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I'm married for 12 years and have had cuck fantasies for 10 of those years. My wife knows the details and uses it as pillow talk to really get me off. We play around with the idea but she isn't so sure about trying other men again. (We did a mmf threesome with a guy 2 times years ago). Her biggest concern is that she worries about getting romantic feelings for a potential lover and my fear is losing her heart. I told her I would share her body with men of her choosing for her pleasure and my enjoyment but only if she'll make it about sex only and maybe a friendship should there be a regular guy. She has concerns about the unknown and so do I. My question to the ladies and men who have a lot of experience is this. What can I do, we do, if anything at all to eliminate the possibility of that happening? Should we try another angle or leave this as strictly a fantasy?
 
I don’t think it’s possible to completely eliminate the possibility. There’s always the risk and it’s up to you two to talk and decide if the experience is something you both will enjoy.

We’ve been sharing my wife with one of her ex boyfriends for years. There have been times where we talked and decided to slow things down for a bit. There has always been ups and downs but we always talk through those to decide what’s best for us.
 
I don’t think it’s possible to completely eliminate the possibility. There’s always the risk and it’s up to you two to talk and decide if the experience is something you both will enjoy.

We’ve been sharing my wife with one of her ex boyfriends for years. There have been times where we talked and decided to slow things down for a bit. There has always been ups and downs but we always talk through those to decide what’s best for us.
Thank you for your response. I agree with you now that I think about it a little more. The possibility is always there. I need to find out what she wants in more detail. Is she truly interested in another lover? Things like that. I think tonight we'll have a chat.
 
Thank you for your response. I agree with you now that I think about it a little more. The possibility is always there. I need to find out what she wants in more detail. Is she truly interested in another lover? Things like that. I think tonight we'll have a chat.
I can relate to your situation. My wife and I have spoken about the same thing, she’s known about my fantasy for over a year now.
She’s really into it when we are having sex and using toys to simulate the fantasy. Then afterwards seems to go cold on the matter. I’m beginning to think just to leave it at fantasy and continue with the role play as she’s happy with that.
I’m interested to see replies to this thread and how your situation evolves. All the best in dealing with this.
 
I can relate to your situation. My wife and I have spoken about the same thing, she’s known about my fantasy for over a year now.
She’s really into it when we are having sex and using toys to simulate the fantasy. Then afterwards seems to go cold on the matter. I’m beginning to think just to leave it at fantasy and continue with the role play as she’s happy with that.
I’m interested to see replies to this thread and how your situation evolves. All the best in dealing with this.
Thank you. I too am contemplating leaving it as a fantasy or finding out if this is a path we can truly walk together on. Her libido has declined which doesn't help when I'm trying to learn more about her thoughts and feelings on sexual topics these days. Sometimes when a person is really turned on, you can find out what really gets them off easier I think.
 
There's always going to be a risk but you can minimize it. You can only do it when away from home, like on vacation and don't do 1 on 1's, have her do gangbangs so that it isn't an intimate thing between your wife and a man. I hope that made sense lol. Hubby's been sharing me for over 20 years with 150+ men. I've done a few 1 on 1s over the years but I prefer multiple cocks at once so it's usually with 3 or more at the same time. I can play alone but it's much for fun having Hubby there so it's rare when I'll do it. Hubby has done it much more often and has had regular side pieces at times but has never turned into an issue that put our relationship in jeopardy. I actually love watching him fuck other woman. I'll masturbate or I'll eat the girl out while he fucks her. As long as I get to clean up the mess, I'm a happy girl, lol.

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I'm married for 12 years and have had cuck fantasies for 10 of those years. My wife knows the details and uses it as pillow talk to really get me off. We play around with the idea but she isn't so sure about trying other men again. (We did a mmf threesome with a guy 2 times years ago). Her biggest concern is that she worries about getting romantic feelings for a potential lover and my fear is losing her heart. I told her I would share her body with men of her choosing for her pleasure and my enjoyment but only if she'll make it about sex only and maybe a friendship should there be a regular guy. She has concerns about the unknown and so do I. My question to the ladies and men who have a lot of experience is this. What can I do, we do, if anything at all to eliminate the possibility of that happening? Should we try another angle or leave this as strictly a fantasy?
If either of you have doubts don't do it. Experiment with toys and other ways to get each other off. If you do decide to move forward with this meet someone from another town or city. This makes continuous contact a little less likely. Jealousy is usually the poison in mfm or full swap. This may seem negative but if you do go forward with this the stimulation and fun can definitely outweigh the negatives. It's not for everyone though.
 
