Advice on how to go next to get more progress...

[C1896]

Quick background: 22 years of marriage, she has never try another dick since then. Two issues with her: when I've told about my fantasy she felt like I disrespect her by being "thrown" to another guy, but this was solved with talking, explaining that I want her to have the best possible sexual experience (I'm a little less than average, making her cum twice as my best). The other issue is that being a 47 year ...... of three curvy woman she has lack of self confidence.

But after two or three years of not having big progress, two weeks ago something happened that tells me that things might improve...
As a surprise I ve booked a fancy hotel room and "invite" her to a photo shoot ( she always rejected being photographed or filmed). After an expensive dinner we've got back to our room and performed like a boudoir photo shoot with her phone (never showing her face). She got in thee mood and we took a couple of really hot not nude sensual pictures. 10 minutes after she was ridding alone our 9 inch bbc dildo while I was masturbating in the couch and we both came harder than ever.
Next day she told me that the night was amazing but that she was embarassed with the photos so she was going to erase them... I was so frustrated! But last Wednesday as I was at work chating with her talkiing about my bussy day, all of a sudden she sent me one of the pics...
I immediately posted the photo in a couple of cuckold/swinger telegram group and have wonderfull feedback.
My plan, not an easy task, is tell herr that we should post a couple of her photos just to see I she turns on a couple of guys. Just that. And after that, maybe next week, encourage her to chat with one of them.
I don't know if I'm going to reach the promise land, but after years of failure I feel I have find the right path.
Some advice?
(cheers from argentina)

 

[danum]

the impt question is whether she is able to fantasise. this is never an easy question to answer as it involves many factors. most impt of which is whether she IS ABLE to at the very least, fantasise with you about being a hotwife. THIS IS KEY.

if she has not, then it is a harder hill to climb.

1. there are some things that you must first learn - patience and persistence. these are your tools to help you achieve this.

2. never push her. you must be very very patient in getting your fantasy to be a reality. always let her think she is in control of it. this means that if she does not want to talk or fantasise anymore, stop. respect her wishes. start again another time. but be persistent. she will give in eventually.

this is a slow and steady process and your Mrs MUST always have the feeling that she is in control. ALWAYS! This reassures her that should she want to stop, IT WILL BE STOPPED. only then will she trust you.

3. AGAIN REMEMBER that the focus here is your wife. not you and what you desire her to do for you (please understand this as they will learn the truth).

this was one of the methods i used on my wife......

my mrs loves to suck cock. she really loves it as she can go for an hour or more just sucking on one. and you will only enjoy having your cock sucked IF the person sucking enjoys what she is doing. i should know this as im her hubby. she loves to swallow too. and not the porn you watch type where they spit it out! she love to taste it and swallow (i suppose this was the thing that turned me bi too as i loved watching her do it so much that i too got hooked).

so during my convincing her to join a swing party, i bought a vibrator and when she was sucking my cock, i used the vibrator on her. now when she sucks she is in heaven and then applying the vibe on her pussy was the ultimate for her. i used that moment to fantasise that it was a mutual friends. an american guy that we knew (she is partial to orang putih). this method me a great deal in convincing her that another cock or cocks would be great in our sex life. so i did this time and time again. this was the persistent part. as long as she likes sex, half the battle is won.

about 4th month - the reluctance soon gave way. and she began to allow me to talk to her about a third person.

about 8th month - then i began to ask her things. and she answered!!

with this i knew i was doing the right things.

10th month - while having sex SHE asked for the vibrator.

after a year of some hard work she finally agreed to join in a swing party. and the rest is history. this was the patience part.

so keep plugging at it. always remember that the focus is on her. not you.

we began with swinging, then moved gradually (as my cuckold side began to emerge) to threesomes and finally cuckolding. this is something i really enjoy. i especially watching the action up close (like in fucklicking) as it is so intoxicating.


turning it into reality

the thing to realise is that the focus is on her. not you and your success depends on how you play the game with your mrs. you must learn to adapt to her needs. i can offer some advice but do remember that all women are different.

well, let me explain how i did it with my wife and how i persuaded her into this lifestyle?

my advice to you is to leave out the cuckolding part of it for now. That will come later. Currently you are only focused on your needs which is for her to cuckold you.

