Wife’s Promiscuous Past is Fueling Fantasy

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Wife’s [30] intermittent affairs while we were dating is a turn on for me [33] that has continued growing over the last 5 years. At the time, I was hurt, enraged and humiliated after she admitted to ...... with 3 different guys on separate occasions during a “break” in our relationship during sophomore year of college. Two of the guys she slept with were older seniors while the other was a freshman. I felt beyond embarrassed after our mutual friend group slowly found out. It was rocky for the remaining two years of college but we ended up staying together. The anger/humiliation of her cheating slowly morphed into a turn on of mine for reasons I don’t understand. I have been hesitant to discuss these feelings with her out of embarrassment, but still find myself fantasizing about her with other men in a cuckold dynamic. This past year, I built up the confidence to bring dildos into the bedroom, which she reluctantly (and rarely) uses during sex. This puts me over the top, but I’m hesitant to introduce more/bigger toys that satisfy my fantasy.

Any couples experience a similar journey before finally opening things up? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
 
After she cheated, that was actually one of the first things I started doing as my Hotwife/cuckold fantasies developed.
She never had a follow-on question or showed signs of curiosity to serve as a conversation starter.

In that vein, the furthest I’ve gone to spark conversation around my feelings is telling her how much it turned me on seeing her with the dildo. I also consistently bring up how hot she looked when she sucked a dildo while I had her bent over (which only happened once when I asked).

I guess what I’m trying to say is I don’t know how much further I can go to spark a conversation organically. I would prefer not to bring up my feelings in such a dramatic or sudden moment.
 
I truly don't understand most marriages?? If I was afraid to talk to my wife about anything, despite the response on her part, I wouldn't bother having her around!! She can yell, scream, cry, etc (and she does like when I buy another 500 rounds of ammo, or another 60 round circular feed magazine) but we ARE going to talk about it. Especialy sex. She might hate my ideas, but she's hearing about them. WHAT do you guys think wen you marry a woman you are afraid to talk to???

CW
 
I truly don't understand most marriages?? If I was afraid to talk to my wife about anything, despite the response on her part, I wouldn't bother having her around!! She can yell, scream, cry, etc (and she does like when I buy another 500 rounds of ammo, or another 60 round circular feed magazine) but we ARE going to talk about it. Especialy sex. She might hate my ideas, but she's hearing about them. WHAT do you guys think wen you marry a woman you are afraid to talk to???

CW
u r lucky mate. Many wives cannot be talked to openly without blowing their top and using the info against u later.
 
Wife’s [30] intermittent affairs while we were dating is a turn on for me [33] that has continued growing over the last 5 years. At the time, I was hurt, enraged and humiliated after she admitted to ...... with 3 different guys on separate occasions during a “break” in our relationship during sophomore year of college. Two of the guys she slept with were older seniors while the other was a freshman. I felt beyond embarrassed after our mutual friend group slowly found out. It was rocky for the remaining two years of college but we ended up staying together. The anger/humiliation of her cheating slowly morphed into a turn on of mine for reasons I don’t understand. I have been hesitant to discuss these feelings with her out of embarrassment, but still find myself fantasizing about her with other men in a cuckold dynamic. This past year, I built up the confidence to bring dildos into the bedroom, which she reluctantly (and rarely) uses during sex. This puts me over the top, but I’m hesitant to introduce more/bigger toys that satisfy my fantasy.

Any couples experience a similar journey before finally opening things up? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
She doesn’t use when your there trust me they will be in her at every opportunity when your not around
 
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I truly don't understand most marriages?? If I was afraid to talk to my wife about anything, despite the response on her part, I wouldn't bother having her around!! She can yell, scream, cry, etc (and she does like when I buy another 500 rounds of ammo, or another 60 round circular feed magazine) but we ARE going to talk about it. Especialy sex. She might hate my ideas, but she's hearing about them. WHAT do you guys think wen you marry a woman you are afraid to talk to???

