Whats it like after a couple invites a 2nd guy ?

Most of the guys we have been with were random guys off craigslist personal.
Everyone knew what we were getting into.
Except one guy.
1. he was good looking but a douche in person
2. once he started making out with my wife, he asked if we can go to our bedroom to get some privacy since he had a hard time getting it up
3. I ended up leaving to bedroom so they can finish in the frontroom on the couch but when they were done and wife took a shower, he put his feet up on the coffee table and asked if was going to order the ufc fight
Im thinking to myself "what the hell is wrong with this guy?"
We hooked up with a stranger out of town once. WAY out of our comfort zone. We'd had a dri.nk in the hotel bar. We were chatting with others in the bar. One guy was alone, very friendly, good conversation, our age. Our visit moved to only with him. Really cool guy. Wife was WAY into him. We agreed to go up to his room. Started out great. They were making out pretty hot, they got naked, wife was way into playing with his big dick licking and sucking it. It's was pretty exciting. He told her to get on all fours so he could fuck her. He slid in and started to fuck her, he slapped he'd butt HARD a few times, she's not into that at all. He started calling her a whole and a slut. She pulled away and wanted to leave, she got dressed and we split.
She was REALLY into him at first. All he had to do was ask a few questions like what are you guys into? What do you like? What are you hoping will happen? We should have asked the same question but we didn't. It's too bad, he was good looking, wife wanted him bad, it could have been a great time.
 
We hooked up with a stranger out of town once. WAY out of our comfort zone. We'd had a dri.nk in the hotel bar. We were chatting with others in the bar. One guy was alone, very friendly, good conversation, our age. Our visit moved to only with him. Really cool guy. Wife was WAY into him. We agreed to go up to his room. Started out great. They were making out pretty hot, they got naked, wife was way into playing with his big dick licking and sucking it. It's was pretty exciting. He told her to get on all fours so he could fuck her. He slid in and started to fuck her, he slapped he'd butt HARD a few times, she's not into that at all. He started calling her a whole and a slut. She pulled away and wanted to leave, she got dressed and we split.
She was REALLY into him at first. All he had to do was ask a few questions like what are you guys into? What do you like? What are you hoping will happen? We should have asked the same question but we didn't. It's too bad, he was good looking, wife wanted him bad, it could have been a great time.
My wife is not a slut or a whore and if she offered her sweet pussy to another guy it would be his lucky day and he better treat her like a princess from start to finish. I don't blame your wife for leaving she sounds like a first class Vixon.
 
We hooked up with a stranger out of town once. WAY out of our comfort zone. We'd had a dri.nk in the hotel bar. We were chatting with others in the bar. One guy was alone, very friendly, good conversation, our age. Our visit moved to only with him. Really cool guy. Wife was WAY into him. We agreed to go up to his room. Started out great. They were making out pretty hot, they got naked, wife was way into playing with his big dick licking and sucking it. It's was pretty exciting. He told her to get on all fours so he could fuck her. He slid in and started to fuck her, he slapped he'd butt HARD a few times, she's not into that at all. He started calling her a whole and a slut. She pulled away and wanted to leave, she got dressed and we split.
She was REALLY into him at first. All he had to do was ask a few questions like what are you guys into? What do you like? What are you hoping will happen? We should have asked the same question but we didn't. It's too bad, he was good looking, wife wanted him bad, it could have been a great time.
100% there should always be some boundaries that he needs to respect
 
We enjoy sexy fun with a guy we know occasionally. While we're having fun it's exciting as hell. After we're done it's always very awkward for me, I'm the husband.

If you are a couple that's into the additional guy type fun or if you are the extra guy for a couple what's it like when you're done, winding down and saying goodbye?

We've enjoyed sex fun with our friend quite a few times, we're pretty comfy together but it's always weird for me when he's leaving.

We can enjoy a dinner at with some friends at our or their home(non sexual), we visit laugh, have conversations. When it's over us guys shake hands, the girls hug, sometimes the girls hug the guys with a kiss on the cheek. We say thanks and leave.
Why is it so different with sex involved ?
I think it’s just human nature Loridan. Whether it’s a feeling that someone is yours (not in a bad way, just that you two have committed and share so much with each other), envy, or just generally outside of societal norm makes it different. More times than not I have sex with my wife after or while having a guest or guests over. I can say I feel a little more awkward or even incomplete when I don’t. As a result the bye portion of hanging out feels a bit different.