So leave that part out for now. instead, focus on HER PLEASURES. make sure she reaches new heights, better climaxes and mind-blowing pleasures. Get her more involved in the sex. Introduce a dildo, if you have not already. Then show her 3some porn - mmf, orgies, gbs where there are more men than women. This will engage her curiosity about having more than one cock.

but always keep these in mind - persistence, patience, non-pushy.

this is all a plan.....as once she starts experiencing all these new things, your sex life will change and then you slowly bring cuckolding into place. so your time will come my friend.
that will be the ultimate. her her the tools. and then fuck her with it, while watching a nice cuckold porn movie. find out who she likes to fuck her.colleague, neighbour, friend etc.then introduce the vibrator as the person. in her pussy or mouth while your cock does the free hole.your wish to be cuckolded will come (cum??) true.

because one day when you see a large hard cock plunging in and out of your wifes pussy, and juices spurting everywhere, the wonderful squishing sounds the aroma wafting into your nose as you watch this up close then you know your time has come. and it is just fucking erotic. we had so many wonderful experiences.

i know. as i followed this path and it was successful.


remember, persistence, patience, non-pushy.


dan

 

[toolman2c]

the impt question is whether she is able to fantasise. this is never an easy question to answer as it involves many factors. most impt of which is whether she IS ABLE to at the very least, fantasise with you about being a hotwife. THIS IS KEY.

if she has not, then it is a harder hill to climb.

1. there are some things that you must first learn - patience and persistence. these are your tools to help you achieve this.

2. never push her. you must be very very patient in getting your fantasy to be a reality. always let her think she is in control of it. this means that if she does not want to talk or fantasise anymore, stop. respect her wishes. start again another time. but be persistent. she will give in eventually.

this is a slow and steady process and your Mrs MUST always have the feeling that she is in control. ALWAYS! This reassures her that should she want to stop, IT WILL BE STOPPED. only then will she trust you.

3. AGAIN REMEMBER that the focus here is your wife. not you and what you desire her to do for you (please understand this as they will learn the truth).

this was one of the methods i used on my wife......

my mrs loves to suck cock. she really loves it as she can go for an hour or more just sucking on one. and you will only enjoy having your cock sucked IF the person sucking enjoys what she is doing. i should know this as im her hubby. she loves to swallow too. and not the porn you watch type where they spit it out! she love to taste it and swallow (i suppose this was the thing that turned me bi too as i loved watching her do it so much that i too got hooked).

so during my convincing her to join a swing party, i bought a vibrator and when she was sucking my cock, i used the vibrator on her. now when she sucks she is in heaven and then applying the vibe on her pussy was the ultimate for her. i used that moment to fantasise that it was a mutual friends. an american guy that we knew (she is partial to orang putih). this method me a great deal in convincing her that another cock or cocks would be great in our sex life. so i did this time and time again. this was the persistent part. as long as she likes sex, half the battle is won.

about 4th month - the reluctance soon gave way. and she began to allow me to talk to her about a third person.

about 8th month - then i began to ask her things. and she answered!!

with this i knew i was doing the right things.

10th month - while having sex SHE asked for the vibrator.

after a year of some hard work she finally agreed to join in a swing party. and the rest is history. this was the patience part.

so keep plugging at it. always remember that the focus is on her. not you.

we began with swinging, then moved gradually (as my cuckold side began to emerge) to threesomes and finally cuckolding. this is something i really enjoy. i especially watching the action up close (like in fucklicking) as it is so intoxicating.


turning it into reality

the thing to realise is that the focus is on her. not you and your success depends on how you play the game with your mrs. you must learn to adapt to her needs. i can offer some advice but do remember that all women are different.

well, let me explain how i did it with my wife and how i persuaded her into this lifestyle?

my advice to you is to leave out the cuckolding part of it for now. That will come later. Currently you are only focused on your needs which is for her to cuckold you.