CW
Mine finally stopped questioning my ammo purchasing
 
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Wife’s [30] intermittent affairs while we were dating is a turn on for me [33] that has continued growing over the last 5 years. At the time, I was hurt, enraged and humiliated after she admitted to ...... with 3 different guys on separate occasions during a “break” in our relationship during sophomore year of college. Two of the guys she slept with were older seniors while the other was a freshman. I felt beyond embarrassed after our mutual friend group slowly found out. It was rocky for the remaining two years of college but we ended up staying together. The anger/humiliation of her cheating slowly morphed into a turn on of mine for reasons I don’t understand. I have been hesitant to discuss these feelings with her out of embarrassment, but still find myself fantasizing about her with other men in a cuckold dynamic. This past year, I built up the confidence to bring dildos into the bedroom, which she reluctantly (and rarely) uses during sex. This puts me over the top, but I’m hesitant to introduce more/bigger toys that satisfy my fantasy.

Any couples experience a similar journey before finally opening things up? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Yes..she had affairs I didn't know about. She would tease me at times telling me there were things I didn't know about I'd ask and she would fly she was just kidding. Later on in our marriage we were playing cards with friends and out of the blue she asked the man's wife if she could f*** her husband. Well this went on for a few weeks of us off and on sharing swapping whatever and I told her how excited I was watching her with the other man and not long after that she finally confessed to the five affairs which is their time only excited me the more and for a while she ended up being a hot wife where she would go to some guy that she worked with his house and have sex with him and then some businessman that came into her office as she was in office manager and took him to a motel as well all of this really excited both of us it still fuels my imagination
 
Yes..she had affairs I didn't know about. She would tease me at times telling me there were things I didn't know about I'd ask and she would fly she was just kidding. Later on in our marriage we were playing cards with friends and out of the blue she asked the man's wife if she could f*** her husband. Well this went on for a few weeks of us off and on sharing swapping whatever and I told her how excited I was watching her with the other man and not long after that she finally confessed to the five affairs which is their time only excited me the more and for a while she ended up being a hot wife where she would go to some guy that she worked with his house and have sex with him and then some businessman that came into her office as she was in office manager and took him to a motel as well all of this really excited both of us it still fuels my imagination
 

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Wife’s [30] intermittent affairs while we were dating is a turn on for me [33] that has continued growing over the last 5 years. At the time, I was hurt, enraged and humiliated after she admitted to ...... with 3 different guys on separate occasions during a “break” in our relationship during sophomore year of college. Two of the guys she slept with were older seniors while the other was a freshman. I felt beyond embarrassed after our mutual friend group slowly found out. It was rocky for the remaining two years of college but we ended up staying together. The anger/humiliation of her cheating slowly morphed into a turn on of mine for reasons I don’t understand. I have been hesitant to discuss these feelings with her out of embarrassment, but still find myself fantasizing about her with other men in a cuckold dynamic. This past year, I built up the confidence to bring dildos into the bedroom, which she reluctantly (and rarely) uses during sex. This puts me over the top, but I’m hesitant to introduce more/bigger toys that satisfy my fantasy.

Any couples experience a similar journey before finally opening things up? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
I can completely relate!
Story about that later.

Meanwhlie, play with the dildos in her pussy and lick her at the same time. Say nothing.
Wife’s [30] intermittent affairs while we were dating is a turn on for me [33] that has continued growing over the last 5 years. At the time, I was hurt, enraged and humiliated after she admitted to ...... with 3 different guys on separate occasions during a “break” in our relationship during sophomore year of college. Two of the guys she slept with were older seniors while the other was a freshman. I felt beyond embarrassed after our mutual friend group slowly found out. It was rocky for the remaining two years of college but we ended up staying together. The anger/humiliation of her cheating slowly morphed into a turn on of mine for reasons I don’t understand. I have been hesitant to discuss these feelings with her out of embarrassment, but still find myself fantasizing about her with other men in a cuckold dynamic. This past year, I built up the confidence to bring dildos into the bedroom, which she reluctantly (and rarely) uses during sex. This puts me over the top, but I’m hesitant to introduce more/bigger toys that satisfy my fantasy.

Any couples experience a similar journey before finally opening things up? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
I can completely relate!
Story about us later.

