The Cuckold Catfish Epidemic and the Need for Standard Verification

[bwcbullpa]

Hello, very experienced bull here with over 10 years meeting cuckolds, hotwives, stags, vixens, swingers, etc.

I want to discuss something that is a major issue with finding people in the lifestyle: an epidemic of cuckolding catfish. Sorry if this is a bit of a rant, but it's something I've thought about for a long time. Anyone serious about experiencing this kink in real life can probably tell you that searching for matches on the internet can be a grueling process filled with dozens of fake replies for every real one. I've found verification an essential step - not optional - in the process to meeting real people. And I've been highly successful for over 10 years in connecting with dozens of couples. In my experience, real couples - even first-timers - are open to verification provided it is safe, secure, and reasonable.

🚩 ...... to verify
🚩 Gives excuses for why they can't verify
🚩 Defensive and/or evasive
🚩 Act insulted when asked to verify
🚩 Wants explicit sexual details before verifying
🚩 Says that you need to verify without them providing the same
🚩 Asks for or provides explicit sexual photos or video, but ...... to provide a verification photo
🚩 Argues that any image can verify their identity

✅ Understands the importance of verification
✅ Respects your time
✅ Respects your requests
✅ Willing to work with you
✅ Both parties verifying at the same time
✅ Discusses ways to verify that make sense for both parties

Verification must be a unique and impossible or difficult to fake method that provides security to both parties. It also must be reasonable, not requiring a lot of effort or technical knowledge. The ideal verification method is easy to understand and accomplish, safe and secure for all parties, impossible to fake, and provides simultaneous verification for everyone.

Tier 1 Verification Methods
These methods are impossible (or nearly) to fake and ensure that both parties verify simultaneously.

• Live video
• In-person, public meet-up

Tier 2 Verification Methods
A decent though less-reliable method. Although unlikely, this could be faked with some effort. Best used as a back-up method in case the first two are unavailable. This also doesn't allow for simultaneous verification, meaning that you could verify with the other person and then be ghosted.

• Unique photo (either holding up a sign or an item selected by the other party to create an image that would be difficult to fake)

What do you think? Do you think verification online is a big deal? What are your best methods? Do you agree or disagree with any of my points?

 

[jaannapolska]

Verification is a huge issue in this era of deepfake, we started to crunch up the paper in our verification photos as those are harder for others to steal and deepfake. Also verification alone doesn't tell you if the couple are really into it or the husband is just a pushy guy.

For us the absolute best verification system is SDC.com - there you are verified by people you meet in person. Of course because you also pay for SDC.com it roots out many immediately. Of course nothing is foolproof and we had the odd person there who is a fake on SDC.com.

 

[wantingnoregret]

I like the idea of using both methods that you listed first use tier 2 and then move on to the tier one

 

[Dumptruckwife]

Hello, very experienced bull here with over 10 years meeting cuckolds, hotwives, stags, vixens, swingers, etc.

I want to discuss something that is a major issue with finding people in the lifestyle: an epidemic of cuckolding catfish. Sorry if this is a bit of a rant, but it's something I've thought about for a long time. Anyone serious about experiencing this kink in real life can probably tell you that searching for matches on the internet can be a grueling process filled with dozens of fake replies for every real one. I've found verification an essential step - not optional - in the process to meeting real people. And I've been highly successful for over 10 years in connecting with dozens of couples. In my experience, real couples - even first-timers - are open to verification provided it is safe, secure, and reasonable.

🚩 ...... to verify
🚩 Gives excuses for why they can't verify
🚩 Defensive and/or evasive
🚩 Act insulted when asked to verify
🚩 Wants explicit sexual details before verifying
🚩 Says that you need to verify without them providing the same
🚩 Asks for or provides explicit sexual photos or video, but ...... to provide a verification photo
🚩 Argues that any image can verify their identity

✅ Understands the importance of verification
✅ Respects your time
✅ Respects your requests
✅ Willing to work with you
✅ Both parties verifying at the same time
✅ Discusses ways to verify that make sense for both parties

Verification must be a unique and impossible or difficult to fake method that provides security to both parties. It also must be reasonable, not requiring a lot of effort or technical knowledge. The ideal verification method is easy to understand and accomplish, safe and secure for all parties, impossible to fake, and provides simultaneous verification for everyone.

Tier 1 Verification Methods
These methods are impossible (or nearly) to fake and ensure that both parties verify simultaneously.

