Hello, my partner 22f and I 28m have recently opened up our relationship, and I’m just reaching out to talk to others in this lifestyle how their first times went and best way to go about it. We are both anxious and excited.
New to lifestyle, looking for advice!
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Communication is key! You must talk with each other, a lot. If you don’t talk, it will go bad.
I asked my wife to be in this lifestyle. After she had done it the first time, she felt guilty because she enjoyed the experience and he made her cum a couple times while he was sliding in and out of her. Once she figured out I was ok with it, she flourished. We are both enjoying ourselves now.
I asked my wife to be in this lifestyle. After she had done it the first time, she felt guilty because she enjoyed the experience and he made her cum a couple times while he was sliding in and out of her. Once she figured out I was ok with it, she flourished. We are both enjoying ourselves now.
Talk talk and talk. It will be rough sometimes because you know. Feelings happen. Talk.
Take to slow at first, be prepared for a lot of emotions, and be patient with the process of picking a sex partner.
Definitely communication is the key! Sometimes it’s really hard to be honest about your most hidden sexual desires, but trust me if you talk about everything you will have a lot less heartache. Coming out as bisexual to my wife after 18 years of marriage was the hardest thing to get out my mouth, but having got it out I’ve had a lot of hard thing go back in! And not just my mouth lol
Our 1st times was fantastic. I had told her my desire to see her fucked by a big dick. After months of role playing and talking about it during sex and watching porn she had her ex fuck buddy meet us (without telling me til he arrived, so i couldn't back out). She said she waiting long to go thru with it because she was worried my "male ego" couldn't handle being naked next to his HUGE cock. But afterwards we both agreed it was the best decision we ever made, and he is a regular of ours to this day
I concur with the other advice. Communication is the key. I have been fortunate enough to have had two long time couples in the past 13 years. I stumbled across my first one in that her husband brought me back to their table in a hotel bar and we went from there. I never really knew much about the lifestyle before then. My second couple was younger and novices. We constantly sat down and talked and I advised them to continue to communicate as there are times when situations will be tough, scenarios will become a bit overwhelming, and we all have our mind that can create things that may not be reality. So, talk to your wife, have her talk with you and if the boyfriend is a reasonable person and well grounded, then he will encourage, participate in, and sometimes even direct the conversation if he is experienced. Good luck in your pursuits as the ride is extremely exciting.
Being a broken record but communication about likes and dislikes.
Its taken us years of playtime and dirty talk with it to actually do it.
Its taken us years of playtime and dirty talk with it to actually do it.
be prepared to see a whole different side of her.
She might do things with him that will make you wonder why she's not like that with you.
She might do things with him that will make you wonder why she's not like that with you.
NO doubt, communication is key, for sure in any relationship, but ironically, in sexual and intense situations, we tend to let our walls down
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