I'm talking about how some people seem to believe there's only one way to go about this and if I don't do it that way, I'm doing it wrong.
Advice please
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I am not saying you are wrong. I think you are scared and im thinking that your fears are not justified! Just take deep breath and let the two of them go at each other, seat in a chair and enjoy the show! Everything is going to be alright! Trust your wife!
manotick
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if you are letting another man into your bed to have sex with your wife, you no longer have any control over her. You may think and hope you do, but trust me you don't. Whatever emotions she may have for him (and she definitely will) she will not tell you if she thinks you are the controlling type. It works for a sexually submissive man like me because I enjoy the angst and humiliation while getting highs knowing that a larger man with more stamina can bring her pleasure I never could.
Let's face it, We are all not great at everything and that includes cuddling, kissing and lovemaking. I am an alpha kind of male out of the bedroom, but someone who is not very good at lovemaking. So if you are worried that another man will be better than you (and one will) and that she will enjoy him too much, then it is time for you to put a stop to this...to avoid your anguish.
Except, from my own personal experience from my wife and other women in this lifestyle, once a married woman has had other cocks deep inside them they will not give them up easily. My wife and I entered this lifestyle openly and she knows she has my blessing to have sex with any man she wants anywhere she wants. But even with that, she told me that if for any reason I wanted her to stop she couldn't and wouldn't as she needs those great fuckings now that she knows how satisfying they are. The genie is out of the bottle. You can't put it back. She will cheat if you are not on board.
Let's face it, We are all not great at everything and that includes cuddling, kissing and lovemaking. I am an alpha kind of male out of the bedroom, but someone who is not very good at lovemaking. So if you are worried that another man will be better than you (and one will) and that she will enjoy him too much, then it is time for you to put a stop to this...to avoid your anguish.
Except, from my own personal experience from my wife and other women in this lifestyle, once a married woman has had other cocks deep inside them they will not give them up easily. My wife and I entered this lifestyle openly and she knows she has my blessing to have sex with any man she wants anywhere she wants. But even with that, she told me that if for any reason I wanted her to stop she couldn't and wouldn't as she needs those great fuckings now that she knows how satisfying they are. The genie is out of the bottle. You can't put it back. She will cheat if you are not on board.
I appreciate your response. I don't agree however. I'm not saying that isn't your experience! But I know my wife, she isn't that type for many reasons. She's told me numerous times that if I wanted to stop at any time she's fine with it. I'm great in bed and already completely satisfy her, so there's no loss for her (her words). My wife would never cheat on me, ever. She's certainly had the opportunity to if she wanted to. But we are each other's everything. We are one. We cling to each other always. That's why I felt secure enough to even try this. Because I'm totally secure with her and her heart and morals. I also know that I would never lose control. I can see why you think that due to your situation. But I'm made differently. I'm dominant and she ENJOYS the control, she is submissive. In her mind, she is my submissive toy to be shared, or not shared, however I see fit. We're truly soul mates. I'm just really hung up on the fear that she could prefer the other guy sexually over me..... That he's "better" than me sexually. She says it's impossible and I should just trust her on that, she says I will always satisfy her the best, other guys are just a fun diversion..... Different, not better.
Again thank you for taking the time to write but I think our situations are different.
manotick
Male
Our situations are different and I appreciate your response. Every couple has their own relationship and fantasies and kinks. Given your D/S relationship I am sure you are the better lover her for her, and she knows it.
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Also wanted to mention that I'm no pushover in the thrill and excitement area either! I realize the excitement and anticipation of another man being included is intense (from our sessions we've had so far I have observed this myself). However, I am pretty good at bringing that out of her right now. I love plugging her ass and taking her out for date night. We go out to eat and it's our sexy secret. I know it's turning her on more and more as she squirms a bit in her seat. Whisper in her ear what I'm going to do to her once we get home and I can see her blush and she's obviously excited..... Filled with anticipation. I will also tease her with porn captions, gifs, pictures of my cock during the day sometimes, get her hot and begging me to come home from work because she's so sexually frustrated. She doesn't use toys on herself, she's welcome to but doesn't. I have to use them on her. She gets all of her sexual needs met by me only so that might play a role as well.
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