ALL of my affairs have gone VERY well with the guys thinking I am cheating on hubby for better sex with them, egos I am sure. I tried telling one guy that was hesitant because I was married that hubby was OK with it, he could NOT handle it. RAN like a scared chicken!! It just works better for us this way.
Honestly, I don't believe that anyone picks guys up in bars, etc, and tells them "my hubby has to watch" (or worse he wants to suck your cock) and this every happens or goes well, except maybe with a true Incel.........J (the wife)