Personality can make a big difference, I take good care of myself and try to stay in decent shape and avoided woman with too much weight but learned that some of those women do try to take care of themselves but their bodies accumulate weight regardless. I was surprised not long ago when I played with a hotwife that was a bit overweight but because of the chemistry and connection we established from the very start we decided to play. She gave me more than I could expect, it was super amazing and learned not to exclude wives that I typically did not consider sexy. Everyone have something to offer, it's important finding out what that is, usually you can tell in the first 30 minutes of conversation....I've also been with very fit wives that really didn't impress me at all and it was their bodies, not the chemistry that I appreciate the most...my two cents, lol