Thank you for your honesty! Yours is a story I 100% believe and believe is very common.We tried me watching, taking photos, videoing, in the beginning. J decided she HATED it.....she was not made to be my private porn star. We quit entirely, even tho she admitted she enjoyed the sex....but not how she felt afterwards. A year later, a guy at work started obviously coming on to her. She was infatuated with bieng pursued, and encouraged him. She admitted it to me before she actually had sex with him (which in her Bill Clinton manner, she describes as penis enters vagina, everything else they did was NOT sex............lol). That was her first affair without me present and only telling me about it later, and she LOVED it!! Like a fish to water.
That is how we have done this since......she has affairs, the guys all think I am unaware, and I never watch, get photos, etc. All have been work related, so there is MUCH to lose on both parts and the cell phones stay off and unused. No sneaky video or photos. Usually its one guy at a time, like with her Boss/Lover, she was totally faithful to him for 11 years (except the 3 times he asked her to "entertain" other Clients).
Works for us, definitely not for everyone. And it can get dicey, because EMOTION is involved in affairs and it has caused some problems over the years. Still together, but there are a few bruises left over.
CW
Did your wife ever hesitate in telling you she was fucking others or was she open and transparent about it?
I was once in a relationship where my fiancee was secretly fucking other men. I knew what she was doing just not exactly where.
Id beg her to tell me. I shared again and again with her that it turned me in to know she was enjoying other men. She believes me.
But nope just lies and pretending she was monogamous.
After I left her she confessed all her fucking around. All I could say was I’d have loved to have been involved, if only to know when and where for her safety.