That’s why we avoid the very busy locations. And it all depends who else is there. If you’re the only couple, you’re going to get all of the attention, which might or might not be a good thing depending on the number of guys. Yes some guys can get a bit demanding but it tends to be self regulating - none of the other guys are going to put up with an idiot who spoils it for everyone. In terms of respectful, some are some aren’t - the language can be anything but, but actually I quite like that. Again, it’s about what you’re happy to accept and again tends to self regulate - no one wants you calling a halt because you’re feeling uncomfortable x
My exhibitionist hotwife loves dogging .
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I guess it's like everything, the first time you do it, you have doubts and nerves, and the more you do it, the more normal it becomes. I think the idea of several guys all demanding attention, and then one feels he's getting less attention that the others and complaining about it, sounds slightly intimidating, but maybe isn't as bad as you'd think it would be. If I see a cock I want to suck, but another I only want to stroke, does the guy not getting sucked become resentful. I guess I might just have to try it out and see.
I don’t think the nerves ever go way completely. I still get butterflies on our way out. But most guys are happy with whatever they can get and they’ll take whatever you’re offering. Some just like to watch and jerk off. If there are other couples, though, there can be competition for guys and the more you offer the more attention you’ll get!
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I think it's simply a slightly different angle to the essentially same old fundamentals around sex... ultimately the woman is in control (with support of hubby/bf/partner/Dom) . . . as always, it's about taking care of HER core sexual needs, whatever they may be (and that can be a VERY broad canvas as I'm sure you are happily aware) - so basically, as the woman looking to enjoy several cocks, it is generally accepted and understood that ultimately You call the shots... if I guy get's jealous because you want to swallow another's cock but only stroke his - well, look at it like this, getting his cock stroked by a beautiful woman you is actually way better than having to do it himself, so he's already a winner... coz if he doesn't like it he can fuck off and sort himself out :- as Lynne suggested, don't worry too much about some being jealous, this is for YOU, so you just have to own it and please yourself however that may be, obvs sometimes that involves pleasing others and that's fine, but YOU get to choose those others.... and of course you will be supported by hubby and the other fellas in this... just make your ground rules clear and confidently OWN it... 😊😊🙏🏼
some are rude and assume that because you are there u are meat to be used. It can can awkward if men forse themselves forward and grab and finger. This happens more if out of the car, like having bent my wife over a picnic table. You have to be careful. Up to 4 or 5 is fine but if it gets to 10+ it gets scary. If you have an old car that you use for dogging then staying in or close to the car is better and then spunk stains are not such an issue on the upholstry and you can drive away if things get awkward. Unlike normal meets, it is safer with dogging for the husband not to join in fully. Keep clothes on, film, oversee condom use and be ready to close things off
BigSkies
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One cautionary proviso of course.... a group, small or not so small, of strangers who are coincidentally there for the same basic goal is not the same as a gang group of associated men all out all together on the hunt are two quite different things.... dogging with an established group is conceivably not necessarily such a good idea... may be fine, but just not worth the chance... as always, sensible precautions and take care . . . stay safe 🙏🥰
I’d agree with that. A couple of mates turning up together is one thing. A van full of guys very much another and a definite red light! Get back in the car and find somewhere else.
My wife and I have been out of the game for a couple years. We started out as swingers and moved more towards wife sharing or MFM towards the end. We were in those lifestyles for a little over 10 years. We moved about 3 years ago and haven't had any action since. I have started to miss it and have been trying to encourage her to get back in but she has been reluctant. She says she didn't want to put in the work of having to develop all new relationships just for sex. I continue to bring it up from time to time in hoping she will change her mind. Recently, I brought up dogging and it has seemed to spark a bit of an interest in her. She at least had a lot of questions about it. To my surprise, she hadn't heard of it before and was intrigued. I wouldn't say she is ready to try it but may be moving in that direction. This post has been helpful as some of her fears were addressed here. She is concerned about how many guys would be there and would it get out of control. She also has concerns of overly aggressive guys. While old and out of shape isn't necessarily a problem, she does want to have some say in who participates. Sweaty guys isn't a problem per se, but unclean guys would be. Poor hygiene would be a huge turn off.
The thing I never understood about dogging is the staggering amount of risk people are willing to take just to get off, and by risk I mean the risk of STDs. You have no idea who those people will be, or where they've been. Better to put in the time to get to know someone a little and make sure they're clean. Just my $0.02.
Hotwives take those sorts of risks all the time. All I know is that in all my time, many, many years of mostly unprotected sex, I've never had an STD at all. To be fair, not very often with total strangers, but even so there is always a bit of risk. But I get the point you make.
Understood. For any type of intercourse we would insist on a condom. In our history, with the exception of a few close friends we trusted, condom use was a requirement. I honestly don't think it will happen anyway. Her concern of losing control of the situation I think is a little to great. We have heard stories of guys walking in and being pretty aggressive. That scares her a little too much. It's fun to fantasize and perhaps we can find a situation we feel safe enough to try while minimizing the risk.
I have at least two friends who weren't even promiscuous but still caught herpes, and that's a lifelong problem. No getting rid of that with a pill.
So yeah, having a gaggle of random dudes come up to you in a carpark and no condoms? That's just playing russian roulette with your health, IMHO.
I would love to try this but I don't think my hubby would approve 
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