My wife does go out to places with the intention of attracting attention, with the intention of bringing titilating stories back home to me, but they're not the typical meat markets where she could pick up a guy, nor does she feel comfortable in those types of places. She goes to the local indian casino and bars and restaurants that are more "family" oriented. We're more "homebody" types, so I guess she's have to step out of her comfort zone and that means I would have to talk her into going to those types of places.
I guess I was suffering under the "hotwife dynamic", where like minded people can get together, all parties understanding the "rules" and norms of the fetish and acting accordingly. Shows what I know. lol
Seriously though, she's never participated in the one night stand phenomena. Her lack of confidence would probably lead to some pretty high stress levels, but I do understand your point.