• Live video
• In-person, public meet-up

Tier 2 Verification Methods
A decent though less-reliable method. Although unlikely, this could be faked with some effort. Best used as a back-up method in case the first two are unavailable. This also doesn't allow for simultaneous verification, meaning that you could verify with the other person and then be ghosted.

• Unique photo (either holding up a sign or an item selected by the other party to create an image that would be difficult to fake)

What do you think? Do you think verification online is a big deal? What are your best methods? Do you agree or disagree with any of my points?

I love this idea as we’ve come across so many “fakes” that we’ve basically aborted the site. Just a lot of fake stories, with fake fantasies and picture collecting.

 

[Quarky]

Even asking for some sort of verification when doing tributes is a nightmare!

There are a few decent ones to be fair but few and far between.

 

[Fredposer2017]

We understand your frustrations -- we encounter it too when seeking a male to join us. We strictly adhere to your "tier 1 approach" There will always be at least two video chat sessions to get to know each other and a meet up at a coffee shop or bar before we actually invite them to the bed. We make this process very clear to all potential fuck buddies at the onset. If they don't like it or refuse to do it, we end the conversation and move on. Sad thing is even if chat sessions and meet up goes well we have still been disappointed on a number of occasions, by them not showing up at all or refusing to follow our bedroom rules of play.

 

[504knightstik]

Hello, very experienced bull here with over 10 years meeting cuckolds, hotwives, stags, vixens, swingers, etc.

I want to discuss something that is a major issue with finding people in the lifestyle: an epidemic of cuckolding catfish. Sorry if this is a bit of a rant, but it's something I've thought about for a long time. Anyone serious about experiencing this kink in real life can probably tell you that searching for matches on the internet can be a grueling process filled with dozens of fake replies for every real one. I've found verification an essential step - not optional - in the process to meeting real people. And I've been highly successful for over 10 years in connecting with dozens of couples. In my experience, real couples - even first-timers - are open to verification provided it is safe, secure, and reasonable.

🚩 ...... to verify
🚩 Gives excuses for why they can't verify
🚩 Defensive and/or evasive
🚩 Act insulted when asked to verify
🚩 Wants explicit sexual details before verifying
🚩 Says that you need to verify without them providing the same
🚩 Asks for or provides explicit sexual photos or video, but ...... to provide a verification photo
🚩 Argues that any image can verify their identity

✅ Understands the importance of verification
✅ Respects your time
✅ Respects your requests
✅ Willing to work with you
✅ Both parties verifying at the same time
✅ Discusses ways to verify that make sense for both parties

Verification must be a unique and impossible or difficult to fake method that provides security to both parties. It also must be reasonable, not requiring a lot of effort or technical knowledge. The ideal verification method is easy to understand and accomplish, safe and secure for all parties, impossible to fake, and provides simultaneous verification for everyone.

Tier 1 Verification Methods
These methods are impossible (or nearly) to fake and ensure that both parties verify simultaneously.

• Live video
• In-person, public meet-up

Tier 2 Verification Methods
A decent though less-reliable method. Although unlikely, this could be faked with some effort. Best used as a back-up method in case the first two are unavailable. This also doesn't allow for simultaneous verification, meaning that you could verify with the other person and then be ghosted.

• Unique photo (either holding up a sign or an item selected by the other party to create an image that would be difficult to fake)

What do you think? Do you think verification online is a big deal? What are your best methods? Do you agree or disagree with any of my points?

I would like to see live video verification because the pictures can be faked with the use of a cam girls services. Its sad that there are so many dudes that want to waste time to get off. But as you know, being a bull is a game of patience. You’ve been in the game long enough to where you know when something is off. Raise those instincts 10 fold on this site. Its more of a place for people to share fantasies rather than hookup.

 

[Quarky]

The march of AI won't help either.

Im not a 'bull' or anything but it's hard work getting anyone to verify on here, let alone IRL. It's relatively easy to weed out the BS but the usual methods don't always work. I'll never betray any trust but there are people who will exploit/expose just for the fun of it. No idea why but I've seen it happen.

Seriously, there are a huge amount of 'unaware wives' posted here that lack even the most basic proof of a wedding ring. Doesn't exactly build trust.

Completely agree that this place is very much for the fantasists I've found. Nothing wrong with that as long as you're careful - especially when in a heightened state of arousal.

At least you and others actually do have some success. Shame that not everyone is as honest. But then again, this IS the Internet where people can be whatever they want to be.