Hi guys,
I was wondering if some of you had the same experience/feeling and how you reacted (and if you have advices)?
My wife and I went in a bar in a casino to have two cocktails. We organized a date with a local black bull. I left her and he arrived. She was to give him one kiss if she wanted him to be the first one for our first threesome but 20 min after he arrived, he was having his arm around her shoulders, touching her tit and they kissed with the tongue. She stayed there with him for 1h30 and kiss him two more times (really passionate kiss). She told her that he likes to be dominant and she told him that she likes to be submissive. After the date she told me that he will be the one.
Since this, she changed totally. Before, I was the one bringing the subject to the table. Now she is talking about our first time with him (she is actually talking about him and her even if she wants me to be present - she doesn’t want to cheat on me). She was working one day in a Starbucks and she had to go to the restroom to give herself pleasure because she was too excited thinking about him fucking her. She had me order online new kinky lingerie that she wants to wear for him. She organised everything for the date - in 13 days (babysitter, setting an appointment to the beautician, she even booked an hotel room close to where he lives). We are talking a lot about it and she basically told me that I will be in charge of her clitoris when he will be fucking her. She is already talking about the next times she will be seeing him.
From my point of view, we were supposed to take it slow. Now I feel like I totally lost control on the situation and that there is nothing I can do to avoid it. Tonight she told me that she will be ovulating the night we will be meeting him and that she hopes that she will not get pregnant (she was laughing but I felt that she was 50% serious). She is not taking the pill as we are. It sure if we want a second ...... so when we have sex, I can enter a bit inside her but after few minutes she is asking me to use a condom. We had sex tonight and we did it again. I asked her if she will let him enter like this inside her (I was concinced that she would say « never » as one of our golden rule is safe sex) and she told me yes but not too long. So basically she is planning to let him fuck her bareback for few minutes.
What am I supposed to do? Any advices?
Thanks a lot
I think a big issue is that she is submissive & he obviously already dominated her mind and body. Sorry to hear that mate, I think you really need to open up and talk to her privately and seriously.
When we first started, we used to play with a married old friend of mine who was an Asian too. After a few months, however, all she talked about was his words, his marriage, his business, how amazing he was in bed, his adventures with other housewives, etc. They went up to hotel rooms alone or went to his place like every week. She was so into him & I was many times asked to stay home when she slept in his place or in hotel.
I thought it was okay until one day I heard the conceige at that hotel called her "Mrs. Chan" & she responded (when mine & her last name wasn't it. It was his name).
At that moment, I sensed the seriousness of the situation & talked to her. She seemed not realizing that she was already like "owned" by him. After talking for a couple of times, she finally told me he has been showing her videos of him fucking other housewives. He has also filmed their sex dates whenever he fucked her when I ain't there
We ended with him & worried for long time he still had copies of the videos even though he showed us he deleted all those videos from his collection. Fortunately, he's now in jail for some financial misdeed & his wife helped us to clean up the mess.
If you really feel uncomfortable, you need to talk to her, before it is too late or get out of control, pregnancy or owning her completely, none of these are good if you are not going to accept it. Good luck.