I very much prefer it, it's more exciting. The tension and mystery make my imagination go wild. The feeling of exclusion makes it extra cucky.
I've been telling her that I want to start role-playing cheating harder. I want her to start seeing guys behind my back altogether and only sometimes reveal affairs and encounters she has been having.
Nowadays the only reason I want to be present is to film them so I can wank over it (again and again and again) later.
I do enjoy sometimes not knowing who is fucking my wife. That is hot. I like knowing that there are men in our city who have fucked my wife and I have no idea who they are.