Can you read and tell me if you think I should still pursue or hang the idea up of getting her to cuckold me or be a hotwife?
It has really been since before we were married since we went to a swing club. We only did soft swap but both of us did oral sex with others.
Before we were married we went to swingers clubs in Paris and a few in the states and we had a sex swing and would roll play constantly and fuck in public and we were wild.
However, we are still relatively kinky, but not quite like we used to be. We still have great sex, but the pandemic I think has caused stress and that stress fucks up the mood for sex. We have never stopped roll playing about her fucking other guys. When she comes, and she is ready to stop fucking, she will talk really dirty and call me another guys name. This has never stopped in our relationship since the beginning.
BUT 3 weeks ago, I got really encouraged again, because I said, "I am serious, I would really actually love it if you fucked another guy" and she asked if she could pick the guy out. I said yes then dropped it.
We got ...... Friday and we took this sex fantasy quiz that says what your fantasies are and then it shows you results. I was disappointed because it did not says she was willing to swing or fuck another guy at all. I said, that I was hoping that she would say she would based upon what she said a few weeks ago. She blew off that she said that a few weeks ago, and said that she absolutely does not want to fuck another guy because she is a mom and married now. This goes to her weird dichotomy of being Italian/Catholic (Not practicing) where the ethic is to never cheat, be loyal to family, and be a total slut in the bedroom for your husband. So mix between old school values and being a wild slut.
She got kind of pissy with me for bringing this up and acted like I was a jerk for to even suggest my wife and we are married, Bla Blah. Then the next morning she said she was sorry for being so pissy about it. However, she didn't then take back her position. She was still sticking to, we are married now, so I don't want to fuck outside my marriage.
I worked with the cuckold consultant a few years back and I am just looking at his personalized plan. I am thinking I went to fast now. I am thinking that I have to strengthen our sex life and intimacy and also also give her the underlying reasons why I want this.
What is weird is that Saturday night, she asked if she could have a personal trainer at home. I think she really wants one. I said, sure if you pic a hot one and have sex with him. She said, "well in that case, do I get to pick the trainer out" and I said "hell yes". Again, she said, "Ok."
I am not sure if I am trying to fit a square peg in a round hole here.
Has anyone ran into lots of rejections by your wife, but then finally got her to fuck another guy? If that is the case, what advise can you give?
Thanks!
Again this is her..