At it's hardest, mine is maybe 3 1.2" long and somewhat thick but I've never had difficulty maintaining a het relationship because there's way more to sex than fucking. I've always admired the beauty of a woman's genitalia, complimented lovers and practiced extended oral foreplay and sensual touching. My longtime partner of 31 years (we aren't married) refers to my dick as "your little penis" because that IS an accurate description. We haven't shared intercourse for some twenty-five years because it just didn't work. We ARE in love and she occasionally takes other lovers. We figured out long ago how to make our relationship work.