I'm married for 12 years and have had cuck fantasies for 10 of those years. My wife knows the details and uses it as pillow talk to really get me off. We play around with the idea but she isn't so sure about trying other men again. (We did a mmf threesome with a guy 2 times years ago). Her biggest concern is that she worries about getting romantic feelings for a potential lover and my fear is losing her heart. I told her I would share her body with men of her choosing for her pleasure and my enjoyment but only if she'll make it about sex only and maybe a friendship should there be a regular guy. She has concerns about the unknown and so do I. My question to the ladies and men who have a lot of experience is this. What can I do, we do, if anything at all to eliminate the possibility of that happening? Should we try another angle or leave this as strictly a fantasy?
We always do it a fair distance from home, with complete strangers, people unassociated with our regular lives. Friendly, but not really friends, is the ideal I guess.
 
If the guy is a regular and not a one and done type deal feelings are going to be there if they be from the start or eventually grown over time. You and your wife are going to have to have serious discussions to see where you both stand with your relationship as well as when/if she gets involved in relationships with other men. If the guy is a regular that she is going to play with if it be, you are there or not she will get romantic feelings for him. If you are secure enough in your marriage, you will be extremely turned on because the sex is only going to be better between her and who she has romantic feelings for. My wife has had feelings for the guys that she got involved with. My wife currently has a guy that she’s been playing with for a few months and she is in love with him if I like it or not. I feel very secure in our marriage and we have discussed it many times and she has never given me a reason to believe that she would be so in love with this guy that she would leave me for him, but can it happen? Sure . You’re going to have feelings of jealousy, anger followed by feelings of being so turned on that you can’t get enough of watching her with the guy. You are going to see her make love to him, you will hear her tell him that she loves him, you possibly will see her do things with him that she never did with you. She will say things in bed to him that she has never said to you, but if both of you could be on the same page and be secure in your relationship, you can make it work.
Thanks for the details and honesty. I feel like some of that is inevitable too. I believe there needs to be a discussion. A real heart to heart to navigate this together. I think she's afraid more than me so it's likely to remain a fantasy, but hopefully she'll be open and honest with me without trying to spare my ego.
 
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Thanks for the details and honesty. I feel like some of that is inevitable too. I believe there needs to be a discussion. A real heart to heart to navigate this together. I think she's afraid more than me so it's likely to remain a fantasy, but hopefully she'll be open and honest with me without trying to spare my ego.
Yeah. Good things to discuss. What are her fears and yours? Are rhey reasonable? What would she want out if this new, 1/2 open relationship? What is in it for you? One of the things to know is once the djin is out of the lamp, things will never be the same. Unlike wine, you can't recork the bottle.
 
As a general update we had a discussion last night but it didn't get too far. We talked about why I enjoy the idea and how I thought her low libido could be partially attributed to having the same sex each time. I suggested that maybe the feeling of another man inside of her might help to spark a stronger interest in sex in general. She admits that while she was on her cruise that she found this Jamaican gentleman attractive but did not think about the possibility of sex with him. She has concerns about stds and generally doesn't view attraction as an automatic sex interest. So this was some good information to learn straight from the source. She thinks she's weird because she feels different than most people and she isn't sure how to get her libido back up. She does admit that she should be curious about other men but she isn't. I don't know what it all means but we'll see how things unfold.
 
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I'm married for 12 years and have had cuck fantasies for 10 of those years. My wife knows the details and uses it as pillow talk to really get me off. We play around with the idea but she isn't so sure about trying other men again. (We did a mmf threesome with a guy 2 times years ago). Her biggest concern is that she worries about getting romantic feelings for a potential lover and my fear is losing her heart. I told her I would share her body with men of her choosing for her pleasure and my enjoyment but only if she'll make it about sex only and maybe a friendship should there be a regular guy. She has concerns about the unknown and so do I. My question to the ladies and men who have a lot of experience is this. What can I do, we do, if anything at all to eliminate the possibility of that happening? Should we try another angle or leave this as strictly a fantasy?

As other couples and people said, you just can't eliminate all the risks.

Some of the crucial things are the male-friends you both might get involved with. Try to screen guys that are explicitly not looking to girlfriend a married lady and are only up to sex adventures, not romantic ones. Keep it amicable, but plain sexual.

Perhaps you should try some more MMF again before thinking about a hotwife LS. Find some friendly couples to get out and see swing clubs, for example. Try new things that include you both (together) first.
 
