites or out in the wild that she'll have a one-off with, but that's pretty rare. I should mention we're more of the stag/vixen dynamic, so that may have something to do with it.

 

[calicolombia69]

We just embarked on this lifestyle this year and she is in a relationship with a man we call her boyfriend. It is what you would expect of an actual relationship, time together, travel, commitment, lots of sex etc. It seemed like the route that made sense, nit that we planned this but it kind of happened and having familiarity and security of a safe and tested person made it easier. Everything we read said avoid the relationship and keep it casual, we didn't. He can be a bit clingy and he really seems to be in for the long haul with us/her. He is a decent guy if that matters but I do not worry when she is off with him. In some regards a casual thing would be easier but dealing with randos and weirdos seems like a headache. I am actually the one that got us in our situation by requesting she participate in a MFM and I watch. We had never done anything outside of our marriage at that point and fast forward I am sharing my wife with anther man with talks of a possible hotwife element now that we are a bit more comfortable and have options.

Each mode has its own advantages and disadvantages. LT means deeper affair and it can bring some grief to us husbands. Even if you are cucks, the little green monster called jealousy will creep up on us sometimes. We patch it over by listening to the hot sex stories; or watching. On the other hand, their teenage-like glow of having a boyfriend is priceless. The look on their faces when they are preparing for an evenning or a short trip.... You dont get that with blind dates or short termers.

By the way, this forum helps a lot when you start having doubts. A lot of cuck "elders" who can dispense good advice. as novices we sometimes wreck the whole campsite in a bout of jealousy. We demolish what has taken so long for us to build. And then wife goes back to being a good wife and we lost it all. So please share often whenever you can; not only the hot sex but feelings too.

 

[Phun Times 727]

Each mode has its own advantages and disadvantages. LT means deeper affair and it can bring some grief to us husbands. Even if you are cucks, the little green monster called jealousy will creep up on us sometimes. We patch it over by listening to the hot sex stories; or watching. On the other hand, their teenage-like glow of having a boyfriend is priceless. The look on their faces when they are preparing for an evenning or a short trip.... You dont get that with blind dates or short termers.

By the way, this forum helps a lot when you start having doubts. A lot of cuck "elders" who can dispense good advice. as novices we sometimes wreck the whole campsite in a bout of jealousy. We demolish what has taken so long for us to build. And then wife goes back to being a good wife and we lost it all. So please share often whenever you can; not only the hot sex but feelings too.

I'm not sure we would have ever done anything with the one and done route. You would think the option of "come have sex with my wife" would have a line of men around the block, it is not that way at all. We struggled and made a couple questionable decisions at first before we agreed she would have to be the one to find someone, it was simply not a skill I had as a straight man and as an attractive woman she had a lifetime s experience so we made it her task. We are mid aged so not dating apps types, she went out with a friend and met someone the old fashioned way and did not present the "I'm married just fooling around" portion until a week later. Overall I think this relationship situation is the only way we would have been able to do it and actually have fun and build comfort over time. Yes, there are a couple downsides. As time goes on he seems to grow more and more attached, make no bones about it my wife has feelings for him as well but she is married and focused more on that whereas it is his only relationship and he is all in 100% and she is about 65%. It is what it is and we can't really go back and make edits to how we got here as you only learn by experience.