I can say in our journey things and feelings have changed over time, to include entrances and exits of those we invite into our life. Developing a relationship with those we have with us and feeling comfortable in my own skin has smoothed over the entrances and exits.
 
My wife and i have a friend that has visited us several times already. He usually comes on a Saturday evening and ends up sleeping over and leaves Sunday morning. We usually don’t say anything, he just leaves. We fuck allot throughout the night and eventually fell asleep, the first night he stayed over, i woke up next morning with the sounds of them fucking again, they had woken up a bit earlier apparently horny, and he was on top of her, missionary position fucking her passionately. After he finished just stood up, went to toilet, came back, got dressed and left. And its been like that all the other times, what changes is who wakes up first, and what we do when awake. Last time i woke up first and gave him a blow job before he left
Are you bi.?
 
We hooked up with a stranger out of town once. WAY out of our comfort zone. We'd had a dri.nk in the hotel bar. We were chatting with others in the bar. One guy was alone, very friendly, good conversation, our age. Our visit moved to only with him. Really cool guy. Wife was WAY into him. We agreed to go up to his room. Started out great. They were making out pretty hot, they got naked, wife was way into playing with his big dick licking and sucking it. It's was pretty exciting. He told her to get on all fours so he could fuck her. He slid in and started to fuck her, he slapped he'd butt HARD a few times, she's not into that at all. He started calling her a whole and a slut. She pulled away and wanted to leave, she got dressed and we split.
She was REALLY into him at first. All he had to do was ask a few questions like what are you guys into? What do you like? What are you hoping will happen? We should have asked the same question but we didn't. It's too bad, he was good looking, wife wanted him bad, it could have been a great time.
Our last mfm fun was with a guy from another swing site. I'd talked with him multiple times, told him what we/she liked, more importantly what my wife "does not" like. Everything going well, we're in the bed, and he got in a hurry to start fucking, as she wasn't ready, he asked me to get some lube out of a bedside drawer. Then told my wife "suck my cock". Well, that didn't go over well with her and she put the brakes on the fuck session. We left, and on the way home she told me "I want cock, just not his". He was in for a good time, but just didn't listen. A shame, he had a nice cock.
 
Most of the guys we have been with were random guys off craigslist personal.
Everyone knew what we were getting into.
Except one guy.
1. he was good looking but a douche in person
2. once he started making out with my wife, he asked if we can go to our bedroom to get some privacy since he had a hard time getting it up
3. I ended up leaving to bedroom so they can finish in the frontroom on the couch but when they were done and wife took a shower, he put his feet up on the coffee table and asked if was going to order the ufc fight
Im thinking to myself "what the hell is wrong with this guy?"
He obviously thought that as he had fucked your wife he owned you and the house. You needed to lay down the rules as to what you expected ie being in the same room as your wife all the time If you wanted to take part etc. It’s all about what the cpl want with the wife usually being the one in charge directly or indirectly because it’s get who will make the night a success lol. The male depending on what situation you want is basically an extra cock for your wife. If you want a Bull that’s it, if you want a Master then it’s going to be a different scenario. But the cpls I have met had enjoyed fantasies before I met them so in ways you have to live within their fantasies and remember it’s usually the male partner who is the initiator of getting an extra man but not always. Good manners and clear concise rules/ instructions always help and get everyone’s agreement.. I met a cpl who had an argument just as we got started which ruined the night and left me in a difficult position as I was staying in their home for the night lol
If you wa T an extra cock just to arrive fuck your wife then leave say so, if she wants word then take time to do it and agree on what you want after the deed is done.. ie stay so she can wake you in the morning or just say goodnight and go.. as I said iron out any problems before ang meetings
 
Their goodnight kisses turned into him doing her one last time in the livingroom without me. I'd look down and watch but they didn't know. He always plows her from behind and she seems to like it.
That's taken a huge part of the awkward good by, see ya later pressure off me.
Perfectly stated. Seeing my wife naked, standing on her tiptoes kissing him goodbye always renews my erection and there's been a few times that they had quick sex again before he got out the door. I've taken her on the couch in the living room a couple of times after this happened - she was still a little bit horny, but was really just making sure I had cum.
 