Meanwhile, play with her pussy with the dildo. Say nothing, but imagine it is another guy. Does she enjoy oral attention, that you know of? If not, start licking your way down there. Eventually, lick her while the dildo is moving in and out. Be patient, she may give in to your desires. Let us know how it goes!
 
I can completely relate!
Story about that later.

Meanwhlie, play with the dildos in her pussy and lick her at the same time. Say nothing.

I can completely relate!
Story about us later.

Meanwhile, play with her pussy with the dildo. Say nothing, but imagine it is another guy. Does she enjoy oral attention, that you know of? If not, start licking your way down there. Eventually, lick her while the dildo is moving in and out. Be patient, she may give in to your desires. Let us know how it goes!
Completely agree!
 
Wife’s [30] intermittent affairs while we were dating is a turn on for me [33] that has continued growing over the last 5 years. At the time, I was hurt, enraged and humiliated after she admitted to ...... with 3 different guys on separate occasions during a “break” in our relationship during sophomore year of college. Two of the guys she slept with were older seniors while the other was a freshman. I felt beyond embarrassed after our mutual friend group slowly found out. It was rocky for the remaining two years of college but we ended up staying together. The anger/humiliation of her cheating slowly morphed into a turn on of mine for reasons I don’t understand. I have been hesitant to discuss these feelings with her out of embarrassment, but still find myself fantasizing about her with other men in a cuckold dynamic. This past year, I built up the confidence to bring dildos into the bedroom, which she reluctantly (and rarely) uses during sex. This puts me over the top, but I’m hesitant to introduce more/bigger toys that satisfy my fantasy.

Any couples experience a similar journey before finally opening things up? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
How was she cheating if you were on a break?

Like it's still hot but it's not cheating.
 
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Yes! Absolutely although I have a unique situation and my wife was very experienced when I met her and didn't realize it until we had been dating for a few weeks.
My experience is what some men fantasize about.

I was working as a bouncer in a strip club when she started dancing there. She loved being a stripper and showing off her sexy body dancing on stage and giving lap dances.

She danced there for a few months before we even met. Then after we were dating I started to get turned on watching her dancing on stage and giving guys lap dances.

Watching her giving a guy a lap dance was so hot. The way she looked so turned on and seductive the way she moved around on his lap touching him letting him look at her body and touch her.



Seeing a guys hands on her ass and legs while she was on her knees between his legs facing him got my cock hard.

Watching her running her hands around on his chest, arms and stomach drove me wild.

I started fantasizing about watching her giving a guy a private room show doing all sorts of things she's not supposed to do.

When we first started dating she told me that when she was dancing at the clun she got just as turned on as the guys did. She told me that giving some guy a lap dance getting his cock all hard you're both right there all turned on and just ready to fuck.


That's why before we met I saw her leaving with a different customer every night after she gave them a lap dance. She was so turned on she had then leave with her and come over to her place to get fucked.

Seeing a stripper leave with a customer isn't a big deal. But watching a stripper leave with a different customer every night was something that no one had seen before.
You hit the jackpot!!!
 
I truly don't understand most marriages?? If I was afraid to talk to my wife about anything, despite the response on her part, I wouldn't bother having her around!! She can yell, scream, cry, etc (and she does like when I buy another 500 rounds of ammo, or another 60 round circular feed magazine) but we ARE going to talk about it. Especialy sex. She might hate my ideas, but she's hearing about them. WHAT do you guys think wen you marry a woman you are afraid to talk to???

CW
Every relationship and person is different. In an ideal marriage, we should be able to talk to our significant other about anything. Unfortunately, that's not the case in a lot of relationships. Don't judge others, who may not feel as comfortable to talk to them as you do. Hell, your wife may not even be listening to you or give a ...... about what you're saying and just let's you feel like she is, lol.
 
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In my opinion you guys make the mistake of asking her to tell you about her experiences but aren't being honest or open about where your heads are and WHY you're asking. I think they can sense there's more to it but your not telling it all gets the same in return.

They don't trust telling you and you're feeding that; yes, it can be scary or risky, but you swore she was your best friend and partner. She deserves to know your truth more than we do...