So leave that part out for now. instead, focus on HER PLEASURES. make sure she reaches new heights, better climaxes and mind-blowing pleasures. Get her more involved in the sex. Introduce a dildo, if you have not already. Then show her 3some porn - mmf, orgies, gbs where there are more men than women. This will engage her curiosity about having more than one cock.

but always keep these in mind - persistence, patience, non-pushy.

this is all a plan.....as once she starts experiencing all these new things, your sex life will change and then you slowly bring cuckolding into place. so your time will come my friend.
that will be the ultimate. her her the tools. and then fuck her with it, while watching a nice cuckold porn movie. find out who she likes to fuck her.colleague, neighbour, friend etc.then introduce the vibrator as the person. in her pussy or mouth while your cock does the free hole.your wish to be cuckolded will come (cum??) true.

because one day when you see a large hard cock plunging in and out of your wifes pussy, and juices spurting everywhere, the wonderful squishing sounds the aroma wafting into your nose as you watch this up close then you know your time has come. and it is just fucking erotic. we had so many wonderful experiences.

i know. as i followed this path and it was successful.


remember, persistence, patience, non-pushy.


dan

great ideas and read, good advice, I hope this helps many take the plunge into this exciting Taboo..

 

[vrmtr1]

the impt question is whether she is able to fantasise. this is never an easy question to answer as it involves many factors. most impt of which is whether she IS ABLE to at the very least, fantasise with you about being a hotwife. THIS IS KEY.

if she has not, then it is a harder hill to climb.

1. there are some things that you must first learn - patience and persistence. these are your tools to help you achieve this.

2. never push her. you must be very very patient in getting your fantasy to be a reality. always let her think she is in control of it. this means that if she does not want to talk or fantasise anymore, stop. respect her wishes. start again another time. but be persistent. she will give in eventually.

this is a slow and steady process and your Mrs MUST always have the feeling that she is in control. ALWAYS! This reassures her that should she want to stop, IT WILL BE STOPPED. only then will she trust you.

3. AGAIN REMEMBER that the focus here is your wife. not you and what you desire her to do for you (please understand this as they will learn the truth).

this was one of the methods i used on my wife......

my mrs loves to suck cock. she really loves it as she can go for an hour or more just sucking on one. and you will only enjoy having your cock sucked IF the person sucking enjoys what she is doing. i should know this as im her hubby. she loves to swallow too. and not the porn you watch type where they spit it out! she love to taste it and swallow (i suppose this was the thing that turned me bi too as i loved watching her do it so much that i too got hooked).

so during my convincing her to join a swing party, i bought a vibrator and when she was sucking my cock, i used the vibrator on her. now when she sucks she is in heaven and then applying the vibe on her pussy was the ultimate for her. i used that moment to fantasise that it was a mutual friends. an american guy that we knew (she is partial to orang putih). this method me a great deal in convincing her that another cock or cocks would be great in our sex life. so i did this time and time again. this was the persistent part. as long as she likes sex, half the battle is won.

about 4th month - the reluctance soon gave way. and she began to allow me to talk to her about a third person.

about 8th month - then i began to ask her things. and she answered!!

with this i knew i was doing the right things.

10th month - while having sex SHE asked for the vibrator.

after a year of some hard work she finally agreed to join in a swing party. and the rest is history. this was the patience part.

so keep plugging at it. always remember that the focus is on her. not you.

we began with swinging, then moved gradually (as my cuckold side began to emerge) to threesomes and finally cuckolding. this is something i really enjoy. i especially watching the action up close (like in fucklicking) as it is so intoxicating.


turning it into reality

the thing to realise is that the focus is on her. not you and your success depends on how you play the game with your mrs. you must learn to adapt to her needs. i can offer some advice but do remember that all women are different.

well, let me explain how i did it with my wife and how i persuaded her into this lifestyle?

my advice to you is to leave out the cuckolding part of it for now. That will come later. Currently you are only focused on your needs which is for her to cuckold you.

So leave that part out for now. instead, focus on HER PLEASURES. make sure she reaches new heights, better climaxes and mind-blowing pleasures. Get her more involved in the sex. Introduce a dildo, if you have not already. Then show her 3some porn - mmf, orgies, gbs where there are more men than women. This will engage her curiosity about having more than one cock.

but always keep these in mind - persistence, patience, non-pushy.

this is all a plan.....as once she starts experiencing all these new things, your sex life will change and then you slowly bring cuckolding into place. so your time will come my friend.
that will be the ultimate. her her the tools. and then fuck her with it, while watching a nice cuckold porn movie. find out who she likes to fuck her.colleague, neighbour, friend etc.then introduce the vibrator as the person. in her pussy or mouth while your cock does the free hole.your wish to be cuckolded will come (cum??) true.

