Wondering

[ProstituteWife]

Is gay all or nothing?

I do not have the answer to this, but I am wondering if maybe a person can be 90% hetro and 10% gay? Again I am not sure, but if we take the 100%...the black or white...aspect out of the equation, every question here is answered. A person could be any percentage therof: 50/50 gay, 90/10 gay, or even 70/30 gay...

Myself...I am not gay by any means, but I know I have an erogenous zone that few speak of. Sometimes during a handjob or footjob my wife will slip a finger in my anus and I explode...and I mean I explode...NOW! I have been openly asked to engage in that with another guy and I instantly refused as it holds no appeal for me. But blowjobs...oh how I love those, and I have wondered what the woman in my life have experienced doing this. Part of it was having an ex-wife that loved other women, and she told me, being tasted by another woman was something no man could replicate. I have always wondered, could a man give another man a blowjob that no woman could do?

That question haunts me. I am not gay...I adore woman...but I do wonder.

 

[Allen Amboy]

Is gay all or nothing?

I do not have the answer to this, but I am wondering if maybe a person can be 90% hetro and 10% gay? Again I am not sure, but if we take the 100%...the black or white...aspect out of the equation, every question here is answered. A person could be any percentage therof: 50/50 gay, 90/10 gay, or even 70/30 gay...

Myself...I am not gay by any means, but I know I have an erogenous zone that few speak of. Sometimes during a handjob or footjob my wife will slip a finger in my anus and I explode...and I mean I explode...NOW! I have been openly asked to engage in that with another guy and I instantly refused as it holds no appeal for me. But blowjobs...oh how I love those, and I have wondered what the woman in my life have experienced doing this. Part of it was having an ex-wife that loved other women, and she told me, being tasted by another woman was something no man could replicate. I have always wondered, could a man give another man a blowjob that no woman could do?

That question haunts me. I am not gay...I adore woman...but I do wonder.

The question of labels came up earlier in this thread. I think if we just eliminate labeling and just do what comes natural to us, and do what pleases our wives we'll be fine.

 

[NaughtyLA2]

Is gay all or nothing?

I do not have the answer to this, but I am wondering if maybe a person can be 90% hetro and 10% gay? Again I am not sure, but if we take the 100%...the black or white...aspect out of the equation, every question here is answered. A person could be any percentage therof: 50/50 gay, 90/10 gay, or even 70/30 gay...

Myself...I am not gay by any means, but I know I have an erogenous zone that few speak of. Sometimes during a handjob or footjob my wife will slip a finger in my anus and I explode...and I mean I explode...NOW! I have been openly asked to engage in that with another guy and I instantly refused as it holds no appeal for me. But blowjobs...oh how I love those, and I have wondered what the woman in my life have experienced doing this. Part of it was having an ex-wife that loved other women, and she told me, being tasted by another woman was something no man could replicate. I have always wondered, could a man give another man a blowjob that no woman could do?

That question haunts me. I am not gay...I adore woman...but I do wonder.

Short answer: yes, being gay is all or nothing. Some people choose to define themselves as gay/straight even if they don't meet the standard definition of only being attracted to one sex (i.e. "I find women attractive, but I'd only have a sexual or romantic relationship with a man, so I'm gay"), but strictly speaking anyone who is attracted to more than one gender is bisexual, regardless of who they date or have sex with.

Leading on from that, if someone says they're "90% straight and 10% gay", they're really 100% bisexual, even if they never act on their attractions to more than one gender (after all, I'm sure you were straight before you lost your virginity, and people who are celibate aren't necessarily asexual).

With regards to erogenous zones, there's no hard and fast set of rules regarding sexuality and sexual activity - there are gay guys who wouldn't even consider letting another guy fuck them, just as there are straight women who don't enjoy anal sex.

 

[Hottie6275]

No. It.is not all or nothing. Labels are societies way of pigeon holing you into their categories. i think you can be curious, experimental, or simply find something in someone of the same sex that excites you. As long as what you are curious about is legal, play around. You know you the best. I will always like women but that doesn't mean I can't like the looks, shape, size or even feel of a cock too.

Society looks completely different at 2 girls making love than they do at 2 guys whaving some male time.

 

[NaughtyLA2]

Society looks completely different at 2 girls making love than they do at 2 guys whaving some male time.

100% correct - 1 has a stigma attached to it, whilst the other is fetishized (which isn't necessarily any better for those on the receiving end, especially if a girl is coming out to a new partner and his only response is "that's hot").

When I said about being gay being "all or nothing", I meant that you're either gay or you're not - being "10% gay" isn't a thing. You're right that you can be curious to try something or can enjoy the feel of a cock, but that's about sexual behaviour, not sexuality - one is what you enjoy doing, and the other is who you're attracted to, even if you never act on it. For example, a straight guy can enjoy having a finger, plug or 10" dildo being used on his ass, but never be attracted to men, whereas a gay guy could stay in the closet for his entire life, get married, have children and never get to experience his true self.

Yes, society likes to pigeonhole people, but when the modern definition of bisexual is "attracted to more than one gender or gender identity", it's hard to consider it as overly restrictive 🙂

 

[Hottie6275]

100% correct - 1 has a stigma attached to it, whilst the other is fetishized (which isn't necessarily any better for those on the receiving end, especially if a girl is coming out to a new partner and his only response is "that's hot").

When I said about being gay being "all or nothing", I meant that you're either gay or you're not - being "10% gay" isn't a thing. You're right that you can be curious to try something or can enjoy the feel of a cock, but that's about sexual behaviour, not sexuality - one is what you enjoy doing, and the other is who you're attracted to, even if you never act on it. For example, a straight guy can enjoy having a finger, plug or 10" dildo being used on his ass, but never be attracted to men, whereas a gay guy could stay in the closet for his entire life, get married, have children and never get to experience his true self.

