Well if any of this is true, my vote is this is probably the textbook way of how not to handle any of this.
The complete and utter disregard for your partners feelings is gross and honestly has me questioning whether or not you ever really had feelings for your partner.
Your attitude, this was already mentioned but I forget who said it, is getting the ok from your husband to renovate the bathroom and then wondering why he is "being so childish" when he came home to find the house demolished, and preparations for an entirely different one under way. All why crying, "It WaS yOuR iDeA tO ReNoVaTe WhY aRe YoU sO uPsEt?!"
This whole lifestyle is built on mutual respect. I have Dom'd women to the point of CnC and even THEN there are stops, immediate and non-negotiable, put in place. You have blown so far past the line it looks like a point to you.
Unfortunately I feel any chance of rectifying this is gone. You were, and are, so caught up in NRE that you can't see the forest for the trees.
I feel for your husband, if he even still is, and hope you work through whatever issues that are causing you to go so overboard.
And to the rest here egging you on, they are so jaded that only an unraveling relationship can apparently get them hard.
I hope this is all fantasy because it is probably one of the more depressing things I have read on here...