Whose Idea to Start Hotwifing?

[gsxr174]

It was both our idea I guess my fantasy that she said we should really do

 

[ottawacuckoldhusband]

In your relationship, who broke the ice about hotwifing? How was it initially received?

In our relationship I was the one that broke the ice and told my wife that I really wanted to watch her have sex with another man.

At first she was a bit nervous, but cautiously open to the idea. She asked questions, and listened to what I had to say, but stated clearly that she didn’t know how she felt about the idea.

We went at our own pace to figure things out, find what we were both comfortable with, find the perfect Bull, plan a play date, and then meet up. Eight months went by before my wife fucked her first Bull (and it was amazing, but that’s for another post).

Personally, I would have loved it if my wife had come to me and said “Baby, I want to fuck a big Bull while you watch”.

At the end of the day, I had a lot of trust in my wife, and I knew that I could tell her anything, my deepest darkest fantasies even, and she wouldn’t judge, or freak out, or make fun of me. And that’s what helped me tell her in the end.

 

[phbbhp238]

It was kind of both of our fantasy, but it was my wife who brought up doing it for real. We had been looking for ways to spice things up and each stumbled on the hotwife thing. We would surf together and look at the sites and talk about what "they" did. Then, one night, my wife asked "what would you think about me being a hotwife?" Needless to say I was a bit surprised. She said "Just something to think about." Maybe a week or so later she asked if I had given it any thought - of course, that's all I could think about! We continued to talk about it over the next couple of weeks and I eventually agreed to try it. That was almost five years ago and we've loved it ever since!

 

[spin418]

Gotta believe that with few exceptions this is something men first come to want, or believe they want. if it's to happen, they initiate it. That doesn't mean women can't/don't ever figure in it. Infidelity by a female surely can be a trigger, a thing that shakes up a relationship, causes a couple to hit the reset button in all sorts of way, including sex. Cheating is powerful. It can be damaging. But it can also end up reinvigorating a relationship. It has the power bring a couple to realization of things that may surprise them.....and eventually the possibility of exploration. While its taken decades to understand, I'm certain it's foundational in our situation, my desires.

Swinging couples too, may swing and swap for a time but then mutually settle on cuckoldry as a more natural and fulfilling arrangement.

 

[Jcasaus0001]

What you should do, is ask if he had heard of it. Say that it's weird, and you find out hard to believe that I guy would want that. See what his reaction is. But, when you bring it up maybe show him a meme or similar stimulation. It my peak his interest, or you will find out if he is the jealous type.

 

[Afterallofthis]

Here is a story.
A woman got asked over years by her husband to get into the hotwife and swinger lifestyle.
She never really wanted it but he never let go of it.
She was the kind of woman that wanted to make him happy, and as time passed by he seemed to lose interest in her and went more and more into porn and the idea of getting into a swinger lifestyle. So she agreed. Started slowly... Posted nude pictures on the internet and he finally seemed to get his fantasies fulfilled.
They met other couples... Swapped partners up to the point where he arranged a group of strangers to meet her.
What he never realized was, that she did this only for him. She was hoping that this would get them back closer together.
She met a guy on the internet while all of this happened. On one of the sites where he wanted her to expose herself on.
So she fell in love with him. And eventually left her husband. And is now with him.
So all you guys thinking to start this. You better ask yourself, why do you want this - And why does my partner?
Is this based on a solid love and partnership?
Or is it for compensation of something that got lost?
Because you might risk your marriage or partnership.

1 of the above mentioned is miserable now.
Two came out happy out of this.

Always think twice.

 

[Bobby75]

Here is a story.
A woman got asked over years by her husband to get into the hotwife and swinger lifestyle.
She never really wanted it but he never let go of it.
She was the kind of woman that wanted to make him happy, and as time passed by he seemed to lose interest in her and went more and more into porn and the idea of getting into a swinger lifestyle. So she agreed. Started slowly... Posted nude pictures on the internet and he finally seemed to get his fantasies fulfilled.
They met other couples... Swapped partners up to the point where he arranged a group of strangers to meet her.
What he never realized was, that she did this only for him. She was hoping that this would get them back closer together.
She met a guy on the internet while all of this happened. On one of the sites where he wanted her to expose herself on.
So she fell in love with him. And eventually left her husband. And is now with him.
So all you guys thinking to start this. You better ask yourself, why do you want this - And why does my partner?
Is this based on a solid love and partnership?
Or is it for compensation of something that got lost?
Because you might risk your marriage or partnership.

1 of the above mentioned is miserable now.
Two came out happy out of this.

Always think twice.

You sound like a lot of fun.