If you go for long term cuckolding relationships like I generally have you get much more opportunity to mix it up a little.
First few times I'll generally fuck the hotwife in front of the cuck so he gets a good visual and audio idea of how his wife behaves with another man, he may not have seen this before so it's good for him to see.
I then generally start to take over from him sexually with his wife and insist that I meet her alone occasionally to fuck her while he is at work, normally at his house in the marital bed as that's symbolic for all concerned. Sometimes I'll call him or ... while we fuck so he can watch or hear his wife being fucked in his bed but can do nothing about it, other times I won't call and just leave it to his imagination.
I'll then take it up another level by telling him to book a hotel for us to fuck in. I might invite him to watch or not.
This sounds exactly how I enjoy time with my bulls or men I meet. There is something erotic about being taken and fucked while my husband watches the seduction unfold. I mostly leave the details up to my bull when it happens. Most men will ask me why I play with other men and why hubby allows it. Most of my men know that my husband is always there for me emotionally but that he has a tiny little penis that rarely satisfies me, so I play with other men to get what I need sexually.
When I expose my husband to other men, even men in the average range feel large and superior. My husband does enjoy watching me, so it is good for all of us. Many guys enjoy adding some small penis humiliation to the mix, and I find they stay harder and go stronger when hubby is watching. When hubby is ordered to clean up by either me or my man, it creates a balance and lets the other man know he is in control and my body is his.
I also find it highly erotic to play alone with another man, either with hubby knowing or finding out afterward. Having hubby return home to find our bed disheveled from an afternoon fling and having hubby take the soiled sheets off and remake the bed with clean linens always makes his little cocky super hard. I also find I am much more free and "bad" when hubby is not there when I am with other men. So both scenarios have a definite place for me.