For me, it started by accident in some club in Miami, when my wife was back in the day, she was dressed very clubby, to say the least, and I noticed two black guys paying extra attention to her, that was a very enticing feeling. Certainly got me jealous, but when I brought it to her attention that she draws tons of attention from them and she liked to dance with them, I can tell you for certainty in her mind she could not think straight, she wanted the attention, something different I guess?