Yes, society likes to pigeonhole people, but when the modern definition of bisexual is "attracted to more than one gender or gender identity", it's hard to consider it as overly restrictive 🙂

I see what you are saying. If someone is trying to identify themselves as mostly heterosexual, then saying I'm just part gay would be wrong. I know I am curious, but not sure I would act on it beyond liking some man on man porn or certain toys to play with. It's the fact that we need to have labels attached to everything that annoys me.

 

[NaughtyLA2]

I see what you are saying. If someone is trying to identify themselves as mostly heterosexual, then saying I'm just part gay would be wrong. I know I am curious, but not sure I would act on it beyond liking some man on man porn or certain toys to play with. It's the fact that we need to have labels attached to everything that annoys me.

That part I can totally agree with. However, people not "labeling themselves" as bisexual is one of the main reasons for the stigma, and for increased levels of mental health problems in bi people, even when compared to the wider LGBTQ community. And it goes both ways - if even 10% of self-described gay men and women admitted to having opposite-sex attraction (and research suggests the true figure is far higher), the community would become a far more welcoming and inclusive place.

At the end of the day, here's an easy way to remember:

* if you're only attracted to the opposite gender (including trans individuals), you're straight
* if you're only attracted to the same gender (including trans), you're gay
* if you're anywhere in between, you're bisexual, and may even be pansexual
* if you feel no sexual attraction, you're asexual (and are unlikely to be on this site!)

 

[NaughtyLA2]

P.s. Great discussion 🙂

 

[AxelP]

She said it all depends on whether she have enough energy to handle continuous sex. But if she does, sure...

I can bet that she does. This photos so sexy, your wife could be a real whore if she ever wanted to be.

 

[Hottie6275]

That part I can totally agree with. However, people not "labeling themselves" as bisexual is one of the main reasons for the stigma, and for increased levels of mental health problems in bi people, even when compared to the wider LGBTQ community. And it goes both ways - if even 10% of self-described gay men and women admitted to having opposite-sex attraction (and research suggests the true figure is far higher), the community would become a far more welcoming and inclusive place.

At the end of the day, here's an easy way to remember:

* if you're only attracted to the opposite gender (including trans individuals), you're straight
* if you're only attracted to the same gender (including trans), you're gay
* if you're anywhere in between, you're bisexual, and may even be pansexual
* if you feel no sexual attraction, you're asexual (and are unlikely to be on this site!)

Guess I'm bi then. I think my ...... is pansexual. Attracted to the person and not the gender.

 

[BikerBill]

I have never had a desire to suck another man or have one suck me, fortunately either of those scenarios is a major turnoff from my wife as well. There is almost always incidental contact when 2 men are pleasing the same woman at the same time but with us there is never intentional MM contact.

To each there own; we do the things that turn us on the most and give us the most pleasure, if MM interaction gives other couples great pleasure I say HAVE FUN & ENJOY!!!

 

[TommySarah]

I found this site after my wife started using the word cuckold. She has a very high sex drive and we have always fantasised about her being chatted up by other men. She said it makes her feel good and I have to admit it has spiced up our sex life.
My wife loves running, but recently had a thigh injury for which she has been going for a weekly sports injury massage. After every week she teases me about how firmly her masseur touches her body, last week she said she had allowed him to remove her knickers, I didn't know if that was normal for a massage but I was incredibly turned on anyway.
So, this is why I'm here, she has said she will make a cuckold of me yet and I would do anything to make her happy and satisfy her. My question is this, she has asked me to come and watch the next time she has a massage, I don't know whether she wants to show me that it's all innocent or if she wants me to watch her being felt up! What do you think? I'm in two minds, as I said I'll do anything to please her but this might be seen as encouraging her? Any advice? Thanks

 

[AxelP]

I found this site after my wife started using the word cuckold. She has a very high sex drive and we have always fantasised about her being chatted up by other men. She said it makes her feel good and I have to admit it has spiced up our sex life.
My wife loves running, but recently had a thigh injury for which she has been going for a weekly sports injury massage. After every week she teases me about how firmly her masseur touches her body, last week she said she had allowed him to remove her knickers, I didn't know if that was normal for a massage but I was incredibly turned on anyway.
So, this is why I'm here, she has said she will make a cuckold of me yet and I would do anything to make her happy and satisfy her. My question is this, she has asked me to come and watch the next time she has a massage, I don't know whether she wants to show me that it's all innocent or if she wants me to watch her being felt up! What do you think? I'm in two minds, as I said I'll do anything to please her but this might be seen as encouraging her? Any advice? Thanks

I suggest that you go and watch one of the sessions. Even of nothing happens you can egg them along a bit like "Honey, did you tell him about that stiffness you have right there - and point to her upper/upper thigh about an inch from her pussy and let the rest happen naturally

 

[Naughty]

I've had my dick sucked so many times by transexuals and some of the best orgasms ever.
Eventually I wanted to return the favour and I really enjoyed it...the sense of achievement you get when a guy shoots in your mouth owi g to good bj techniques is amazing...
I've also had cock in my ass and although it was a bit painful, it was great to feel like a woman and very sexy hearing the guy cum inside me.

Why should the girls have all the fun?

 

[Hottie6275]

I've had my dick sucked so many times by transexuals and some of the best orgasms ever.
Eventually I wanted to return the favour and I really enjoyed it...the sense of achievement you get when a guy shoots in your mouth owi g to good bj techniques is amazing...
I've also had cock in my ass and although it was a bit painful, it was great to feel like a woman and very sexy hearing the guy cum inside me.

Why should the girls have all the fun?

All good points.

 

[2wheel]

yes all good points