We hooked up with a stranger out of town once. WAY out of our comfort zone. We'd had a dri.nk in the hotel bar. We were chatting with others in the bar. One guy was alone, very friendly, good conversation, our age. Our visit moved to only with him. Really cool guy. Wife was WAY into him. We agreed to go up to his room. Started out great. They were making out pretty hot, they got naked, wife was way into playing with his big dick licking and sucking it. It's was pretty exciting. He told her to get on all fours so he could fuck her. He slid in and started to fuck her, he slapped he'd butt HARD a few times, she's not into that at all. He started calling her a whole and a slut. She pulled away and wanted to leave, she got dressed and we split.
She was REALLY into him at first. All he had to do was ask a few questions like what are you guys into? What do you like? What are you hoping will happen? We should have asked the same question but we didn't. It's too bad, he was good looking, wife wanted him bad, it could have been a great time.
Exactly. Guys can be pretty tone-deaf sometimes, especially during and after sex and they negate any chance of a repeat invitation. The thing is, there's no playbook to teach us guys how to handle these sexy situations - only what other guys have told us (which is usually bullshit) and what we've seen in porn (which is designed to stimulate purchase - not for purposes of "education").
 
This is a great topic. My wife has had boyfriends on and off throughout our 30 year marriage and what we found is that the awkward threesome scenarios occur with one-offs, or stranger sex. Another "awkward" factor was whether or not I was in the room with my wife as she was enjoying a new guy, or I stayed elsewhere while it went down. We simply didn't know the guy well enough to have casual and loose conversation with him OR afterwards my wife knew she wouldn't want to fuck him again and so was avoiding any conversation leading to a repeat engagement. And inexperienced men sometimes don't know when it's time to leave and how to do so gracefully. It's worse if she hasn't had an orgasm with the guy. Or if he couldn't get it up. THAT leads to some awkward vibes. We prefer that her BFs kiss her goodbye and dress as I'm cleaning her while she enjoys her afterglow - that's our optimum scenario with a new guy. If she liked him, she'll call him later and invite him to our home.
 
We enjoy sexy fun with a guy we know occasionally. While we're having fun it's exciting as hell. After we're done it's always very awkward for me, I'm the husband.

If you are a couple that's into the additional guy type fun or if you are the extra guy for a couple what's it like when you're done, winding down and saying goodbye?

We've enjoyed sex fun with our friend quite a few times, we're pretty comfy together but it's always weird for me when he's leaving.

We can enjoy a dinner at with some friends at our or their home(non sexual), we visit laugh, have conversations. When it's over us guys shake hands, the girls hug, sometimes the girls hug the guys with a kiss on the cheek. We say thanks and leave.
Why is it so different with sex involved ?

We enjoy sexy fun with a guy we know occasionally. While we're having fun it's exciting as hell. After we're done it's always very awkward for me, I'm the husband.

If you are a couple that's into the additional guy type fun or if you are the extra guy for a couple what's it like when you're done, winding down and saying goodbye?

We've enjoyed sex fun with our friend quite a few times, we're pretty comfy together but it's always weird for me when he's leaving.

We can enjoy a dinner at with some friends at our or their home(non sexual), we visit laugh, have conversations. When it's over us guys shake hands, the girls hug, sometimes the girls hug the guys with a kiss on the cheek. We say thanks and leave.
Why is it so different with sex involved
 
My bad,
With my first wife it was her big dick coworker and definitely weird the first time
“ see you guys Monday “ after he dresses pinche her nipple and splits. We played with almost 4 years. After the second meet up he kissed her while massaging her freshly used pussy and bump knuckles with me. “ see you at work” then leaves.

We all had an hour lunch and I only worked less then a 10 minute drive , so there were many lunchtime quickies, talk about weird, dropping them off back at work, they walk with other coworkers as her panties are soaking up his and my cum. It was a weird rest of the afternoon.