Is it considered adultery if your wife is having sex with another man even if you both agree to it??
Adultery
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Hubby and I say no if both of you know and no secrets are kept from each other. As swingers we both fuck others and never keep anything from each other.
Yup. and, you are a cuckold. Dictionary definitions are, well, definitions... Whether you agree or not.
So is it still considered sin?even though we are both enjoying not like it’s considered cheating… right? What’s your thoughts and opinion?
Consult your specific religion's holy documents and the advise of your religious clergy? In Christianity, yes, it's still a sin. Adultery is defined pretty clearly.
Charleswisowaty
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Yes there are definitions but as we have seen, they change over time. For me, it is not adultery. I know my wife fucks a lot of other men. I have given my approval and sup for what she is doin. So for me it is a lifestyle choice that I am aware of, understand and agree with. If she was sneaking behind my back then it would be cheating and adultery. Definitions change.
That definition doesn't change. How you react to it or how seriously you might be concerned over participation in an adulterous relationship is far more relevant. There is a group out there for "Christian Swingers". Seems to go against everything "Christian" regarding sex, but people will tell themselves whatever they need in order to live their desires.
Definitions don’t change. Opinions (which are largely irrelevant) and consequent interpretation of the meaning of a word change.
At its simplest, ‘adultery’ is defined as voluntary sexual intercourse between a person with someone who is not her/his spouse. Pretty easy conceptually...
By definition, individuals in a married couple scenario who engage in sex with people other than their spouses are adulterers.
In the male case, like it or not, if your wife engages in sex with another man, you are a cuckold, she is a cuckolding her husband.
The abstract concepts stemming from religion, culture, etc. that relate to ‘sin’ or culturally morally objectionable behavior are based in mythology and imagination.
At its simplest, ‘adultery’ is defined as voluntary sexual intercourse between a person with someone who is not her/his spouse. Pretty easy conceptually...
By definition, individuals in a married couple scenario who engage in sex with people other than their spouses are adulterers.
In the male case, like it or not, if your wife engages in sex with another man, you are a cuckold, she is a cuckolding her husband.
The abstract concepts stemming from religion, culture, etc. that relate to ‘sin’ or culturally morally objectionable behavior are based in mythology and imagination.
So I mean I guess at the end of the day depending on your religion. It’s going to be a sin either way . Equivalent to telling a lie or some other type of sin I would imagine?
Your religion is an artificial construct, rooted in mythology. The notion of 'sin' isn't rooted in reality - it is a cultural, tribal, wholly artificial label.
At the end of the day, it's your life. Only you can decide how you want to live your life, and make the decisions as to what is, and isn't acceptable to you. Don't worry, be happy.
There's a much larger discussion here, and this forum isn't really the venue for that dialog.
Belief systems are largely disconnected from reality. One person's 'sin' is not necessarily problematic in a different culture, religious construct, etc.
Critical thinking skills, education, and a host of other techniques play against mythology, fable, fiction, and artificial social/cultural constructs.
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It would not be cheating, IMO, if you agreed that she could play around without telling you. I told my ex she could do it in front of me, or behind my back. She said she would not do it behind my back, but I'm pretty sure she did.
People like to think in absolutes but rarely is anything in life black and white (I mean, even black and white cocks are shades of pink and brown lol)...
If there is a god, I have a really have a hard time believing they give any fucks about what kind of sex people engage in, so long as its all consensual and no one is being hurt. I mean, what's more important, following some arbitrary rules made up by men or being a good person who is kind to others.
And reality is - at no point did anyone's god actually come down and write a book, nor have they appeared anytime in recent history to give society a refresher on their laws / live-stream about it, write a fucking blog... Somehow, we're to believe all powerful god had no better plan to distribute critically important laws other than to tell one dude about it, in one part of the world, and hope word got around over hundreds of years. Jesus didn't write a single page of the Bible - its all stories about his life and times, alleged quotes and other random other stuff, written by a various men years, sometimes hundreds of years later.
Likewise, the definitions in dictionaries are just a collective understanding of what people currently agree a word to mean based on common usage, which can and has changed over time, causing definitions to be updated. So I mean, really, its all ...... people made up, some of it quite a long time ago, and you should only apply it to your life as you think is reasonable.
On the other hand, if you are worried about how other people / society at large may perceive your actions, than yeah, you may want to concern yourself with how they define the relevant actions and, notably, how it may be interpreted in your local laws.
If it makes you feel any better - oral sex is also a sin (a form of sodomy) and was / still is actually still illegal in some states even though those laws are no longer enforced. Wait, maybe that won't make you feel better...
If there is a god, I have a really have a hard time believing they give any fucks about what kind of sex people engage in, so long as its all consensual and no one is being hurt. I mean, what's more important, following some arbitrary rules made up by men or being a good person who is kind to others.
And reality is - at no point did anyone's god actually come down and write a book, nor have they appeared anytime in recent history to give society a refresher on their laws / live-stream about it, write a fucking blog... Somehow, we're to believe all powerful god had no better plan to distribute critically important laws other than to tell one dude about it, in one part of the world, and hope word got around over hundreds of years. Jesus didn't write a single page of the Bible - its all stories about his life and times, alleged quotes and other random other stuff, written by a various men years, sometimes hundreds of years later.
Likewise, the definitions in dictionaries are just a collective understanding of what people currently agree a word to mean based on common usage, which can and has changed over time, causing definitions to be updated. So I mean, really, its all ...... people made up, some of it quite a long time ago, and you should only apply it to your life as you think is reasonable.
On the other hand, if you are worried about how other people / society at large may perceive your actions, than yeah, you may want to concern yourself with how they define the relevant actions and, notably, how it may be interpreted in your local laws.
If it makes you feel any better - oral sex is also a sin (a form of sodomy) and was / still is actually still illegal in some states even though those laws are no longer enforced. Wait, maybe that won't make you feel better...
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