I can’t disagree more with this. Being “officially” married doesn’t mean anything if there isn’t complete open and honest communication between the husband and wife. Emotional connection is a good thing for sex but genuine feelings are things that, from every experienced person I’ve talked to or read posts from, should be avoided. The actual marriage connection is the single most important aspect of this whole dynamic. Emotional infidelity should not occur in this lifestyle or you run the risk of losing that relationship.