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I like regular long term friends and I do not get romantic feelings for them. To me it’s not even a possibility. I don’t go on dates to bars or restaurants, I don’t watch tv/movies with them, no sle ep overs. Those are not our rules, I don’t want any of that at all. We meet, we talk a bit usually over a drink, we have our fun, maybe talk a bit more, then see you next time. It’s a sex friend, that’s all we do together and that’s all we will ever be. I already love my husband and I don’t want a divorce, especially for some guy who fucks married women as a past time. I do like to like them as a friend and have a great time with them but love is not even on the radar. That’s crazy talk, but maybe she’s telling you that she can’t separate the two or that if she does this she will be looking to replace you. I’d definitely talk about why she feels that way. They are living breathing sex toys and I’m the same for them. If a play friend told me he loved me or had real romantic feelings I would never see him again. I simply don’t want anything like that.It’s casual recreational sex for fun, thats it. Why would she think that, that is a mystery to me and probably something you should find out
 
I'm married for 12 years and have had cuck fantasies for 10 of those years. My wife knows the details and uses it as pillow talk to really get me off. We play around with the idea but she isn't so sure about trying other men again. (We did a mmf threesome with a guy 2 times years ago). Her biggest concern is that she worries about getting romantic feelings for a potential lover and my fear is losing her heart. I told her I would share her body with men of her choosing for her pleasure and my enjoyment but only if she'll make it about sex only and maybe a friendship should there be a regular guy. She has concerns about the unknown and so do I. My question to the ladies and men who have a lot of experience is this. What can I do, we do, if anything at all to eliminate the possibility of that happening? Should we try another angle or leave this as strictly a fantasy?
my wife and I had a rocky start to the lifestyle, at times we loved it and at times we felt like we had ruined our marriage. After a few trial and error attempt I discover the best approach that worked for us. I got to learn the type of guy my wife was aroused by so ultimately we made dating profiles were I handled all interactions, I even started knowing her likes better than she knew herself. I would of course get to know the guys first and would tell them that the contact and communication with my wife would be strictly in the bedroom or place where we would meet.
 
my wife and I had a rocky start to the lifestyle, at times we loved it and at times we felt like we had ruined our marriage. After a few trial and error attempt I discover the best approach that worked for us. I got to learn the type of guy my wife was aroused by so ultimately we made dating profiles were I handled all interactions, I even started knowing her likes better than she knew herself. I would of course get to know the guys first and would tell them that the contact and communication with my wife would be strictly in the bedroom or place where we would meet.
Your description completely mirrors our arrangements.
 
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Every couple has to find their own way in the lifestyle. However, if you want your wife to have a LTR boyfriend experience they are going to develop feelings for each other. Nearly all of my relationships have been long term and in most cases she and I fell in love. The relationship between a wife and lover can be incredible in the intensity of the romance, excitement, pleasure and yes, love. No other relationship can match the level of intensity especially when that relationship exists within the triad of the wife-lover-husband dynamic.
Any experienced serious Bull understands this and understands that the unique intensity he is experiencing is only because he is enjoying all this within the marriage. I am not interested in taking your wife away from your marriage, I am interested in taking your wife in your marriage and I will always remind her that this incredible pleasure is happening because the her husband has agreed to her taking her sexual and emotional freedom. He has given her the freedom to explore within the safe space of her marriage. I never take for granted that being invited into a marriage is a privilege.
So, yes she will fall in love but it will not be the love she has for you. Women are emotionally wiser and stronger than men and they are uniquely capable of balancing multiple relationships. Most already do in the wife, ......, grandma, teacher, driver, etc. You will be surprised how easily they add lover to it.
 
Agree with above. We have regulars and guys that my wife had sex with before we met. However she knows what she wants and is mostly after sex with other men to enhance our crazy sex life. If you are intimate with someone for a period of time yes you can develope feeling for them and that is expected. However there is no risk for us as we both know this is happening and we are committed to each other . I know a lot of the guys that have posted have mentioned leaving it at fantasy but they will never experience the incredible bond that you can get from sharing. Not for everyone i know but when you have a marriage with absolutely no secrets and you can explore the realms of extreme sexual gratification, it is certainly worth trying. And yes, you can love more than 1 person at a time.
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Every couple has to find their own way in the lifestyle. However, if you want your wife to have a LTR boyfriend experience they are going to develop feelings for each other. Nearly all of my relationships have been long term and in most cases she and I fell in love. The relationship between a wife and lover can be incredible in the intensity of the romance, excitement, pleasure and yes, love. No other relationship can match the level of intensity especially when that relationship exists within the triad of the wife-lover-husband dynamic.
Any experienced serious Bull understands this and understands that the unique intensity he is experiencing is only because he is enjoying all this within the marriage. I am not interested in taking your wife away from your marriage, I am interested in taking your wife in your marriage and I will always remind her that this incredible pleasure is happening because the her husband has agreed to her taking her sexual and emotional freedom. He has given her the freedom to explore within the safe space of her marriage. I never take for granted that being invited into a marriage is a privilege.
So, yes she will fall in love but it will not be the love she has for you. Women are emotionally wiser and stronger than men and they are uniquely capable of balancing multiple relationships. Most already do in the wife, ......, grandma, teacher, driver, etc. You will be surprised how easily they add lover to it.
Wow, nicely stated, Bull. You just described my wife!