I'd say that if the panties fit, then wear them. I'm a grower NOT a shower, and my "Sissy clit" looks right at home in a sexy pair of panties.
I had strong feminine/Sissy desires long before I met my wife.
While my wife has never actually humiliated me for my desire to wear panties, every time I look down at my "Sissy clit" in my panties (especially when I'm locked in chastity), it serves as a stark reminder of one of the reasons my wife chose to cuckold me in the first place.