Beaulady, this sire is a great place to start, have her try cyber flirting/ play, and see if she gets turned on. Or have a friend come over and check her out, maybe accidentally getting busted, say you saw it, and it turned you on, that he was turned on, and see what she says. I think the case with a lot of women, is feeling accepted and praised, as well as fear of slut shaming and such, but if you give her constant support, compliment from you and other guys and reward for taking it up a notch so to speak, in my experiences , when she feels comfortable and accepted, she will most likely respond