because one day when you see a large hard cock plunging in and out of your wifes pussy, and juices spurting everywhere, the wonderful squishing sounds the aroma wafting into your nose as you watch this up close then you know your time has come. and it is just fucking erotic. we had so many wonderful experiences.

i know. as i followed this path and it was successful.


remember, persistence, patience, non-pushy.


dan

great advice. I too have taken the long road. We are now empty nester. We watch mfm porn and some mmf. We have toys, dildos and even strap on. She Loves...LOVES to fuck. We have gone to multiple nude beaches and even made it to a swinger resort. we did not play with anyone else, but did go into the playroomand fucked each other. I like the nudist beaches, it allows her to see other cocks in non treating way. I do bring up other guys while my cock is buried deep in her,at times she does play along. At other times she seems shy, but has a smerk on her face. Again, I've been playing the long game and hope at one time to involve a third!!

 

[danum]

great advice. I too have taken the long road. We are now empty nester. We watch mfm porn and some mmf. We have toys, dildos and even strap on. She Loves...LOVES to fuck. We have gone to multiple nude beaches and even made it to a swinger resort. we did not play with anyone else, but did go into the playroomand fucked each other. I like the nudist beaches, it allows her to see other cocks in non treating way. I do bring up other guys while my cock is buried deep in her,at times she does play along. At other times she seems shy, but has a smerk on her face. Again, I've been playing the long game and hope at one time to involve a third!!

hi there,

the operative word is patience. this does take time. the good thing about your situation is that you are already on the road to it. do more. send her flowers at work. chocolates. compliment her on her dressing, how she looks etc.
keep this up and i guarantee you will be successful on converting her. in the long run, all of this would be worth it.
it was, for me.

dan

 

[Adventurous 1]

Tell her there is nothing more exciting than experiencing new men, it's first dates all over again but without the rules. Tell her to think about that. Ask her to imagine her feeling his touch her first new cock, how arousing to feel it inside her, Tell her that she's so sexy, so desirable, she needs to have other men show their appreciation for her physically, impress on her how hot it would be for the both of you to have her fuck someone new, if just thinking about it is such a big turn on imagine then how much more exciting actually doing it would be!! Let her think about this for a while. You both deserve this chance for an exceptional sexual experiences which could be the best sex ever, extremely enjoyable and satisfying, hotter than anything you've done before. Peak her imagination, let her dwell on her thoughts, let her curiosity take over. After a while tell her you both know that you want to see another mans cock in her pussy, keep her thinking, tell her there's plenty of men that would love to fuck her, she just needs to pick one and make it happen. Assure her that nothing would make you happier than watching her take another man. You both deserves this opportunity for sexual gratification, she has so much to offer she needs to share herself without worry or guilt knowing how you feel, go for the chance to experience her most stimulating sex ever and seduce a big cock. It'll make you both happy, it really will improve your sex life and keep it fresh and interesting. Now is the time for an adventure, start your new journey to the most stimulating and satisfying sex you ever experienced, It will be awesome.

 

[Funnguy1]

Any updates?

 

[CONST65]

Tell her there is nothing more exciting than experiencing new men, it's first dates all over again but without the rules. Tell her to think about that. Ask her to imagine her feeling his touch her first new cock, how arousing to feel it inside her, Tell her that she's so sexy, so desirable, she needs to have other men show their appreciation for her physically, impress on her how hot it would be for the both of you to have her fuck someone new, if just thinking about it is such a big turn on imagine then how much more exciting actually doing it would be!! Let her think about this for a while. You both deserve this chance for an exceptional sexual experiences which could be the best sex ever, extremely enjoyable and satisfying, hotter than anything you've done before. Peak her imagination, let her dwell on her thoughts, let her curiosity take over. After a while tell her you both know that you want to see another mans cock in her pussy, keep her thinking, tell her there's plenty of men that would love to fuck her, she just needs to pick one and make it happen. Assure her that nothing would make you happier than watching her take another man. You both deserves this opportunity for sexual gratification, she has so much to offer she needs to share herself without worry or guilt knowing how you feel, go for the chance to experience her most stimulating sex ever and seduce a big cock. It'll make you both happy, it really will improve your sex life and keep it fresh and interesting. Now is the time for an adventure, start your new journey to the most stimulating and satisfying sex you ever experienced, It will be awesome.

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