Wife agreed to try, what are the next steps?

[Sparky87]

After planting the seed in her head and then revealing to my wife that I was turned on by the thought of her having sex with other men, she sits she would do it.

Now we are in the very very beginning stages, I was hoping to get some advice on how to progress. It's not something we will jump right into, but want to plan out and continue to talk about. We have no idea where to find someone, or the best ways to vet them out.

Any advice is welcome!!

 

[Htwf4fwb]

Find them online on swingers sites like sls, aff. Regular dating sites work to you just say what you are looking for. Vet them by going over all your dos and don’t s and there’s of all is agreeable I like to meet for a coffee once before play. Don’t put up with pushy, rude or anything like that. Real swinger guys are looking for enthusiastic consent are very polite and patient especially if you tell them you are new. You should read up on swingers etiquette so you know what you should expect and don’t put up with less

 

[CuckmeCleveland]

At ‘the very very beginning stages,’ you have plenty of things to consider.

Have you discussed safety issues or any boundaries? What of emotional control? If either of you start to lose it, you will …?

Have you considered your relationship with the man you hope to invite into your bedroom. Will he understand that your marriage absolutely comes first, and that he is there to serve your wife? Will he respect you? Also, will you respect him as a man, and not simply a dick with legs?

Most marital relationships entail two people. Often, that is challenging enough. You are looking at a three-way relationship. You want the dynamics to be good all the way around.

If you’re going to do this, do it right. Take as much guess work out of it as possible. Going in with no plan and ‘figuring it out on the fly’ may not be a good idea. You can, of course, reach out for a few tips from others on the board.

Or, you could take the time and find the resources to study the ins-and-outs of this huge step.

Take care, and all the best!

 

[werekinky2]

I agree with both of these comments also . It is going to take some time you may even meet with some guys and they end up flaking after. Or even before meeting with you that just happens don’t let it discourage you. Your wife having some good chemistry with the guy also helps. It helps to be able to hang out for a bit and be able to fuck after.depends what your into I guess

 

[birdman83]

After planting the seed in her head and then revealing to my wife that I was turned on by the thought of her having sex with other men, she sits she would do it.

Now we are in the very very beginning stages, I was hoping to get some advice on how to progress. It's not something we will jump right into, but want to plan out and continue to talk about. We have no idea where to find someone, or the best ways to vet them out.

Any advice is welcome!!

I would go to a swingers club and just observe. Afterwards talk about things you liked and didn’t like and set some guidelines. Go back to the same club in a few weeks and let her flit with different men and take things one step at a time. Make sure she tells all the men that she’s new to this. They’ll understand and won’t push things