I bought a 20 foot boat and went on the smaller lakes where most other boats were smaller. I thought my boat was big.Then I went out to a very large lake with my boat and discovered how small my big boat was.I get off thinking about my wife discussing my size/stamina with her friends. She is also Asian but her social circle now includes many Filipina expats also married to white guys. Originally though we were doing long distance and she was the only one of her inner circle to be dating a white guy. I posted recently about how she used to think my 5.5x4.5" was big but now she's admitted she doesn't. I suspect she and her friends have been comparing notes - she hasn't given me details of what is said between then but has told me there are "no secrets".