I 100% support her finding another woman. My wife's issue with getting shy and nervous isn't so much gender specific. She doesn't even like to talk to servers to ask for condiments. She has me do it haha. I try to get her to come out of her shell but she refuses. She likes for me to take lead and get her what she wants. Not in EVERYTHING just things that aren't so important. But standard decision making is not her Forte nor does she want it to be. I talk to her and I listen. I know my wife pretty well and know that she would like to have a third whether they are male or female. She would prefer to try it with a woman first. If women come forward and we are mutually interested I'm all for that, but it's much harder to find a woman interested in this. Men are asking left and right. I'd choose a woman over a man for our first any day because at the end of the day, I am still just a guy and I like boobs.
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If you're pushy for immediate action you may come across too abrasive or desperate. You're going to lose us. 1)This is a first. We are looking to do it right and safe. 2) I have the gold. The prize is mine and I get to look at it, touch it, and taste it everyday. It's MY wife. If you get upset for being put on hold then I'll just drop the call because there are others waiting. I'm not going to get my first message from some stranger I've never seen or heard of and give him the ok to be alone in a room with me and my wife a week from that moment. This takes time. I'm requesting local people because if we do get to meeting, that's all it's going to be. A casual hangout to just see if we all vibe. See if you eat pasta with a fork or your hands. Find out how good you are at skeeball. The first time we meet will probably have ZERO sexual tension. It's just to see if we like you as a person, not a partner.
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She truly is a beautiful woman. I would like to flirt with her I’d she would consider it.
😉 Great posts and I really like seeing my wife and I aren’t the only ones exploring new ideas. I think we’d be more willing to try this out with another couple first, what about you? Is this something to try with close friends or new friends and couples?
would really like to conversation some more, take care and have fun!
I believe you should let her "date" on her terms. Just give her permission and encourage her to explore. That way she isn't feeling pressure with you being present and she can explore and play on her terms. A separate dating life is essential for me.
In your situation I also recommend a QUALITY lifestyle meeting site in order to find compatible others. A "lifestyle club" might be a bit too much because many of them are kind of seedy, but, you could find one and sit back and observe. You could also chat with others who approach you and she could become accustomed to it, especially the girls. If you have the financial resources, you might attend a "non-lifestyle" resort such as a nudist resort, but one that is classy. That way you would be around sexy people and nudity with others would be a bit "normalized" for you. Hidden Beach in Cancun Mexico, Secrets (topless but sexy) and a few others would be VERY sexy and fun for you, without the pressure for sex. Eventually you could advance to Desire Resorts in Cancun (couples only) for lifestyle play if you wish. We have been to Desire RM a few times but honestly, as active as we are in the LS, we have never actually PLAYED there. We just hang out, have sexy fun and if the RIGHT COUPLE or single is found, we would play. We suggest the Bliss Cruise, where there are thousands of lifestyle couples and you can be fully clothed, topless or fully nude if you desire. Tons of hot people and tons of opportunities to play if you want, but no pressure to do so and we believe that many of the attendees don't play at all, but are there for the sexy environment. If you are both on the same page but a bit confused and unsure how to continue, then just have some fun, nude recreation as described above.
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We both have agreed it would have to be new friends not people we are already close to.
I don't believe it has anything to do with pressure from me. I don't stop her or hold her back from anything and because of work I spend more time away from home than I do at home. And I have told her if she finds someone, male or female, to let me know. She has no will to search without me I think. When we browse porn or other sites together she gets frisky and has fun pointing out attractive people though. I think she enjoys it because it is time spent with me since we are apart so much. I understand that one might feel too much pressure from thier SO if they are around and maybe it feels strange to flirt or something if they are nearby. But I know my wife isn't afraid to talk to someone WITH me. I believe sheis more afraid to talk to someone without me.
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Myself and wife are in the same situation as yourselves. We have talked about a third person and while she would like a man she is also very curious and excited to try a women. We would love to communicate with yourselves to begin with and if that goes well perhaps swap some intimate pics etc. Our preference would be not to show faces until we would be comfortable to do so.
I definitely see why you can’t wait for this to happen…she looks hot and open to try new things…good luck
Hello. If you'd like to chat ( or talk dirty 🤭), send us a personal message. We look forward to hearing from you! 😊 (MrsCC)
Hi R&R and everyone. My wife and I aren’t swingers by any means. We’re both professionals and pretty conservative. I’m 51 and she’s 41. Because of some minor health issues the past few years in regards myself, and what we think is maybe an early menopause issue with her, my sex drive went down and her’s went up. My wife has a stressful, corporate job and her being sexually frustrated and irritable all of the time was making both of our lives miserable.
We were in couples therapy. To make a long story short, it became apparent that my wife needed more sex than I could provide for her. We decided to get my wife a bull. Did a lot of research, took awhile to find the right guy, but it is working out so far. My advice is to definitely not take this lightly. Also I strongly suggest not getting neighbors, or friends involved. Our therapist was very adamant about that and so was Jan’s doctor. Her doctor even told her that this is more common than you think, you just have to approach it the correct way. I’d be more than happy to chat with you about more of the details. It just seems that many people rush into this and I’m sure happy we didn’t.
We were in couples therapy. To make a long story short, it became apparent that my wife needed more sex than I could provide for her. We decided to get my wife a bull. Did a lot of research, took awhile to find the right guy, but it is working out so far. My advice is to definitely not take this lightly. Also I strongly suggest not getting neighbors, or friends involved. Our therapist was very adamant about that and so was Jan’s doctor. Her doctor even told her that this is more common than you think, you just have to approach it the correct way. I’d be more than happy to chat with you about more of the details. It just seems that many people rush into this and I’m sure happy we didn’t.
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We definitely aren't rushing into anything. This has been talk for years. Starting as just dirty talk, watching videos together, then talking a little more seriously about it over time getting a feel for how her mood about it has changed. And we have both already agreed that it wouldn't be anybody we already know or see regularly. We know what we want out of it, now I'd like to start searching for the right people.
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